What s it like not to go home on New Year s Day?

I once had the experience of not going home on the first day of the new year, alone in the city where I worked, spent Chinese New Year's Eve and the first day of the first month alone, Chinese New Year's Eve night, watched the Spring Festival Gala, played games, grabbed red packets, in fact, there is no too lonely feeling, after all, now the means of communication are so developed, can be used to ** call, and face-to-face is almost no different, especially now the function of group **, so that multiple relatives and friends in a different place can chat together, very convenient, the next day is the first day of the first month, I deliberately went out on the street alone, there are still very few people, very quiet, for the city of Shanghai, take the subway to have seats anytime and anywhere, which has to be said to be a miracle, to be honest, the first day of the new year is not at home, for me, it still feels very fresh, free, at least don't have to worry about whose house to visit, don't worry about whose house to eat, don't worry about not being able to give red envelope money, don't worry about being asked how much the salary is, don't worry about being asked when to get married, haha, On the first day of the first month of the first month of Shanghai, in addition to convenience stores and some large restaurants, there is almost no place to eat, because most of the outsiders have gone back to their hometown for the New Year, so although eating is not a problem, but it is more difficult to eat something distinctive, go downstairs to my house, there is actually a small vegetable market is not closed, inquired, it turned out that the small couple did not want to squeeze the train during the Spring Festival, just want to make more money in Shanghai, and then go back to see the family after the New Year, played a time difference, I didn't have to experience the crowding and torment of the Spring Festival, I looked at the price of the day's dishes, and it was really a little expensive, but the first day of the new year, it is also normal, in general, the first day of the new year is not at home, in addition to the freshness of the heart, there is still some discomfort, the Spring Festival without family is incomplete, so, this year's New Year, I still chose to go home for the New Year, because as a northerner, I still feel that reunion is the New Year, even if the distance is far away, no matter how difficult the road is, I also want to return to my parents' side, accompany them to spend a good year. ‍‍

I haven't been at home for three or four years on the first day of the new year, oh! It was three or four Spring Festivals, nine years, when I was still a young man, not married, the unit was on duty during the Spring Festival to arrange for unmarried people who did not have a family on duty, every year, I understand such an arrangement very well, so absolutely no complaints to obey, and the New Year on duty in the unit is also good, there are double salaries, there are some peanuts and candies prepared by the unit, and the trouble is to cook by yourself. At that time, the Spring Festival duty can look at the door, the only hand-cranked ** is rarely used, there is no leader to check the post, the door is locked, fire prevention and theft, every day or lie or sit in the office to watch TV, if someone calls to go out to play poker, sometimes the leader will come to the unit to see, Chinese New Year's Eve to the sixth day of the first month, 7 days of time in a flash, colleagues after the unit report I can rest until the sixteenth of the first month, but I have not rested (special circumstances) did not go to the place, so normal work.

Later, after getting married, I was on a Spring Festival shift, day and night, a day, there were still several people on duty, and it was lively when there were many people on duty, watching TV and playing mahjong in the mountains, and soon the time passed.

It's actually quite sad not to go home on the first day of the new year, after all, it's the New Year, everyone else is lively, and you alone can't go home.

Not only did I not go home on the first day of the Lunar New Year, but I did not go home for the entire Chinese New Year, and it was several years. I'm ashamed to say that I didn't go home at that time, mainly because I didn't have the face to see my parents, and at the end of the year, my life was stretched, and I couldn't even afford a decent gift when I went home, and I was embarrassed to go back, and that feeling was unforgettable when I think about it now. Now I can buy it, but my parents are gone, leaving infinite sadness and regret in my heart. ‍‍

I don't go home on the first day of the new year, I think it's normal, as usual, everyone's work nature is different, some people work in the field, work needs, can't go home, and some people get married in the field, the road is far away, the vacation time is very short, and they can't go back to their home, this is normal.

Ten years ago after graduating from college in the north, the first Spring Festival, the first job salary is not high, except for the rent left, seeing that the Spring Festival is coming, the idea of not going home for the New Year was born, just a classmate also felt that there was no face to go home because of unemployment, the two hit it off, decided to spend the New Year in Beijing, due to limited funds, on the 29th day of the month went to purchase green vegetables and noodles steamed buns, there was no meat, the green vegetable noodles eaten on Chinese New Year's Eve, firecrackers roared outside, the rental house was deserted, that feeling, now think about it is still a little sour, impressed, If you have an experience, you won't be in the future, if you have money or not, you still have to go home and see, after all, your parents are keeping watch at the door. ‍‍

The mood is indescribably uncomfortable, the millennium is the first time to spend the New Year in a foreign land, thousands of miles away, and still at work, that feeling that people who have not had this experience can not understand, Chinese New Year's Eve looking at the empty road on the street, thousands of thoughts, a lot of feelings, almost to zero o'clock everywhere to think of the crackling firecrackers, more set off the foreign wanderer's nostalgia for his hometown and homeland, but also more miss his distant parents. ‍‍

I'm a housewife and I didn't spend my first year of junior high school outside. But when my husband goes to work, sometimes he will catch up with the duty, and in the first year he went to duty, he felt cold and awkward, because we have to get up early to cook and eat dumplings, and if the family is not at home, we will also bring a pair of dishes and chopsticks to the family. After eating, I want to go to the New Year, my in-laws are old, I have to leave a person at home to greet the old folks who come to visit the New Year (such as curtains, pour water, only the old people at home is impolite) My son went to the New Year with his uncle, I was at home with my in-laws, and I came to send the villagers back and forth to pay New Year's greetings, no one came in the afternoon, I hurried out to my elders to pay New Year's greetings, a village to be good, when the family, are very scattered and almost busy until dark,

When I was a soldier, I didn't go home for several years, and then I came out to work, and I often couldn't go home, and for several Chinese New Year's Eve was watching TV alone in the house, at first I was sad, and then I didn't feel it, the only thing that remained unchanged was the guilt of my parents, I really didn't care, I just missed my parents, I missed my grandmother. ‍‍

It's cool. I prepared a big meal for myself and then traveled on my own, without worrying about being asked by my relatives.

I feel that the city is very empty, no one can see one, there is a feeling of the end of the world, and the most important thing is that I can't find a place to eat.

I feel bored and empty, and I especially miss my wife, children and parents at home.

The first day of the Lunar New Year is a festive day for family reunion, and according to traditional customs, many places prohibit married daughters from returning to their parents' homes on the first day of the Lunar New Year.

Because in the concept of people in these areas, the married daughter is like water spilled out, and the husband's family needs to be reunited on the first day of the new year, and if she returns to her parents' house on the first day of the new year, it will cause the husband's family to not be reunited.

But the implication is that the married daughter is already someone else's daughter-in-law, and there must be many people in the mother-in-law's family who come to pay New Year's greetings, and the daughter-in-law has to help serve tea, so she can't go back to her parents' house on the first day of the new year. On the first day of the Chinese New Year, if the married daughter returns to her parents' home, it means that her mother's family will be poor, so she can only return to her parents' home in the second or third year of junior high school.

The eldest sister and sister-in-law each have a home, and they go back to their parents' house to let their younger siblings and sisters-in-law serve, and they feel that it is not right to serve the elderly, and the daughter-in-law serves her in-laws in place of her husband, but she is not obliged to serve her aunt and sister-in-law, one or two meals are okay, I am afraid of unconscious! Personally, I think that if you are not welcome to go back to your parents' house, either your family recognizes the old reason, and people just believe that you have a home, why do you have to go back to others in the past two days, and the other is that your usual performance is not good, you are not usually welcome, and don't look for awkwardness for the New Year! Since ancient times, the relationship between sister-in-law and mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not good, in fact, they have lived in different environments for decades.

There are a lot of sons-in-law and daughter-in-law's relatives who can't fight, life is just a few decades, don't punish yourself with other people's mistakes, anger is the biggest harm to yourself, no matter what you encounter, you want to think about it, the health and safety of yourself and your relatives is important!

First, if the woman's family has an older brother or younger brother, then she can't spend the New Year in her parents' house after getting married, and she can't go back to her parents' house to visit until the third year of junior high school; Second, if the woman's family only has daughters and no sons, then during the Chinese New Year, if your husband is willing to accompany you, it will also be possible.

It is difficult for such a daughter-in-law to last long, not to mention the mother-in-law's family, have you considered the feelings of the mother-in-law's family? How does the husband feel? You are someone else's daughter-in-law. Thirty years home, that must be an incomplete family. How old is it and still ignorant, you should be scolded.

When I go back on the first day of the new year, I have to clean up the mess and wash the dishes. The second is to eat leftovers. The third is that it is possible that many people have drunk too much, and no one will drink with you. Why bother?

I can't eat on the first day of the Lunar New Year!! Eat and go! And the time has come for another time!

It's pure fart, many people work outside all year round, and there can be a few days to go home for reunion during the New Year, we are here for Chinese New Year's Eve, and there are many relatives on the first day of the new year.

This is superstition! My sister came home today on the first day of the new year (she is married), and she does this every year, just as fine!

My wife's house is far from my house, a ten-minute walk, and I go home at every turn, thirty, and the first day of junior high school, and now I don't pay so much attention to it!

I can't go back to my hometown for the New Year this year, and I miss my mother very much.

I'm going to take the two children back to my parents' house today, what's wrong (you have to write 25 words before you can send it)!

It's just a traditional custom, and not going out on the first day of the Lunar New Year usually means that the elderly don't go out, not the young people. On the first day of the Lunar New Year, the elderly go out to have the saying of "taking wealth and leaking blessings", and the elders can only make the family house prosperous in the coming year, and the younger generations generally have to go to the elders' homes to pay New Year's greetings to show their filial piety to the elders, but the married women can not return to their parents' homes until the second day of the Lunar New Year.

However, in the Liangguang area, the first day of the Lunar New Year is considered to be the "Poor Ghost Day", and people do not like to go to other people's homes, and they do not welcome others to come to their homes. Early in the morning, the door is opened and the floor is swept away, which means that the "poor ghost" will be swept out of the door. There is a saying in the Foshan area, "at the beginning of the year, the first year of the year, Yun gold and silver".

It is taboo not to clean the house on the first day of the new year, because it is the first day of the new year, many people say that what you are doing on the first day will affect you for the next year, if you are doing hygiene on the first day of the new year, it also indicates that you may be busy doing housework in the new year.

Daughters can't go back to their parents' homes, according to our tradition, married daughters can't go home until the second day of the Lunar New Year, of course, the situation is different now, many people are daughters and sons-in-law are in their parents' homes for the New Year.

In fact, the custom of not returning to the Niangsen Sakura family on the first day of the first month mainly includes the following reasons.

First, there should be no outsiders in the first year of junior high school. Superstitious beliefs dictate that the deceased ancestor should return home from heaven at the end of the year to enjoy the offerings, and that there should be no outsiders in the house at this time. The so-called "married daughter splashes the water out of this bush", the married daughter and her mother's family are no longer a family.

After her daughter got married, she became a member of her mother-in-law's family, and she has become an "outsider" to her mother's family. If the female Xiangming'er lives in her mother's house after marriage, the ancestor will be unhappy.

Second, it will bring disadvantages to the mother's family. Superstition believes that a daughter's stay at her mother's house on the first day of the first lunar month will have a bad impact on the health and financial fortune of her brother. Therefore, if there is an older brother and younger brother in the mother's family, it is very annoying to go back to the parents' house in the first year, and people do not want to see them.

At the same time, the mother loves her daughter, and when the daughter leaves, she will take a large bag, as an elder brother and brother, she may not say anything, but her sister-in-law and sister-in-law will definitely not be happy. This creates conflict in the family.

Third, it will eat the poor of the mother's family. Superstition believes that when a daughter returns to her parents' house in the first year, she will eat her parents' family poor. In the past, the economy was underdeveloped, and almost every household was very poor.

If the daughter goes back to her parents' house for the New Year, the son-in-law is a distinguished guest, and in order to make the son-in-law treat her daughter better, the mother-in-law will try her best to please her, so she will do everything she can to entertain her. In this way, poor families will be made even poorer. If the daughter drags her children and daughters again, the burden on her mother's family will be heavier.

Fourth, it is a traditional filial piety culture. When a daughter gets married, she becomes a family member of her mother-in-law, and her parents-in-law are her own family, and she becomes a relative with her mother's family. The first day of Chinese New Year's Eve is a time for family reunion, and the daughter and her mother-in-law's family are a family, so naturally they have to get together with their mother-in-law's family first.

The purpose of this is also to remind her daughter that she knows that she is already a member of her mother-in-law's family, and that she should be virtuous and virtuous in her mother-in-law's family, respect the old and love the young.

The first day of the Lunar New Year as the first day of the new year of prudence, there are many taboo matters, and on the first day of the new year, the folk custom of not being able to go back to the mother's house has long been recorded in the history of our country, the folk believe that on the first day of the new year, the daughter who has married will go home for the New Year will eat the family poor, and the daughter is not allowed to spend the New Year at home. In fact, according to the analysis of the social situation at the time, the reason why the married daughter was not allowed to go home on the first day of the Lunar New Year was to warn the daughter that since she was married, she should put her husband's family first. In addition, there will be many relatives in the mother-in-law's house during the Chinese New Year, and as a daughter-in-law, she will accompany her husband and in-laws to entertain.