Is this for my good or what, teacher?

Hello. With you more respect than you.

First of all, the teacher you assign to your child, no matter how old you are, is at least the same age as you, and secondly, respect for the teacher is the most basic courtesy.

The earliest you should have appeared in the Chinese literature of the Jin or Yuan dynasties, and at this time your meaning was not a second-person honorific, but was used to mean the second-person plural, which is what you mean in modern Chinese.

As a sign of respect, we usually use you as a term for teachers or elders.

Because the teacher senses that you are a little yourself. You may be too strict with yourself, so the teacher also hopes that you can be kind to yourself. Don't always think about others, think more about yourself.

After all, you can only have the ability to treat others better if you are good to yourself.

Indeed, no amount of good you can do to yourself.

Insufficient means that you can't get a reciprocal reward for it, that is, you are good to yourself, and even good to others, but when others treat you badly, hurt you, and you are a victim, the responsibility is not whether you are not good enough for yourself, but to tell others why they are treating you badly.

That's the right idea. However, having come to this conclusion does little to deal with the situation in which you are the victim.

We can criticize the people who tell us to be kind to ourselves for not understanding you, not being able to empathize with you, who have not experienced it, who do not know how unwilling, disappointed, and hurtful it is after being hurt.

However, if this exhortation is not used to remind you that you are not good enough for yourself, but to tell you that since the world is so unfair and cruel, all you can do is that no matter what happens, the focus of the problem is still here:

Be kind to your socks.

This is because we need the nourishment and affirmation of love when we are in the most pain, and what we can do at this time is to hug ourselves, comfort ourselves, cheer ourselves up, and be kind to ourselves.

Yes, we don't need to run away from the truth: reality is helpless, things are often unfair, and love and hate are just dreams of spice or torture.

Be kind to yourself, not only how you treat yourself in ordinary times, but also how you support yourself and take care of yourself when you encounter hardships.

Therefore, when we encounter unfortunate things, we should say to ourselves: be better to ourselves, otherwise, no one will really love you.

Give yourself a little more dignity and love, you deserve it.