Can you tell us about your view of China s etiquette culture ?

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Etiquette is a common trait of higher animals and humans. Primitive societies existed with rituals. For example, food sharing, no messing, no robbery, distribution system, this is etiquette.

When China went to a slave society, to a feudal society, to a capitalist society, etiquette was a bit of a different way. Each society has set up a ritual culture and etiquette rules according to its own social needs, and the etiquette after the deepening reform is to take what it needs and serve people with etiquette. Even the culture of etiquette has developed to the point of being abused, and it has reached the level where many people are not to blame.

Foreigners also speak etiquette, but in a slightly different way of expressing themselves.

Rites, the ancients treated ritual culture is not an empty ritual and theory, it has practical connotations, just like the Buddha of the Buddha, the benevolence of Confucianism, and the Tao of Taoism, which are not empty salvation theories, but have practical connotations!

Etiquette is like the way, abyss and shallow, difficult to renew.

Self-denial is an important part of Confucius's propaganda and is also the etiquette culture of the Chinese.

Etiquette is the text of righteousness, the righteous one, the one who is righteous, and the sum of benefits. Rite is the manifestation of righteousness, and etiquette should be in line with the times and be precious. - Etiquette, if it is immutable, it does not conform to the principle of righteousness, and it has become an outdated norm.

On the other hand, it conforms to the principle of righteousness, and the people at that time thought that it was outdated, but this rite was not outdated, and the people at that time thought that if it was outdated, there must be problems in society, because the rite collapsed. - Thinking that etiquette is an immutable norm, using an ancient norm to prove that etiquette is pedantic and outdated, this is a manifestation of not understanding etiquette, but just a self-confession of my heart, that is, my Buddha. - Etiquette is the manifestation of righteousness, advancing with the times, in line with the times, is the basic principle of etiquette, and if these principles are violated, it has nothing to do with etiquette, it is just a norm that sells dog meat on the head of a sheep and carries the banner of etiquette.

I think that the so-called etiquette culture has been seriously lacking, and even completely broken, and now the vast majority of people have lost the traditional roots of Chinese culture.

If a person doesn't have the most basic etiquette, it shouldn't be very realistic, and I don't know how to say it, but I don't pay much attention to this aspect anyway...

I have to go back to ancient times when the Chinese rites were born. First of all, it is the need of human beings to reconcile subjective and objective contradictions, and ritual originated from primitive religious rituals. In ancient times, the level of social productivity was low, and people's ability to understand nature was low, and they were unable to explain and conquer natural phenomena and natural forces.

My grandfather told me that the importance of etiquette, observance of etiquette and law, etiquette and teaching, propagation of etiquette and faith, and observance of etiquette and righteousness have been internalized into a kind of people's conscious consciousness and worn into their psychological and behavioral activities, which have become the cultural characteristics and basic manifestations of the Chinese nation.

I would like to say that China is known as a "country of ancient civilization" and "a country of etiquette". In the course of its 5,000-year historical evolution, etiquette has strongly influenced and restricted the thoughts, speeches and actions of the Chinese.

I think that as young people, we should vigorously carry forward the fine traditions of the Chinese nation and inherit its fine traditions. The inheritance and development of traditional culture cannot just be a museum or just preserve traditional culture with sound and image.

My feeling is that traditional Chinese culture has always focused on groups, political ethics and interpersonal relationships, which has become an important feature of Chinese culture that distinguishes it from Western culture. The special attention of traditional Chinese culture to the ethical relationship of people is not only reflected in the highly developed ethical thought of Chinese society, but also reflected in the richness and completeness of the etiquette and cultural system.

I believe that for thousands of years, it has been difficult for the political system, ideology, science and culture to progress, and finally it has inevitably lagged behind the international community in modern society. We must remove the dross and extract the essence. Wisdom, faithfulness, loyalty, filial piety, courtesy, righteousness, and honesty are all traditional virtues of the Chinese nation for thousands of years, the root of traditional Chinese culture, and the soul of our nation.

I believe that since Chinese ritual culture is the overall model of Chinese culture, its rich connotation cannot be accommodated in a simple space, nor can it be done by individual ability, and this book is just an attempt to provide an idea. There is also a process of deepening the understanding of Chinese ritual culture.

Confucius's "Don't look at incivility, don't listen to incivility, don't speak incivility, don't move incivility", and the famous thinker Yan Yuan's "Guoshang etiquette is the country's prosperity, family etiquette is big, and body etiquette is death" and so on, all of which fully reflect the coexistence of etiquette and Chinese history and culture.

Our motherland is an ancient civilization with a history of 5,000 years of traditional Chinese culture, and is known as the "State of Etiquette and Civilization". The Chinese are also known for their politeness, harmony and humility. As a very important part of traditional Chinese culture, etiquette civilization is very rich in content.

At a time when globalization is becoming more and more important and the tide of economic integration is becoming more and more turbulent, the protection and utilization, inheritance and change, innovation and adaptation of national traditional culture have become major topics in ethnic research and work. The degree of attention to traditional culture is also an important indicator of the degree of civilization of a country and a nation, which can reflect the conscious level of development and evolution of a country and nation.

I think it's okay to give a gift, but you don't have to give a gift. I am both a teacher and a parent. As a teacher, I look forward to receiving heartfelt thanks from my students, but I refuse to accept gifts from parents for any purpose.

As a parent, I have actually given gifts to my children's teachers. What have you sent? At the end of the summer vacation, I went back to my hometown to bring the specialty toffee, two packs, and the child carried it to the class by himself, handed it to the teacher, and sent a message to the teacher the day before:

Teacher, please help me send the souvenir to the children, and there is a pack for you and the teachers to taste. When I was shopping during the winter vacation, I saw a few handmade leather coin purses in the store, more than 50 yuan, and the children liked it very much, so they bought one for each of the teachers (a total of five ethnic groups and a teacher), and later ......regretted it a littleI regret not leaving one for myself. When I had a sports meeting, I bought a few packs of hawthorn lollipops for the baby to take and asked the teacher to make prizes for the children.

The last time I got vaccinated, the teacher rewarded the children who didn't cry, using the candy I gave. The teacher's response was also normal, my child did not receive special care in the class, and he was not treated differently because the child himself was very obedient. There were also a few times when I was not very satisfied with the teacher's approach, and I sent a private message to ** to communicate directly with the teacher, and there was no aftermath after that.

As an adult, it's not that I don't understand what "gift-giving" is, and I'm a victim of "gift-giving" myself. When I was a child, the parents of my classmates bought things for the teacher and gave me clothes and red envelopes, but my parents were honest, one was not, and the other was that they had no money, so they went to school in a daze. Fortunately, I have always done well in my studies, and I don't get into trouble with my teachers by being naughty, so they rarely care about me.

When I was in elementary school, there was a teacher who took care of me who was injured, and my mother thanked me a lot, and she wrote several pages of thank-you letters to the school, and it was said that the school radio station broadcast it, and the teacher was happy for several days. When I was in middle school, a teacher met me in the hallway for a final exam and criticized me very seriously, saying that I was too impetuous and my grades were unstable. Since then, I've been very attentive in his classes.

When I was a class cadre, I offended the thorns in the class, they used correction fluid to write scolding words on the table, and the head teacher saw it and sentenced me to the chain, scolded them, and stared at them to clean up the desk. The other teachers were very cold to me, and even if I got the first place in the subject I was good at, I was not praised. The best result in the third year of high school was to break into the top ten of the grade, but no one cared about it.

I always thought it was because I was very well-behaved and the teacher believed in me. Later, I slowly understood something. At that time, we didn't dare to go to the office to find a teacher, because the teacher's smile was for those students who liked it.

My table mates regularly give gifts to all the teachers, so he can do whatever he wants in the class, and he really does whatever he wants......Luckily, he's not a bad boy, he just doesn't like to study.

Ancient Chinese official bureau. The north and south face the north and the beginning of the Zhou Dynasty

The Sui and Tang dynasties were one of the six. Passed through the ages.

The DAO prefect is the Ministry of Rites Hui Shangshu. The use of five rites, such as Kaoji, Jia, military, answering guests, and fierce; Manage the affairs of schools throughout the country, the imperial examinations, and the affairs of vassals and foreign countries. There are four divisions under the Ministry of Rites, all of which are in the Ming and Qing dynasties

The Department of Ceremonial and Qing Officials, in charge of the ceremony, military ceremony, and management of academic affairs and imperial examinations; The priest of the ancestral sacrifice is in charge of auspicious and murderous affairs; The host and guest clearance department, in charge of the guest ceremony and the reception of foreign guests; The fine diet and cleaning officials are in charge of the affairs of the feast and the sacrifice. In addition to the four divisions, the Qing Dynasty has a casting and printing bureau, which is responsible for casting the emperor's treasure seal and the internal and external ** seals. In conjunction with the Four Translation Pavilions, he is in charge of receiving vassals, foreign envoys and interpreters.

In the thirty-second year of Guangxu (1906), the Qing Dynasty announced the "imitation of constitutionalism" and merged the original Taichang Temple, Guanglu Temple and Honglu Temple into the Ministry of Rites. In the internal organization of the Ministry of Rites, two halls of Chengzheng and Senate, three divisions of ceremonies, Taichang and Guanglu, as well as a ritual library and a ritual school hall. In the third year of Xuantong (1911), the Ministry of Rites was changed to the Ceremony Academy, which became the organ of the Qing Dynasty in charge of the ceremonial music and manufacturing of the imperial court altars and temples and mausoleums, and was in charge of repairing the Ming ceremonies and changing the rules and regulations.

Shang Shu is the head of this department, which is the current minister, Shilang is now the deputy minister, and the third in command is Lang Zhong, because there was no doctor in the Song Dynasty, so all of them"Doctor"They are all officials, and their rank is Langzhong, so we later also called doctors Langzhong.

Show people to the song. If you bend down, you are tall, and you are polite to others. Therefore, respecting others is courtesy.

The ancient rites show people like crooked grains. Only ears full of grain will bow their heads, and the essence of the ceremony lies in the song.

Etiquette maintains social order, political order.

Personal etiquette: self-denial and self-cultivation, as a personal cultivation, is called "politeness". Such as:

Zi said, "Don't see, don't listen, don't speak, don't move", to achieve these "four don'ts", we must "deny ourselves", overcome bad habits and selfishness, which is also what we often say today "overcome self".

Interpersonal etiquette: Friendship with others is based on "etiquette", and humble oneself and respect others. Etiquette is about self-humility, "humbling oneself and respecting others", advocating that people should be low-key, put down their figures, and treat each other in a respectful position, which is the basic premise of harmonious interpersonal relations.

As a manifestation of dealing with people, it is called "etiquette" and "etiquette", for example, in ancient times, there were "nine bows of the week" (nine worships): one is called the head of Ji, two is called the head of the stun, three is the head of the void, four is said to be vibrating, five is said to be auspicious, six is said to be fierce, seven is said to be strange, eight is praised, and nine is said to be worshipped. ）。

It is used to deal with relationships with others, and it is called "courtesy".

The etiquette of the system: in a narrow sense, it is to abide by the law. Zi said: "The Tao is virtuous, and the Qi is courteous" to educate with virtue and restrain with etiquette, so that the people can abide by the law and be civilized.

Ancient Chinese kneeling to show high respect to each other. "Zhou Li" is called "nine worships": one is called Ji Shou, two is called Dun Shou, three is empty head, four is vibrating, five is auspicious worship, six is fierce worship, seven is Qi worship, eight is praise worship, and nine is Su worship.

In traditional Chinese culture, the culture of etiquette and the spirit of etiquette contained in it have always occupied a core position. Ritual culture has a long history. Rites originated from the material exchange of primitive societies, the so-called:

Come and go, incivility", is the original meaning of etiquette. The development of rituals is inseparable from religious ceremonies in ancient times. The "rites of worship of the man of God" that have been examined by the predecessors are clear proof.

King Wen of the Zhou Dynasty established a system of rules and regulations and various red tapes, established the principle of respecting relatives, and developed into a system that combines politics and religion with humanity. During the Spring and Autumn Period and the Warring States Period, Confucius not only inherited the function of etiquette as a humane, but also saw its intrinsic moral and ethical significance. And it expounded the spiritual value of etiquette, thus laying the foundation of the humanistic ontology of etiquette.

As a result, the ritual culture has been greatly expanded. Sublimating etiquette into a social ideal, and implementing and promoting it, is the so-called spirit of etiquette. Its essence is to emphasize social order and adhere to social order.

As the essence of traditional culture, the culture of etiquette and the spirit of etiquette pay attention to the policy of affinity and ethical affection. Interpersonal ethics and social order come from and return to people's self, which is the easiest for people to accept and implement, and the easiest to penetrate into the hearts of the people. Historically, it has played a huge role in promoting the stability and prosperity of the society at that time.

We live in an era of financial supremacy of the economy. Money is omnipotent, materialism is rampant; The spirit is becoming more and more vulgar, and traditional culture and moral concepts are facing and undergoing unprecedented tests. Therefore, vigorously promoting the culture of etiquette and the spirit of etiquette is particularly important for improving personal cultivation and building harmonious interpersonal relations and good social order.

In ancient China, there was a saying of "five rites", the sacrificial thing is the auspicious ceremony, the crown wedding is the family ceremony, the guest is the guest ceremony, the military service is the military ceremony, and the funeral is the murderous ceremony. Folklore believes that etiquette includes four kinds of life etiquette: birth, crown, marriage and funeral. In fact, etiquette can be divided into two categories: politics and life.