What is it like to meet someone who is lukewarm to yourself

When I was in high school, I met someone who was lukewarm to me, and many times always didn't talk and didn't have any fun, and we ended up parting.

I must be restless in my heart, so we must find a way to communicate reasonably with the other party, if the other party has no relationship with us, it is better to get together and disperse, otherwise lukewarm and hot will end up in cold violence.

Maybe it's because your partner doesn't like you so much, so he is lukewarm to you, otherwise he would have been shushing you for warmth.

I would feel depressed and distraught because I didn't know why he was doing this to me.

Talk about some favorite topics, girls generally like clothes, bags, cosmetics, lipstick, chat about something interesting, occasionally come to some romance, give some small gifts, and take them sooner or later.

Friends think he is very sensible, very obedient, and he gives you face outside. In fact. You know he doesn't seem to love you much.

Our Lady has an overweight mentality. Yes, in this relationship, I often play the role of the Virgin, trying to save him who is as immature as you and doesn't love you, so I have tolerance and unwillingness again and again, like a helpless but stupid mother who insists on saving her son who hates iron and steel. As a result, he won't change the slightest bit for you because he doesn't love.

I can never figure out what the other party is thinking, I am suspicious all day long, I make myself nervous, and I can't find any sense of security in this relationship.

I once met such a person, in fact, he was not lukewarm to me at first, but then the feeling changed, a few years, still can't let me go, I call him Xiao Guan Er. A few years ago, when I was working as a warehouse supervisor in an e-commerce technology company, the company had an HR, which sounded like HR, in fact, he did everything, because it was a start-up company, basically one person wore many hats, including myself, there was no finance at that time, I not only had to manage the warehouse, but also do finance, and merchandising, because the warehouse had to send a large number of goods, and I had only one person, and this person was not very smart, I didn't know how he got in at the time, so I didn't get the goods out until late every time, In fact, I basically did it alone, because that person did something wrong, for fear of making a mistake, and being even more annoyed, so I simply sent him away, and then I became a light commander for a long time, but there are so many things, someone has to do it, and after reporting to the boss, I arranged this HR to help me. After getting along for a long time, I found that he was a person who was a gentle personality and very good talker, as long as it was something that others asked him to do, he could always complete it in a very reliable and timely manner, giving people a very reassuring feeling.

But later, in the continuous communication, I realized that it was just my wishful thinking.

I have a friend who loves her boyfriend so much that she can ignore everyone around her for him. Once at a friend's party, the man also came, and when we ordered, the embarrassment came, and every time we ordered a dish, as long as there was or could contain onions, my friend would interject and say, "Why don't we order another dish, my family doesn't like onions." Then he begged us secretly with a look of please.

What surprised us the most was that this man looked cold throughout the whole process (not a personality problem, it can be seen from listening to him pick up **), "Whatever!" "Whatever you want! This is the word he says most often in conversations with my friends.

Even invisibly radiate to those of us around us, you can imagine how depressed we ate that meal, absent-mindedly echoing our friend's one-man show, but also a little distressed her. When we meet someone who is cold and hot to us, at least we must not humble ourselves to the point of losing ourselves! Be an excellent self, if he still doesn't have you in his eyes, learn to let go and turn around decently.

There is no him in the distance, but there is still a view!

I've been in this situation before! My ex-girlfriend was of this genre before! It took us forty days from the time we met, when we came together, to before and after we broke up!

Actually, it's not that I don't like her, but because she is hot and cold to me, and she ignores me! For a while, she quarreled with me at every turn because of some trivial things, and then deleted my WeChat, and there was no big contradiction before and after, but she had to ignore people, hold hands with me when she was happy, and delete my WeChat when she was unhappy! Later, she deleted my WeChat three times, and each time I coaxed her, but she was still like this, sometimes she was good to me and sometimes ignored me!

After a period of getting along, I completely lost confidence in her, and on the day I was going to break up, I asked her if she was really not going to have a relationship with me, and after getting her affirmation, I was completely dead to her! We haven't been in touch since, and despite always thinking about it, we put her down! My personal opinion on such a situation is:

Since she doesn't know how to cherish it, then why bother to entangle, cut through the mess quickly, early pain is better than constant pain! As the saying goes, falling out of love is to make way for true love! Only by seeing the facts can we find the final belonging!

In such a relationship, a person will slowly have a feeling of melancholy, and such a person is obviously a cheerful and lively person, since then let himself close the extravagant hope of love, so that his life can not find a harbor of love, there is no sense of security at all, this is the relationship of two people, a burden of a person, will always make a person lose his true youth, and catch his true love at a good age. I've been dating him for six years, and I hope he slowly changes his opinion of himself. But in the end, he still found out that it was just his own contribution, and he didn't love himself after all.

It's better to let go of yourself, and then you will be liberated.

Wishful thinking, a lot of love is tragic. No matter how much you pay for him, she will not be satisfied. If you don't like it, you don't like it, and sometimes you're always afraid of losing.

Because there is more love, it leads to the unequal love in the relationship between the two parties. When you are afraid of losing, you are already in a low position in a relationship, and you are in a low position in this relationship, and you will gradually show a pug-like please in this relationship. But he didn't get the mercy of the other party.

So I want to tell you this question, there will always be a time when love fades in love, I think plain is the truth of this life, if you and your object are lukewarm, I think you can live a lifetime, because he didn't say goodbye to you at the coldest time, she means that he will stay with you for a long time, I think it's quite good, not everyone can endure loneliness, not everyone can be like your object, I think you can live with him for the rest of your life, so one of the things you should do now is to get along with her and him for a lifetime.

It doesn't matter if he's lukewarm or not, he just needs to know how to live and be responsible for his family, and it's his personal character that determines the situation, sometimes he really doesn't like it, if he is a person with such a character, he can live a lifetime, because he will always be the same.