Suddenly I feel lonely and confused, in society, are people really so selfish? I m so tired!

Hello landlord: 1. Loneliness is God's reward for yourself, confusion is that you are looking for the right direction, and you find that selfishness is because you are open-minded. 2. There are two sides to everything, and growing up means that you have to absorb your own nutrients.

3. Tiredness is because it is in the fatigue period, and crossing it means a new life.

Selfishness and self-centeredness are human nature (and do not think it is right), and the fundamental mistake of human beings is to take someone or something as the purpose and value of life.

And the people and things of the world are temporary, limited, false, and unreliable.

When these things are changed or lost, people are not only lonely and hopeless, but also.

Despair, not to mention that people need not only material things, but love, life, eternity and direction.

In society, there is an undercurrent in the workplace, people do not destroy for themselves, the society is very cruel, as long as interests are involved, people's selfishness will be undoubtedly revealed, so people in sociology is not to protect themselves, but how to live.

Who can really understand people's hearts, live well, even if it is selfish to live for the people around you, don't worry too much, when you can't figure it out, it's better to follow the rules, eat, sleep, and play. Hee-hee, I wish you a good day. If you have time, you can come to my space and have a look, come on.

When I didn't step into society, I always thought how wonderful the outside world was.

When I stepped into this real society, I realized that it was so difficult to think that everything was good.

Especially the greed of human nature

Everyone is a little selfish! Including you! It's just that you can't detect it.

Actually, you're not that lonely, you still have your relatives in Ah Friends, talk to them.

When everyone has feelings and goes into the wrong place, the key is to try to grasp yourself.

First of all, you have to be clear that you are now in adolescence, which is also an important period for a person to build his character, and this phenomenon of yours is actually very common, and there are people around me like you. All you have to do is to get rid of all the worries in your heart, such as the fear that others will ignore you or offend people by speaking. The most important thing you should do is to take the first step, be brave enough to talk to the people around you, smile at them, and maybe something different will happen.

Also, if you have any ideas, you can talk to your parents, don't be embarrassed, you have to understand that if you don't untie the knots in your heart, you will feel that everything around you is meaningless, just like what you said, it feels like you have been abandoned. It seems to me that it is not someone else who abandons you, but yourself. You have to believe in everyone, but also in yourself, everyone is willing to be friends with the people around them.

There are many things that you have to do at the beginning, and if you miss them, it will be more difficult.

You didn't make good classmates and friends at the beginning of the first year, and now you are almost the third year of junior high school, so now you have given people the impression that you don't like to talk and don't like to deal with people, and it will be relatively difficult to change. You think, you are usually low-key, and you are suddenly lively, which doesn't scare others, thinking that you are nervous

Of course, there is a saying that things are done by people. You can get alive with your table mates first. Of course, you also have to know that you can't be active if you want to, you get together, and people may not take care of you, so you have to be mentally prepared.

With mental preparation, it can be implemented. I think there are always a few people in your class who are crazy, you can play with them, just play on the surface, not necessarily looking for a confidant, of course, you have to feel like-minded and can make deep friends in the later contact.

Remember that sentence and be mentally prepared that not everyone will like you, and likewise not everyone hates you.

Also, it's not a one-hit success, so if you don't succeed after trying, come back to me and talk to me.

Why a flower is beautiful, why a person is popular, that's what you think, that's what he thinks, and the thing itself is simple. Clothes are clothes in themselves, just wear them, if you think that all your temperament can only be worn by Prada's clothes, life is life, you can't find the beauty of loneliness, then you should be brave. Slowly, from the moment you enter the school gate, give yourself a mental hint that today will be a good day or a cool day, if you really think so, slowly you will find that what you have is what you want.

Don't ask.

You can try to take the first step and let them understand you and accept you.

Deliver with your heart! Talk to me!

Let's travel, take a break, see nature, I hope it can help you.

Here's a blog I've written, you see, maybe it will be useful. As you said, I am also one of the many college students who have just graduated from the school, and I have worked in four shifts and three shifts in the workshop, but now I am a salesman, and I want to do a good job, not only do the existing work in the work, but also think more and innovate more. Don't feel like you have no merits, no strengths.

Don't really give up on yourself. You can say I'm a good waiter when you're serving the plates, then that's the plus, that's the confidence. Another point is that when you can't find a good job, don't not work, you can get a job first and then choose a job, don't say that you can't go this way, that road can't go through, it can't go because your own willpower is not strong enough, your efforts are not enough, and you have to persevere.

We can accept the humble and undignified job when we just graduated, but we can't accept the life of not thinking about progress in the work, and not wanting to try to make ourselves learn more knowledge, study more evidence, and think more. When you're successful, no one cares if the platform you're standing on is high or low, whether it's stepping on a giant or a garbage head. In short, you broke out of the cocoon into a butterfly and stood up gorgeously.

Even if you are serving dishes, you must have the idea of striving to be a supervisor and a lobby manager, otherwise even if you have a high starting point in life, you will always have to stand still. The most important thing is to have strong willpower. Let those who have denied you look at you with admiration, give yourself confidence, and give yourself a better future.

You should look to the future and not cling to the past. It's been so long, and she has a new life of her own. If you go back, if she has a boyfriend or something, it's not good to misunderstand her.

There are always too many things to decide.

Return, fate can't be easily given up, how can you know if you don't try!?

Do temporary work to make some easy money.

Are you a man or a woman? It's good for the man to find a girlfriend, and for the woman to find a boyfriend.

Everyone has a reason to support themselves to do it, that is, the reality, the people around you, everyone will do it without hesitation, feel that you should still face the reality, face the world, what is true in this world, not to satisfy you, but not to let yourself fall behind others, will not be worse than others, and then work hard, there will be no emptiness,

Since you can't change this society, then you can change yourself to adapt to society! Reality is cruel! People live sometimes involuntarily!

Actually, I think the best way is to think about the good side, or divert your attention, you focus on your work, think about what you eat at noon, maybe what you eat at night will have a motivating effect.

Smile for tomorrow. Of course, there are still many people in this society who can't think about it, and to say that the chairman has things that he can't think of, and scientists can't think of problems, and sages and philosophers have thoughts about life. To put it mildly, you are a person who can't think about it.

Thinking is the embodiment of their material affluence and spiritual life reaching a certain level. Maybe they are thinking openly just to satisfy their vanity. And people who can't think about it are more practical, focusing on real life, you know how to cherish and pursue, and if you know melancholy, you will understand the crisis.

The feeling of being tired is that you care too much about what others think and are not good enough for yourself. You have to live for yourself in order to live a more wonderful life!

No matter how frustrating real life is, sometimes life is like this! But despite this, we all have to face it calmly! Don't feel what others are, learn to feel others!

Perhaps there is no one who does not feel that life is sometimes helpless! Yesterday is a thing of the past, we must learn to treat tomorrow beautifully!

There are two main categories of human feelings: love & fear.

Love should be easy, but I'm afraid it's very tiring.

And one of the prerequisites of love is to love yourself.

I have heard the saying that the person who loves the most is the most selfish person.

It's weird. But it's not wrong to think about it.

I'm just mentioning it, and it's okay if you don't agree.

I really recommend that you read more books, not only to relax a little, but also to find a way to become happy.

Dale Carnegie, for example, has a book, "How to Stop Worrying and Start Living."

There is a three-step process to get rid of your troubles.

1.Analysis makes a decision on the worst-case outcome.

2.Allow yourself to accept the worst.

3.Try to find ways to improve.

This book is very old, but it is really a classic.

So, if really tired.

Just let it go.

If this were to happen to me, I would probably be more upset than you. However, I would like to make two points in response to what you said.

1.Let's take a different stance and see if it is a weakness in our character that has brought us to where we are today. For example, dependencies. Women must have rights! If there is no right, at least independence.

2.Calm your heart, your heart is a mirror. Look at the mountains are mountains, and look at the water is water. On the contrary, it may be a haha mirror, and the world in the mirror is distorted.

When the Seven Fairies married Dong Yong, she put away the immortal skills she had, and was willing to endure hardships to live an ordinary life, she made very big concessions and compromises; Obviously, your boyfriend also idealized you as a Seven Fairies on this particular day, but he doesn't have Dong Yong's generosity and persistence, and he wants more than he pays. I feel tired because you really think of yourself as a Seven Fairies, originally I didn't have any fairy arts and still had someone to rely on, but you have paid too much love, and you have been seriously overdrawn, making it difficult for you to bear.

If he's been in this state for no reason, then what else can you expect? Let's disperse. If it's just a sudden occurrence for a while, then you have to try to understand the reason, so that you can prescribe the right medicine, and then spend it gently and virtuously with him...

There is actually no reason to love or not, once love is attached to too many reasons, it will become a burden, a pain, if you don't let go of the person who doesn't love you, you won't get the person who loves you, the right time, meeting the wrong person, is a sadness.

Then make it easy for yourself, there is nothing wrong in the world.

Let's find another one, such a good girl is so unlucky.

If he can't change the things you can't tolerate, you won't be happy, how can you spend your whole life like this?

I care too much about you, trust me, give up. With a good girl of this character, only you are willing to contact other people, and there are too many people who will be willing to take good care of you. When you really give up, maybe you will be miserable for a short time, and it will really be a new world with you.

Don't pay attention to him, real love is not to ask for it, only to give, he is not suitable for you, if the two of you become in the future, 3 days and 1 small quarrel, 5 days of a big quarrel is not good for anyone, it is better to break off early to give each other more time!

This kind of unsociable personality is really difficult to deal with. I am afraid of being lonely and want to make friends, but I can't find a confidant. At this time, it would be much better if someone could listen to you.

If there is no one to talk to, then find something for yourself to fill your emptiness, but this is not a long-term solution, after a long time, the silt will never be able to dissolve again.

How can I make myself fit into the crowd, not be alone, and have strong social skills?

1.Pay attention to the cultivation of good conduct. Socializing is a communication between people, and if a person's conduct is not good and he avoids it, then it is difficult to socialize.

Therefore, it is most important to cultivate good character in children. Including love of cleanliness, neat dress, generosity and civility, politeness, no foul language, standing like a loose, standing like a clock, walking like the wind, etc. Gradually becoming a cultivated, magnanimous, and personable person is the primary factor for social success.

2.Practice more. It is not enough to just talk on paper, the key is to practice more. Try to participate in as many social activities as possible, such as sports days, outings, volunteer work, etc. It is not only a social exercise, but also allows children to learn a variety of social methods in the activity.

3.Try to get in touch with different types of people and master the skills of interacting with people with different personalities. You can meet more people, you can learn some knowledge in movies, so that children can meet more types of people and learn more communication skills.

Problem Analysis:

Hello, according to the situation described, it is mostly because of the lack of self-confidence in the personal psyche. Not good at socializing, going out less, less contact with the outside world, in addition, lack of self-confidence, do not know how to make friends, resulting in psychological emptiness, resulting in psychological distortion. In this case, extreme ideas tend to arise.

Opinions and suggestions: usually study more, enrich your knowledge, improve self-confidence, communicate more with the outside world, participate in more collective activities, be funny with yourself, you can also communicate with the outside world, treat people with heart, do things with heart, don't be too pessimistic, friends are made with heart, so think about it calmly.