How to adjust the mentality and state of life and learning?

First of all, I personally think you have to recognize the bit, really realize that learning is your own thing, and really like it. Then, you'll have to deal with several relationships. First, the relationship with your parents is not only to let them know what you want, but also to know what you are thinking, and let them know that you want to learn, which is called being honest with each other.

Second, the relationship with the teacher, treat the teacher as a friend, retain a little awe, and then completely treat them as a friend, a confidant, because the teacher knows the student best. Third, the relationship with classmates is to make progress together, don't see everyone playing when playing, and comfort each other.

You can have some Ah Q spirit in life, don't care so much, like this, you can't change anything if you're sulking on the side, and let yourself be so depressed, you really don't want to work alone, you can bring it up, such as deliberately saying loudly and pretending to be cute: Sister, can you help? I see that my sister is very idle, you are so kind and will help me!

Don't put too much pressure on yourself in learning, you can communicate with your classmates who have studied well, often give yourself psychological hints, insist on learning, ignore the outcome first, and go step by step

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As for the study problem, I think you can do your best on your own. Don't be pressured by the conflict between your parents' expectations and your actual grades. As long as you do your best to achieve your parents' goals, you will not feel uncomfortable even if you don't reach your goals if you feel that you can't do better.

For life, I don't know if you have heard a word? It's called "those who can work hard". You are always asked to work at home, and you can understand this as exercising your life skills. There is an old saying among the common people, called "more skills do not press".

My parents also wanted me to go to military school.

But I don't want to.

Because I have my own ideas.

So, you have to have your own goals first.

Don't care about anything else.

If you really have an idea of your own.

After knowing what you want to do.

You're going in your own direction.

Ignore anything else.

Like what you put together a family, your sister tells you to do things, you can't learn English or something.

To sum up, you are lacking your own ideas and firm beliefs.

If you can consistently develop good habits, then the negative emotions will gradually wear out, and the positive attitude will continue to be cultivated and become the source of your personality, thus bringing you constant stress and symptoms.