How to guide a 10 year old child on the topic of love

The home page is to communicate with him well, tell him that the love time is very beautiful, and it is the best time in everyone's life. But it's not the most important thing at the age of 10, the most important thing for them to learn now, to improve their level and ability, just like going upstairs, you don't try to climb up, you only see the scenery on the 1st floor, when you work hard to climb to the top floor, the scenery you see is the most beautiful.

I think today's children already know these things about love from some channels, but they don't show it in front of adults, in fact, we should talk to children about this issue directly! Let them understand.

Yes, the problem of puppy love is too common now, we should choose the best way to stop it, there is a big difference between Chinese education and American education, I mind that parents should learn American education methods, talk to their children like friends, and give their children a good future.

Didn't the landlord find that every time he fell in love, he became more mature, calmer and smarter? It's good to be in love, so that children can experience more life experiences and learn more things. Otherwise, when she graduated from college, she could finally "legally fall in love", and she was deceived by someone else's little enthusiasm, are you willing?

The landlord should support the child's love, but at the same time give the right guidance and guidance. Don't force your child to be an exam machine, there are many college students who graduated from key universities, he can't do anything except the exam, does the landlord think so?

It is said that when you fall in love, in order to prepare for marriage and childbirth, you have to start raising a family, and you have to make money to buy food for others, and if you can make money to support yourself now, your parents will not object. Otherwise, other girls won't look down on you, and they will ignore you after playing for a while. How bad is that.

I've seen this kind of education in American movies, if a child likes a girl or a boy, first of all, he can't say no, but show respect. At the same time, guide and educate them, if you like it, you can take good care of him, if you can't study hard, you can't have a good job when you grow up, how can you take good care of him in the future? So from now on, you must study hard and study hard?。。

I think this approach is also desirable. What do you think?

First of all, you can't scold, which will cause the child's disgust, maybe you will feel that you have a generation gap with him, first let the child feel that you are not hostile or very resistant to him, and the current children are very precocious, to make the child feel that you are credible and reliable, and then slowly talk to him, guide him to say something and so on, patience must be necessary. If he really has someone he likes, don't scold him or immediately make him feel resistant. Personally, I recommend using rhetorical questions, such as, oh yes why do you like him?

Does he have that merit that attracts you?And so on and so forth... Then slowly proceed with the correct guidance.

Find some movies that motivate children, if you don't read good books and study, what kind of consequences will there be, there will be a certain effect, be sure to read the negative textbooks.

This should guide them more from a psychological point of view ...

Today's children are precocious...

In love?It should just like it.,When I was a child, I played in a bar.,At that time, I had a concept.,It's just that when I grow up, the concept is getting clearer and clearer.,Don't be very nervous.,Say it to her.,If you like it, like it.。

Don't worry, be encouraged!It's like I haven't had a girlfriend in my 20s, so it's too late to regret it!

After all, children will always fall in love, just let it be, just don't do what you shouldn't do.

You're too weak, it's not in love, that's a verb, you should tell him about love, the beauty and sacredness of love, are you trying to tell him how to fall in love?

This should be tested by the parents themselves.

Today's children are too precocious.

1. Interfere less and listen more.

Parents should not be like scouts to detect whether their children are in love and interfere with their children. In fact, many teenagers, he is not bothering on falling in love, but on how not to be discovered by his parents.

When a child occupies a lot of brain and psychological resources in how to avoid his parents, his brain's self-control will be insufficient, which makes him unable to control his behavior later and delays learning.

2. Guide children to deal with the relationship between rationality and impulsiveness.

Adolescence is the time to cultivate rationality, when children need to learn how to face their emotional impulses, and face the inner throbbing of the opposite sex brought about by hormones.

At this time, parents should let their children know that it is normal to have these impulses, and adolescence is the time when their inner willpower grows, and they should observe and ponder how they can learn to be with their inner impulses little by little.

3. Cultivate children's concept of love.

Before puberty, parents plant a seed in their children's hearts so that they have their own ideas about the superiority and attractiveness of the opposite sex.

Children should be told not to fall in love too early, and the main task should be to study, so that they will have more prospects for development in the future.

When the child goes to college, he can fall in love, high school, junior high school, and elementary school can't fall in love, because at that time it should be based on studying.

The matter of early love is clear, and the blockage is overflowing, rather than "strict prevention", it is better to "guide". As schools and parents, we should strengthen the emotional education of children, actively guide children to establish a correct outlook on life, values and love, respect children's emotional changes, communicate and exchange more, so that children understand what should be done and what should not be done.

To prevent early love, the mood of the school and parents is understandable, and the school should increase its management, but the problem of dining should be restricted, and this overkill is still up for discussion. Let every child understand the relationship between early love, growth, and academics, so that they can learn to get out of the misunderstanding and establish the correct concept, which is the right way to grow!

Love is a big thing, many adults can't grasp and treat it well, let alone children, so once you find out that your child is in love, don't make a fuss, first explain that our children are normal, and then help children get through this ignorance period smoothly, don't blindly blame. Academic performance is important, but in terms of human development, love is even more important.

Today's children are relatively precocious, and they seem to be very innocent, but they actually understand a lot. In addition, the school has a curriculum on physiology and hygiene, so parents do not have to use a high posture to oppress their children. The key is to establish a correct value of life.

In fact, children regard their parents as their idols from an early age, and their way of doing things often has their parents' philosophy in it, so as parents, it is very important to set an example and give their children a good example. It is also necessary to communicate and communicate with your children more often. It's best to have a conversation as an equal friend.

In this way, the child will be more relaxed and willing to communicate with his parents. In this way, parents can understand the current situation and inner thoughts of their children. Then you can guide it correctly, change it if you have it, and encourage it if you don't.

Depending on the child's personality, some children may not be precocious, but rather ignorant and curious, and this kind of positive guidance can be done (understanding the situation, discouragement, and leading in the direction of friendship). There are really very precocious ones, and this kind of people will avoid adults, and they should talk to each other, relieve them, and help children establish a healthy and positive emotional outlook). In short, observation and guidance are the first priority, if you have the conditions, you can talk about some of your own understanding, of course, you must ventilate with parents in advance, to avoid two completely different attitudes, and make children confused.

In fact, children are the easiest to trust adults like small animals, as long as you are sincere, let them trust, and be able to understand their feelings, what you say will move them, and they will think of your words when they encounter things, these are the education that really works.

There is no need for parents to guide today's children to understand everything.

I think it's because you care about the value of this gift, and you probably don't really like him at all. In fact, I can feel that he really likes you, the important thing to buy a gift is the meaning, since he can buy hundreds of gifts to you, he will naturally think that as long as he gives you, you will accept it, who knows that you care so much about these? It's not that you worship money, in fact, it's normal, maybe you like him too, but there is a sense of psychological gap, hundreds of them before are now only cheap.

It is recommended that if you really like him, don't care about this, of course, but also recommend that boys think more about the meaning when giving gifts, not expensive but meaningful gifts are also very good.

Ten-year-olds, talk about playing, don't do anything. Don't think about your child's behavior with the mind of an adult! Take a look at the books on psychology, every age has its own age characteristics!

Try to groom, don't be too tough, it will arouse the child's rebellious mentality, it really doesn't work, just leave it alone, maybe the child is just imitating and doesn't understand the meaning.

Don't stop him by force, treat him as an adult, tell him what to do in real love, and guide him.

What about the other party? What is that child's attitude? And, how did the two get along? You have to convey this information to us clearly, so that the specific problem can be analyzed in detail :)

When children are at this age, it is the time when rebellious thoughts are most serious, so the first thing we have to do is not to preach, do not forcibly beat and scold. After that, we talk to the children about how it feels to be in love, the boys are told by their mothers, and the girls are told by their fathers, and they should be able to say something, and then we will have a positive counseling for their mental activity, their words. In adolescence, children have a certain desire to explore the body of the opposite sex, so we can also tell them some knowledge of physiology and hygiene, and if they are not well developed, they are not suitable for falling in love.

1. We must give children more correct education, especially for children's sexual and psychological maturity and development, so that children can understand their own physiological and psychological development, and then they can effectively solve the problem of early love.

2. You should also give your child more tolerance, because when the child has the thoughts and behaviors of early love, because the child has grown up and slowly become mature, so there will be such a situation.

3. Children should also be given appropriate space, believing that children will solve these problems by themselves, and at the same time urging children to work hard to put their main energy on learning and life, which is the most critical method.

When communicating with children, do not use a critical tone or a commanding tone to speak, at this time the child is prone to rebellious psychology, if you are more and more addicted to early love because of Kai's rebellious psychology, it is against the original intention of parents. Parents should pay attention to the wording when talking to their children, try to be gentle, and communicate with their children as friends, rather than the relationship between parents and their children's grandchildren.

Be sure to enlighten him well, and you can come with him without affecting your learning and touching the bottom line, and don't try to stop it, after all, the child's rebellious psychology is very serious, think about it when you were a child.

It's better to be sparse than blocked, and tell him what he can and can't do now, after all, it's small. In many things, children can not have a good position, you can be friends with children, slowly understand their situation, do dredging, and instill the idea that students should go to school.

Encourage their normal interactions, don't do deviant things, don't rudely want to break them up, and don't ignore them and let them develop.

Correct guidance, the more children learn to rebel, I remember that when I was in junior high school, my parents talked to me, talked about boyfriends, talked about learning, there was no hysterical opposition or support, that is, I was told that love must be positive, until now there is still a very positive view of feelings, although early love, but he is the person who brought me touching and positive energy. Super thanks to the correct guidance of mom and dad, the children at that time are all adolescence, indispensable curiosity and ignorance of the opposite sex, I really hope that parents can sometimes stand in the child's perspective to guide, do not force opposition or what, counterproductive.

I always think it's normal for children to fall in love at the age of age. We must first have such an understanding, and then analyze, the ideal and reality of life goals, that is, learning as the center and falling in love may delay learning. Falling in love and friendship:

Guide children to correctly understand friendship, affection, liking and love. Talk about physiological hygiene. However, the way you talk is the key to solving this problem.

The way they want to accept it most is for parents to treat them as equals and friends. This is the most talked about among my students.