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Anonymous users2024-02-09<>'s big mother". It is said that the sadness and relief of the parents are mixed with the complex feelings, because from childhood to adulthood, parents arrange the life of their children single-handedly, watch the children grow up little by little, and realize their dreams step by step according to their expected life trajectory, very happy, just like the crops that have been planted so hard are about to mature and ready to be harvested. However, at this time, there were unforeseen circumstances, and the crops had undergone certain mutations due to various factors, and they did not grow normally according to the laws that had always been, and they grew into another appearance.
It's the same with raising children.
When we are very young, we don't have a sense of independence, we don't have our own ideas, and when we encounter problems, our parents help solve them, and then we have the protection of our parents, so we don't have to think too much. The soldiers came to their parents to block it, and the water came to cover their parents. Carefree and do everything according to the wishes of the parents.
As I grow older, I grow up day by day, I am exposed to more things, I have my own ideas, and with the asymmetry of information acquisition and acceptance, the generation gap between me and my parents will slowly get bigger and bigger, and I will have different opinions with my parents about the same thing. When I was young, I would listen to my parents, and what my parents said they would do was what they did; It's different when we grow up, our stubbornness and twisting, as well as our insistence on our own ideas, will make our parents feel more and more headaches. When we grow up, we will be more firm in our opinions, and even if our parents disagree, we will find ways to convince them.
At this time, the parents will have a deep sense of powerlessness, and then let out a deep sigh, "The child is too big to be a mother."
Parents are sad that their children are not"Obedient"can no longer plan their children's lives according to their own ideas; Thankfully, the child has his own opinions, and when he grows up, it may be better for the child to live according to his own ideas.
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Anonymous users2024-02-08It probably means that when he thinks that you have an independent mind and will, he can't change your mind and will, because when you were a child, parents actually have a certain desire to possess a child, and they want their children to find the direction they want to grow up, but 99% of parents will be unsatisfactory, their children will be affected by their influence, and other factors will affect the influence of society, the influence of school, the influence of classmates, will have a profound impact on their children, And this allows their children to begin to have their own thoughts, their own wills.
After all, in the eyes of parents, children are always the youngest, so he actually treats you as a child in his heart, but in fact you have grown into a person with your own independent will, so he firmly treats you as a child, but if he can't control your behavior, he may feel a little helpless, which is like parents raising children, hoping that he will go further, but worrying that he will go further, So it is in such a tangled environment that your parents will say such things as you should relax, they have always loved you.
Don't think too much, don't guess too much, because your parents will always love you the most, they will not harm you, so there is nothing to worry about and fear.
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Anonymous users2024-02-07It means that when children grow up and have ideas and opinions, they will not listen to the opinions and requirements of adults and elders. The "son" in the text generally refers to the younger generations such as children, and the "mother" generally refers to the elders such as parents.
Source] Qing Xi Zhousheng "Awakening Marriage Biography".
The eightieth thing Qin Pei Jiu said: "Don't say that I am his concubine."
I'm his mother, he's not a big child, and I can't control him. ”
**With the story of a life karma and revenge as a clue, the two major symptoms of social darkness in the late Ming Dynasty and the early years of the Qing Dynasty - corrupt officialdom and shallow world style have been dissected, and it is a very outstanding ancient Chinese world**, which is outstanding in shaping characters and sorting out stories.
Similar sentences: "The female university does not stay". Source: Jin Dong Jieyuan's "The Legend of the West Chamber".
Volume 6: "Hugh wrinkled, as the saying goes: 'Women don't stay.'" ’”
Interpretation: It means that the daughter is an adult and must marry in time, and it is not appropriate to stay at home for a long time, and she cannot keep it. Parents and elders sometimes criticize their daughters for being outsiders.
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Anonymous users2024-02-06"The son is not the mother" means that the son has grown up, and the mother cannot be the master.
From the eighty-ninth chapter of Qing Xi Zhousheng's "The Legend of Marriage in the Awakening World": "Don't say that I am his concubine, I am his mother, he is not a mother, and I can't control him." ”
The Legend of Marriage in the Awakening World is a long story written by Western Zhousheng in the late Ming and early Qing dynasties. **Based on the story of a marriage between two generations of life and revenge as a clue, it makes a penetrating dissection of the two major symptoms of social darkness in the late Ming Dynasty and the early Qing Dynasty - corrupt officialdom and shallow world style, which is a very outstanding ancient Chinese situation**.
There are 100 chapters in the book, the first 23 chapters describe the marriage in the past life, and the 23 chapters focus on the marriage in the present life. It is outstanding in its kind in shaping characters and sorting out stories.
Boys grow up inseparable from the "mother".
In the book Raising a Boy, it is mentioned that there are three important stages in the development of a boy: early childhood, adolescence and adolescence.
Boys' behavior, personality and psychological development characteristics are different at different stages of growth, so the parent's education style should also be different. In the eyes of boys, the role of a mother may be more special than that of a father.
First, my mother is the "closest person" who brought me to the world, and she has a deep bond with herself; Second, the mother is the one who boys have the most contact with the opposite sex when they grow up, laying the "cornerstone" for them to establish an intimate relationship with their future partner.
If it's good, no matter how rich you are, you should give 2,000 as a matter of course, wait for him. When they are old, you will raise them when you have earned money, and this is it. And you and your parents' love to make it clear to your wife, if there is a condition, your parents have to pay for the migration, if you don't have the conditions, communicate with your wife well, and say that it is not easy for your parents, they are all old, let's. >>>More
There are no parents in the world who are not, no one is perfect, you have not been a mother, so you don't know what it feels like, there are no parents who don't love their children, unless it's what they do that makes their parents too disappointed and desperate, I used to be the same as you, I always thought that my parents were not good to me, I had to say everything, I had to take care of everything, I really wanted to let myself go, I am married now, I understand the hard work of my parents, so I have to work hard now to repay my parents' love for me, if a person does not make achievements, nothing will be done, I don't want to do anything, who will like it, your parents won't be with you for a lifetime, now your parents are still there, if you need their help, you can help, and when your parents are gone, who are you going to look for. I don't want you to regret your attitude towards your parents at the beginning, think about it calmly, take a hard look at what everyone said to you, and think about what you should do.
Although I am only 16 years old, my family is also like this, I understand your heart very well, but there is nothing we can do, we can only calm down, talk to your mother, or find relatives to help persuade your mother, women are like this, no matter how bitter they are, they just blindly accommodate him and tolerate him. I am also helpless when I encounter such a family, we can only make suggestions, but the implementation can only be them, we can't help anything. >>>More
Love is two people to understand each other's character, family, living environment, way of processing, values, etc., from what you said, she values how much money you save, she should save more than you, or the standard in her heart is to ask you to save more than her, or more than she thinks, so it forms a different way of understanding two people, she is measured by how much money you save, which causes greater pressure on your heart. This shows that you lack the necessary communication and exchanges, and you should talk to each other about what you think in each other's hearts and how what kind of impact what you say will have on each other, and find a way to express yourself that is acceptable to both parties. >>>More
Communicate with someone to teach you, find a topic to talk to her, analyze her words carefully, try to understand her heart, discover what is deep in her heart, don't close your heart too tightly, you can share some things with her, so that she will think that she has a very important place in your heart.