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Be open and have a good communication with his sister, maybe all you lack is understanding, but if you can't do it, you can calmly state your feelings with your boyfriend and ask for his opinion. If you don't have the courage to talk to his sister, it's going to be hard to figure it out
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To be honest, her sister is relatively normal, because they have been dependent on each other for so many years, and suddenly there are more of you, his sister must be uncomfortable in her heart, contact his sister more, do more work, and one day his sister will understand.
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lz。If you're my friend, let me know who you are.
It's inexplicable.
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The reality is that it's really hard here. When you get married with your boyfriend in the future, you will become a family, but some things must be sorted out to avoid disputes in the future.
First of all, the issue of taking out a loan to buy a house, since it is a down payment from your mother's family, you should write your father's or mother's name on the title deed, so that the parents have a certain share (in case you have no other siblings in the family). If the house price is 400,000 yuan and the mother's family gets 100,000 yuan, then the parents should account for a quarter.
Second, the problem of providing for my sister to go to school, after all, my in-laws have no money, and I can't say that I don't care if my brother pays for it, but there must be a limit, first, the tuition fee can be fully helped, and the other expenses are borne by the parents-in-law; And let my sister work and study. Nowadays, many children are working and studying, or doing temporary work during the holidays. Otherwise, my sister is pampered.
I don't know it's not easy to make money. After graduation, you don't want to find a job, and you lie in your brother and sister-in-law's house to stretch out your hands for food and open your mouth, and you are even more uncomfortable. Our relatives' children have this kind of thing.
The third is that after getting married, the husband's money cannot be at his disposal, and after all the money is handed over, the two of you will redistribute it (when the two of you discuss it, try not to hang your husband's face, after all, there are only four difficult periods. Otherwise, the inertia of these four years has become a habit, and he will not be willing to hand over the money to his family in the future. So whether it's giving his sister money or repaying the loan money, even if it passes through your hands, it will not only make your husband grateful to you, but also make your husband feel your open-mindedness.
Fourth, the problem of parents-in-law coming to live, when the father-in-law and mother-in-law are old, they will definitely come to live with their son. That will be more than ten or twenty years later. But then you will not be able to live under one roof.
You can buy a smaller house for your parents-in-law with your sister (who is also married by then) for your parents-in-law. Let them retire in their old age (the land in the countryside can be contracted out, and there is also an annual income). Other than that.
I asked you to add your parents' names to the real estate deed, so as to control your parents-in-law. Because it's not that you don't want to support the elderly, but you're afraid of disputes, which can curb a little. (I am almost 60 years old, it stands to reason that I should be towards the old man, but in reality there are some confused old people, jealous when they see that their son is good to their daughter-in-law, and they like to provoke the relationship between husband and wife, and there are many such phenomena, so there is no harm in guarding against it.)
Because we all want harmony in the family and harmony between husband and wife. )
And after my sister graduates, I guess I also have a boyfriend. She won't live in your house for a long time, so you can help her find an in-law with better family conditions. You're also relieved.
When my sister came to school, I gave her a message: If you are looking for a boyfriend, you must find someone with good family conditions. This is called prevention before it happens.
Otherwise, I will have to cause trouble for you in the future.
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There will be further requirements, and then further and then further well, and you can see the last step?
Isn't it? He said it's free!
When you break up, congratulations, don't fall into the clutches of the devil.
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1. Very much in favor of writing the house in your parents' names.
2, my sister still has to sponsor, as for the future, you have to tell your husband that my sister will not be able to live at home after graduation in the future. You can discuss this yourself, and you don't have to tell the old man. His sister may not want to live with you in the future, and if she does, you can show her a face.
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There are too many such things, I also have an older brother, when I was in college, I asked my brother to live for living expenses, and then he worked and studied part-time, to be honest, this should be the responsibility of his parents, but it is not wrong for him to reduce the burden of his parents as a son,,, or if you don't take out a loan to your boyfriend, you will come to his sister's tuition, so the meaning is not the same.
I think that when the child is always unreasonable, parents should not coax her in time and agree to his request, which can only make him worse, let him calm down first, and then teach patiently.
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