I m not pushing myself, I don t have to force myself

Everything is divided into two, and so are the personalities. So don't think that your personality is bad, and don't envy the extroverted personality of others. When an introvert tries to become extroverted, he may lose his inner peace and the favor of fate!

It is not uncommon to encounter introverts who are troubled by their personality, but such people should thank God for allowing them to acquire such important personality tendencies. If you think about it, it is impossible for a person without inner affirmation and self-identity to have the sustained strength to develop outward progress and struggle, and it is impossible for a person who only pays attention to the outside world and never reflects on his inner self to achieve success. There has always been an unconscious disconnect in our culture's depiction of individuality, believing that the two personalities are opposites, and that one or the other can only be chosen.

In fact, this is probably the most absurd prejudice of human beings from the concept of either/or. The introverted strength is the roots and trunk, and the extroverted strength is the branches, leaves, buds and fruits. These two psychological forces happen to coexist and depend on each other.

Hehe, after all this nonsense, I will say one more word at the end: whether you are introverted or extroverted, you must be more confident and less inferior. I hope you live a little sunnier and happier

Nature doesn't have rules, and you can't have dark clouds on your head.

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Recently, I have been chasing dramas and books, and I am surprised that I haven't studied and exercised seriously for a long time, and I am unconscious, plus the child is by my side every day, I really have no energy to focus on learning. Sometimes I want to force myself to learn, but I can't learn, and I get distracted after reading a book for a while.

A friend told me a few days ago that he hadn't studied for a long time, and suddenly he had the opportunity to study English alone at home that weekend, and when he talked to me in the afternoon, he said that he had been studying for six hours in a row, and he had to continue, to see how much he could learn in a day, and how long he could persevere. I haven't tried to force myself to learn in this way, I don't think I can do it, unless I want to, it's useless whether others or myself force it.

In fact, learning should be a joyful, active thing, not a forced to cope with errands. Even if I force myself to learn, I don't think it's very productive to spend more time, because your heart is resisting, and your mind can't accept it. Even if it was reluctantly accepted at the time, the memory would not last long and be stable.

When learning, you must have a state and mood, with joy and acceptance, and an open desire to learn to be effective! Of course, the formation of the habit of independent learning is also the key, the power of habit will drive people to bury losses and do things naturally, there will be no psychological burden, such a state is the most valuable. I hope I'll get back to form soon, I'm really scared these days and I don't want to study.

The Jews emphasized that one should constantly strive for progress and try to force oneself rather than others.

Rabbis," a woman once went to the rabbi and complained bitterly, "my husband is a fool—he gives all his money to the poor." Please make him understand that it is a crime to do so. ”

As she spoke, another poor man came in, and he said angrily, "Rabbi, my wife is very sick, and my children are starving, but my rich brother refuses to help us. ”

Then the rabbi said to the woman, "Go back and bring your husband." Then he said to the hungry poor man: "Go back and bring your brother." ”

Both men came.

Why are you so unrealistic, why are you giving all the money to others? The rabbi asked the merciful man.

A person's life is as short as a heartbeat in the world," the person, "I fear that death will rob me of my right to do good." So I spread my money. ”

Then why are you so stingy and ruthless? The rabbi asked the rich brother, "Why don't you help your own relatives?" ”

Rabbin, "Scrooge," how does one know when he will die? What if I live to be old? Do you wish I had nothing in my old age? ”

The rabbi pondered for a moment, then said with a mysterious smile: "May God bless each of you to achieve what you fear most!" ”

The meaning of the rabbin's words is that the merits of the benevolent man should be carried forward, and the shortcomings of the miser should be corrected, otherwise let him experience for himself what kind of harm his own shortcomings can have.

In reality, Jews use the standard of "perfection" to motivate themselves.

"Perfect" is just an ideal, and people can never be perfect. However, the rabbi said that the ideal perfect man is like a star in the night sky on the vast ocean that guides the direction of sailing. When sailors sail on the endless water, with no end in sight, they can follow a star in the sky, sail towards it, and reach their destination.

However, the sailors will never be able to reach the planet after sailing, but they still cannot give up, and still pursue the star in order to get closer to it and guide it to the right course.

The Jews became one of the best nations in the world, by denying that they would never go up, pursuing the progress of mortals, and constantly taking the ideal perfection as the goal of life. Thus, for the Jewish people, although the human being is incomplete, they fervently want to be close to wholeness in order to embark on the right path.

You can do more and don't let your mind have too much time to think. It's going to get better slowly.

Well, right. When the subconscious mind comes, you don't let the subconscious mind pull you, just go with the flow.

This alone does not mean that you have OCD. Sometimes it may be better to try to weaken this emotion.

Hello, you must be thinking about something that concerns your vital interests.

Or something you think is in your own interest.

Or it's a relationship thing.

To get out of the situation, it takes a while to adjust.

Obsessive-compulsive disorder tendency test: 1. There are unnecessary thoughts or words circling in the mind; 2. Forgetfulness; 3. Worry about their untidy clothes and improper manners; 4. Feeling difficult to complete the task; 5. Things must be done very slowly to ensure that they are done correctly; People with obsessive-compulsive disorder.

6. Do things must be checked repeatedly; 7. It is difficult to make decisions; 8. Thinking about meaningless things repeatedly; 9. Inability to concentrate; 10. Hands must be washed repeatedly, points; 11. Repeatedly do a meaningless action; 12. Often suspected of being polluted; 13. Always worry about relatives and make meaningless associations; 14. Uncontrollable opposing thinking and concepts. 15. Habit of saying a word or the same name repeatedly, or walking in the same place and in the same way repeatedly. Course and prognosis:

The onset is usually slow, the course of the disease is long, and the symptoms can last for many years or sometimes mild or severe. Those with obvious pre-morbid personality characteristics, early age of onset and long course of disease will have poor post-morbidity. Symptoms gradually lessen with age; There are obvious mental factors before the disease, obsessive-compulsive personality traits are not significant, and the course of the disease is short; Spontaneous resolution of symptoms may also occur in people with no positive family history.

When you're done thinking about (or doing) something, remember to say to yourself, I've thought about it (or done it) for a while, don't think about it anymore. Imagine you've shredded it with a shredder. At the same time, you need to actively imagine that after you have thought about (or done) it, you will feel safer inside, more powerful, prouder, and more confident than ever before.

When you are able to do this regularly, the psychological problems that once plagued you will go away on their own.

It's okay, it'll be fine later.