How to change the introverted, fearful, cowardly, lazy personality

Yes, this younger brother, childhood experiences do affect us throughout our lives, mainly insecurity. Caring too much about the approval of others, and being afraid of being looked down upon by others. So much so that it evolved into social phobia.

In fact, what if others look down on it?

The selfish desire of human beings is to get ahead and be looked up to. Likes to look down on others. Used to elevate yourself.

As you seek healing, may you seek God's help, and in the perfect love of the Savior Jesus, you will surely find true security and you will let go of your burdens. Don't care so much about what other people think.

In fact, Chinese life is not easy, everyone's life has a lot of helplessness, social phobia is a handful, no matter what, have the courage to face life. We need to learn to do our best in everything we do, and to put the results in God's hands, so that we can have a clear conscience as long as we do our part.

I think the meaning of life is to live out the glory of life. In all circumstances, keep a heart that chooses good, look up at the starry sky above your head and the moral law in your heart.

I recommend you to read a book "The Wanderer's Yin - Eternity is Calling" on the Internet, only when people have true faith, they will have mature values, they will look at it calmly in the face of pressure and pain, and they will have true wisdom and courage in dealing with others.

This younger brother, don't be too depressed, cheer up, really, cherish what you have now, life is not perfect, everyone has different pains. Learn to look optimistically.

The Lord Jesus said, "Come to me, all you who labor and are heavy laden."

May this brother try to come to the living Savior and ask the Lord Jesus to guide him in the direction of his life. May God bless you. Find the true meaning of life beyond the sun.

Try it, and you will find that the God recognized by the great scientists Newton, Einstein, Sun Yat-sen, and the previous Americans** really exists. The creator of the human soul is the best doctor for the sickness of the mind.

I'm the same, but I'm 20, I don't want to work, and my dad told me that I really want to die, but I don't even have the courage to commit suicide, so let's see if there is any way to change myself like this.

Character makes life!! Start small! For example, go to the street to haggle with a vegetable vendor, or go outside to talk to strangers. It's OK to change the character created by slowly changing!!

You're going through something like mine! Go for it! Don't let the people around you look down on you! Don't look down on yourself!

I know that children from 8 to 13 years old are very well-behaved in front of adults, but they are not well-behaved, and they are very well-behaved, and they are wronged as bad children, and they are very diligent but actually lazy.

What you lack is only perseverance, the most difficult thing to change is the personality, as long as you are persistent enough, change from the smallest place, or three months, or a year, you may find that you have changed.

I'm 90% the same as you, I'm also 24 years old, and the psychological problems you said are really exactly the same as mine, can you make a friend?? Sometimes when you are lonely, you can talk to each other

These personality traits are all connected, for example, if you are cowardly, you will inevitably withdraw easily, let alone when you encounter difficulties?

Let me talk about my experience first, because of family factors, I have low self-esteem since I was a child, and I am relatively cowardly, which is embodied in the fact that when the teacher asks questions, even if I can do it, I hide it for fear of being called.

When I was bullied on campus (it's ridiculous to think about, because I took the first exam and stole the limelight from another girl), I obviously had a fire hidden in my heart, and I had already cut the other party with a thousand knives in my mind, and in the end I didn't say a word and went to pick up my own things.

When did the personality change? It was after I took the first test for the first time, and some people questioned me, and then after I took the first test again, those people finally changed their tune and began to get close to me.

I realized that grades were my bargaining chips, so I studied harder, became more confident, and had the courage to carry it with others. (Although it has since declined, I have achieved a personality change and become a more complete person, and I have experienced a total of more than ten years, and other things have happened in the meantime).

I think cowardice is due to your lack of identity, and at this point you have to earn chips for yourself.

Being good-looking is one, having good grades is another, being rich is another, and having achievements is another. Of course, the chips I'm talking about are obtained by yourself, and the process of acquiring these things alone is enough to shape a person.

However, the specific situation needs to be analyzed on a case-by-case basis, and I hope it can help you (ps: I don't know if this is my field, but I really want to see you get better, this is what I was drawn three times when I went to donate blood, and I couldn't get blood, and then I asked the doctor to lend it to me to hold, I hope it can give you strength, come on).

People with a cowardly personality have low self-esteem most of the time, and are afraid to communicate with others in life, so in the long run, cowardly personality is a bad thing, if you want to change your personality, you must learn to read more books in life, communicate more with others, and do not give up easily when encountering difficulties, but continue to work hard to change yourself.

Everyone's life experience is different, so the formation of the character is also different, for most people, in life is used to take the initiative to bow their heads, do everything is a lack of courage, when encountering things there is always a sense of gain and loss, for a long time in the cowardly people, the psychological cavity is very negative, when encountering unsolvable problems, there will also be the idea of escape.

Most of the people with cowardly personalities do not read and have very serious psychological problems.

People with a cowardly personality will always encounter a lot of troubles in real life, and in the process of communicating with others, they always fantasize that the other party wants to gain benefits from themselves, and this emotion will also cause great internal friction to their own spirit. If we want to improve this situation, we must learn to take the first step bravely and boldly in life, and put all the ideas that we bring into action, so that we can have infinite possibilities.

How do you change your personality?

Cowardly people often lack some kind of confidence, so timely and appropriate physical exercise is also a very good method, of course, in life to learn to think diligently, use more brains, read more, read more newspapers, the book has its own ** house, the book has its own Yan Ruyu, while facing others, we must also learn to face ourselves, imagine others as ordinary people, but also need to recognize themselves with a positive attitude, they are not inferior to others in all aspects, but because they have not found the right aspect to show themselves!

There is no point in bowing our heads in the face of difficulties, we should learn to be brave enough to change our cognition, don't always feel that we are cowardly, and change a little bit in life every day can make us better.

Be. If he has a cowardly personality, he is easily bullied by others, and he does not dare to fight and resist when his own interests are infringed. If you want to change your cowardly and recalcitrant character, you must boldly express your thoughts, and when you encounter something unpleasant, you should talk about fighting hunger and resisting.

Yes, you can exercise more. Cowardice will make you suffer a lot of losses, so it's a bad thing, and if you want to change your personality, you can exercise more and force yourself to do what you wouldn't do before.

It is a bad thing, which is generally manifested as a lack of courage in doing anything, and hesitation when encountering a spare time, and there is always a sense of gain and loss. Be sure to adjust in time and try to do something positive.

1. Read more. Reading books can not only improve people's knowledge level, but also help develop the ability to think independently. Reading 10,000 books, walking 10,000 miles, and reading more books can also broaden a person's horizons.

Only by constantly enriching knowledge can we get along with people better. In daily life, only when you can mingle with everyone will you let go of your personality.

2. Strengthen exercise. Wenwen's weak appearance will give people a feeling of weakness, strengthen exercise to have a good physique, strong bones, will give people a healthy and upward feeling.

3. Learn to reject others. Whether in life or work, if you have the ability to help others who are reasonable in their reasonable requirements, then go to help. For those who are unreasonable or unable to help, they must learn to refuse decisively.

4. Have your own opinions. Since you have to have your own opinions on everything, you can't go along with what others say. After all, everyone's position is different, and that point of view is also different.

Only those who have an assertive mind can take on the responsibility of life, rather than being weak and submissive.

5. Be able to refuse comfort and have the courage to go out and challenge. Many people prefer to enjoy a comfortable life, a comfortable environment, and a comfortable life, thinking that it is the best life, so they do not get the opportunity to exercise themselves. Only when a person dares to go out and accept the challenges of life can he have the courage to take charge of himself.

If you have enough courage, you will not be weak.

6. Be self-confident. If you want to change your weak and honest character, you must first have enough self-confidence. Self-confidence plays a key role in a person's success or failure, and only by believing in oneself can one have enough courage.