I hesitate to have a second child or not

Whether you want to have a second child, look at these three points first!

If you hesitate, it means that you are ready to welcome a second child, if your conditions allow, in fact, the second child is a very good thing for the current family, and it is a great thing to give the child a sister who grows up together.

I think that if the family's economic conditions allow, and Dabao also wants to have a younger brother or sister, he can choose to have a second child, which will bring more laughter and laughter, and Dabao is not so lonely.

You can have a second child, because two children are really the best thing to rely on, and it will also make your family happier.

Can you look at your own economic conditions, energy, etc., do you have strength? If you have the strength, you can have a second child, after all, the country also encourages the birth of a second child, and it can also let the eldest have a younger brother or sister.

My husband is a daughter slave, and when I gave birth to my daughter, we agreed that we would never give birth again, just one.

But since my daughter entered the kindergarten, I have been yelling at me every now and then to give her a sister or brother, I thought that the child was just a sense of curiosity and did not hang on the friend's heart, something happened last week, which made me feel quite touched, and my heart began to waver, and I wanted to have a second child!

The weather was very good that day, the temperature was suitable, when school was over, there were two children in their class pushing their little brothers, and the daughter and the two children were playing very well, so they came over to see the little baby in the cart, happily and surprisingly touched the little baby's little hands, and was happy, listening to her two classmates introducing their little brothers to each other, the girl lowered her head and walked away silently, full of frustration!

I hugged my daughter and asked her what was wrong, she said with tears in her eyes: "I really want you to give me a baby, brother or sister, I like it very much, I will help you take care of the baby together".

I told my daughter about my concerns, I was worried that after having a baby, I would spend less time with you, and I might not have enough time to tutor you with your homework and make delicious food for you in the future! Unexpectedly, her daughter said, "Mom, I've already prepared, I don't need your tutoring now, and I won't need it in the future, and I don't know how to do the questions, and Dad!" I can play on my own, and I will take the baby with you, so that you don't have to worry about not being able to accompany me, so that when the baby grows up, we can play together, and I won't be alone when you clean up the house".

Thinking about it before and after, my daughter really seems to be preparing, starting from the second semester of entering the kindergarten, the homework is done by herself [love to read picture books, there is a lot of literacy, you can read the questions by yourself] After doing it, she packed her schoolbag and desk! When I cook, she plays with toys by herself, washes up at night, sleeps by herself, and I am busy with my own!

But having a second child, there are really too many concerns, first of all, I am 38 years old, belonging to the advanced age, the risk of advanced maternal age, and the girl will be in the first grade in September, this year to prepare her for school to be cautious, at present my father is still hospitalized**, I have to go to the hospital several times a week to deliver meals to my parents, if I am pregnant, once the pregnancy reaction is big, these things are difficult to complete!

But thinking about my father's hospitalization last year, I was busy alone, and I was anxious [at that time, my brother was on a business trip in the field, and I couldn't come back during the special period], and I was worried that my daughter would have no one to help her in the future, and it would be too hard.

After I told my husband my thoughts, my husband said that my parents-in-law are also very supportive, and if we have a second child, they will all come over to help us pick up our daughter and take care of the diet and daily life!

Hearing my husband say this, my heart is becoming more and more shaken and I want to have a second child, but when I calm down and think about it, I have brought my daughter in the past six years, there are ups and downs, and I really don't want to go down this road again!

I'm starting to struggle again, whether to have a second child or not!

I think I should have a second child, because two children are a good combination, and it can also make my family atmosphere better.

I think whether or not to have a second child depends on whether you like it or not, and you also have to consider whether your financial strength can afford to have a second child.

You can choose whether you want to follow the trend according to your own situation, and if your family economic situation and your own experience time are more sufficient, you can ask for it.

Benefits of having a second child:

Generally speaking, a child with a second child is better and healthier than a first, and besides, two children also have a playmate. Regardless of the son and daughter, it is very good. In the future, when they are older, their children will be able to share the responsibilities.

Later you will understand that two is better than one, and it is better to be born early than later. So that the first child is not alone. Especially for some parents of only children born in the 80s, as an only child, they feel that they have always been lonely and lonely since they were young, and there is no one to share joy and heart.

It's not lively and fun at all, and I envy others who have brothers and sisters. Therefore, I always want my child to have a companion, which is better than being alone, and when I grow up in the future, I can help each other, and I can also have multiple relatives and relatives, and move around more.

Disadvantages of having a second child:

The burden on families has become heavier. From birth, to college, it costs money, and it costs a lot of money, milk powder always has to be bought, others go to early education classes, training classes, whatever, it is estimated that it is also a lot of money, as well as food, clothing, housing and transportation. Maybe I had planned to save some other money, and I had to take it out to raise my children.

After giving birth to a second child, mothers will not be as careless as before when buying cosmetics and clothes.

You have to pay more in terms of time and energy. The husband has to go to work, and he supports the family by himself, and he has to take care of the study and life of the older children, and he has to take care of the younger children. Every day is busy and dark, and I don't have time to comb my hair, let alone have my own rest time, serve my children 24 hours a day, and I can't eat enough to sleep well.

Affect the standard of living and quality of life of the family. Originally, the family planned to take some money to travel and play, and then after having a second child, it was impossible to go out. The burden of life has increased, and parents who are working have to work hard to earn money to support their families.