Preface to How to Say Children Are Willing to Learn .

How to Say Children Are Willing to Learn is a book that teaches parents how to communicate effectively with their children.

The eight chapters in the book, with vivid examples, provide us with effective ways to achieve good parent-child communication, and the most impressive are the following three aspects.

First of all, learn to accept your child's emotions.

Adults can't guarantee that they can control their emotions from time to time, let alone children, and their emotions are uncertain, which is too normal.

When the mood is there, most of the children are in a bad mood, and at this time, if they are greeted by the gentle words of their parents. Their hearts will surely melt.

This makes them feel that their parents are reliable and their hearts are at peace. The courage to admit a mistake or solve a problem comes naturally.

Secondly, if you want to get close to your child and understand what they really think, you must find a way to get them to speak.

When a child encounters a problem or does something wrong, the first reaction of parents is usually to blame or criticize. After the child was criticized, most of them chose to close the door of their hearts because of fear, and their mouths were tightly closed.

If you want them to speak, parents must first respect their children, control their own mouths, and be late.

Finally, even if the child really does something wrong, the criticism should also pay attention to ways and means, not after venting on his own, and when he is comfortable, the child will change. In the same way, praise doesn't just mean a few words of "you're awesome, you're smart."

Whether it is criticism or praise, the corresponding incident points should be described, so that children can understand that the mistake is in the first place, and the right is in the first place, which plays a role in deepening the impression.

Such criticism keeps the child from making the same mistakes in the future; Praise makes children feel that they can, can, and feel confident in themselves.

Parent-child education ultimately comes back to solving the problems of parents themselves, and this book plays a good role in guiding parents on what to do.

Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish are internationally renowned experts in parent-child communication, and their books are not only popular with parents, but also recognized by professional authorities. Hu Brigade.

of two authors. The first book, "Liberated Parents Liberated Children," won the Christopher Award, and the second, "How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk," sold more than 3 million copies and was translated into more than 30 languages. The lectures, materials and videos about the book are used by more than 200,000 parent-child groups around the world.

Subsequently, they published a series of parent-child education books, including "How to Talk So Kids Can Learn at Home and in School" by Children's Magazine in the United States as "Best Family Education Book of the Year"; "Siblings Without Rivalry" topped the New York Times Book Review bestseller list.

Since the publication of How to Listen to Children, the authors have given humorous, inspirational presentations and training to parents, teachers, and professional psychologists throughout the United States and Canada. Their ongoing work has been made into a series on the TV station CBS**. They also appear regularly on popular TV shows like good Morning America and Oprah.

Both authors studied under the late Dr. Haim Ginot, a prominent child psychologist who founded the New School of Social Research in New York City and the Family Life Institute of Long Island University.

Adele Faber holds a bachelor's degree in theater from Queens College and a master's degree in education from New York University. She taught high schools in New York City for 8 years.

Elaine Mazrisch graduated from New York University with a bachelor's degree in theatre design, and after graduating from New York University, she founded and directed children's programming at the Gros Vinol and Reynox Hill Community Centers. She is also a professional painter and composer.

Both authors are mothers of three who have been listed on the Who's Who in the United States.