My boyfriend is a doctor, and we are in a long distance relationship, how can we last long

Updated on psychology 2024-05-24
16 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-11

    He is a doctor and estimates that he is really busy, and you have very little contact time, so I think you should think about this kind of relationship clearly, consider whether your long-distance relationship can last, if you really love each other, even if the distance is far away and the relationship is weak, you will still guard each other. I think you can talk to him more about your thoughts on a regular basis, and you must make it clear if you have something to say, otherwise suppressing too many small emotions will only become a reason to break up. It's really important to understand each other, it's not just you who tries to maintain your relationship, your boyfriend should also be considerate of you, you have to let him know what you want.

    My boyfriend is 9 years older than me, and he is also in a different place, and he doesn't even see him once a month. Even if he is busy, he will take the time to talk to me, and sometimes he will say goodnight to me in the evening. Every time I couldn't wait for him to reply, I thought he must be busy, and he would reply to me later.

    Therefore, it is very important for two people to trust each other, friends don't think too much, if you really love each other, I believe that you can maintain more communication, I feel that Taurus boys are still more down-to-earth. Emotional things can be done with a heart, I hope you are happy

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-10

    What is lacking between men and women is not seeing each other every day, but understanding and tolerance for each other. He's a doctor, so what is your job? If he is not confident in a long-distance relationship, why not quit his job and come to his city to find a new job?

    If the outside conditions do not allow you to come to his city, then change the angle: it is sometimes inconvenient for others to receive ** back messages when they go to work, and I believe you are sometimes like this. You can discuss that even if you can't meet or talk to each other every day, it's always okay to send each other a text message every day, right?

    If it's true that none of this is negotiable, then divide it early, so as not to drag everyone down.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-09

    I feel the same way. This still depends on what kind of position you are in his heart, if his struggle history is for your future, then you still have the value of fighting, if his struggle is not for you, then he will soon get tired of your various speculations. It's insecure, isn't it?

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-08

    How can you maintain a long-term relationship in a long-distance relationship? Tell you these tricks.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    There is no drama in a long-distance relationship, let's break it up early.

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    If you are about to start a long-distance relationship, I think the most important thing is the psychology, can you believe that this love will work for a long time, and do you have the confidence to persevere to the end?

    Before you are ready to start a long-distance relationship, you need to think carefully about these three questions with the other person:

    First, are you really confident that you can make it to the end of the day?

    Second, can you really distinguish what appreciation and what love is in the face of a handsome little brother and a passionate little sister who accidentally broke into your life?

    Third, can you really control your behavior even when you have an impulse in your heart?

    If you're not so sure, then I suggest you don't start. If you are all mentally prepared, then I will share with you how to maintain the relationship of a long-distance relationship.

    Are you able to fit into each other's lives.

    1) Share more small details in life, joy and achievements at work, etc., try not to spread negative energy, you can express sadness, but don't complain about life, you can express that you miss each other, but don't complain about each other.

    2) Gifts, you can choose a gift, mail it to the other party, attach a small card, write down which day and in what scene you saw this gift, feel that it is particularly suitable for him, and describe it with a sense of picture.

    This is different from the aforementioned snacks, the purpose of the former is to brush up on the sense of presence, and the purpose here is to increase the integration of each other's lives.

    3) Take pictures of objects or scenes that remind you of him, send them to him, and tell him what you thought at the time.

    4) Maintain your common social circle, such as playing video games with each other's friends, giving birthday gifts to each other's family, and maintaining a good relationship network.

  7. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    I received offers from two cities with my boyfriend, so how should this love continue after graduation?

    1. Meet regularly and cherish the opportunity to reunite.

    If you have been separated for a long time, you should try to see each other regularly and enjoy every moment together.

    When you meet, you can take each other to the places you have been, to eat good food, to have fun.

    2. Keep abreast of each other's dynamics.

    When two people are not together, they should maintain regular communication and understand each other's lives and emotions. For example, sending a red envelope or a gift to the other party during the festival, as long as you are willing to pay for the other party with your heart, the other party can also feel your heart, which is also a good way to maintain a long-distance relationship.

    3. Trust each other.

    Two people have to have trust in each other. Full trust is an effective way to eliminate the psychological barriers of long-distance relationships.

    Both parties must be honest with each other, understand each other, and consider each other's feelings, so that the relationship between couples who are far away from each other can be stronger.

    4. Don't stay in different places all the time, find a way to be together.

    Although you are in a long-distance relationship for the time being, you still have to live together in the end.

    That is to say, if you want the relationship to be successful, then you should not be in a different place all the time, and one of you should take the initiative to make concessions or compromises.

    Loving someone sometimes requires you to make necessary concessions. If you are in a long-distance relationship, you don't give in to each other, and neither of you is willing to accommodate anyone, then your long-distance relationship may not be able to go to the end.

    Only when you think in one place, work in one place, and you are truly like-minded and work together, your love will last for a long time.

    In short, when a couple has been in a long-distance relationship for a long time, and you hope that this long-distance relationship can end up with a good outcome, then you have to put in a lot of time and effort for it.

  8. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    Summary. Long-distance relationships are a particularly difficult thing, which means that you don't think your boyfriend treats you very well now, does it?

    My boyfriend and I are in a long-distance relationship, I'm sick, I've been going to the hospital for a while, I'm afraid to go to the hospital later, my boyfriend said You decide for yourself, I didn't accompany you to the hospital, and I don't know what the doctor said.

    Long-distance relationships are a particularly difficult thing, which means that you don't think your boyfriend treats you very well now, does it?

    He later said that you yourself can't make up your mind about anything.

    What he means is that he hopes that you can be mentally independent, and that you can take care of yourself, but I think he may feel that you are not assertive, so you try to be assertive in the future, and if you can't do it, your boyfriend will replace it, because he doesn't comfort you, but says this about you.

    The next morning, after 10 o'clock in the morning, I sent him a message until 9:30 in the evening, and I asked him if I ignored you and you wouldn't look for me, and he said how could it. Then he told me that he was at home, and he didn't tell me when he got home. So he doesn't love me anymore, does he?

    That's not necessarily, it's possible that this guy is that for a while he may indeed have something to ignore you, then he has denied that he will look for you, so you still have to look at the details, maybe his feelings for you have been a little flat recently, so you can take the initiative more when he is not active, if he has always been like this, then maybe he just doesn't like you anymore.

    Because as long as some boys are cold to you, it may be because there are other girls, he is already warming others, this is indeed a fact, a fact.

  9. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    I think if you tell your mom that you have a friend who has sent a critical illness notice, even if you don't say it's your boyfriend, your mom will definitely agree. This is a manifestation of affection and righteousness, there is no reason to refuse because you want to learn, you will know when you grow up, in fact, this kind of thing is not comparable to learning at all.

    Your parents can't ask for leave when you're sick, that's because you just have a small cold, or a fever, or maybe they think you're exaggerating a bit and don't let you take leave, and if there is a big thing, they will definitely take care of your health first. When you talk to your parents, just convince them that it's true, and then explain how the boy used to take care of you, and your parents will definitely want you to see him. But there is another possibility, your parents will go with you, after all, you are young, and your parents will also be willing to meet your friends, and watch you teach you how to behave, and also give condolences to the other parent.

    Here's the problem, you have to figure out whether you want to confess to your parents. I think it's best not to say that he's a boyfriend, as soon as he says it, it involves a bunch of problems of early love, and then he has a congenital disease, and your parents may oppose you going to see him because they oppose you being together, and even have a bad impression of him. So, you should tell the family that this brother has always taken good care of you, is a very important friend of yours, and you are very worried now, and I hope they will approve you to go.

    Be honest in your tone and answer honestly about everything except hiding your boyfriend. I don't encourage you to lie and lie that you have something else, and that you will be miserable when a lie is finally exploded. Also, if your parents are going to accompany you, you must communicate with your boyfriend first, and don't show your stuff.

  10. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    1.You are a junior high school student, there is not only one way to comfort the patient: "lie", not to mention that she is your mother, mother will be sad, you are still young now, and when you grow up, you will know, your mother is your dearest person.

    If you tell your mother the truth of the matter, I believe it will be safer to let your mother accompany you. You can look at him and comfort him, that's your intention, right?

    2.When you confirm that he is critically ill, my mother will not embarrass a critically ill person, and will not let you see her. I think she'll bring you a nice gift.

    If he really needs help, I said yes, everyone can help him mentally, netizens can do it. You don't have to waste your study time on your own.

    Go learn and be brave enough to tell your mom that you will receive unexpected results.

  11. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    You just say that I have a very good friend who is critically ill, and I want to see him once, and the other party is a man, so it is better, if you tell the truth, it will have an impact on you in the future.

  12. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    A critical illness notice has been issued??? Go for it and don't let yourself regret it.

  13. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    Is your boyfriend far away from you? You tell your family that there's a math competition at school that you need to take somewhere else.

  14. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    Your boyfriend said when he called. You have to change it well, it is estimated that after letting go of **, reflect on your relationship, I think it is a long place, I feel that he does not feel that he is not worthy of you, men always like to find a woman who is stronger than their own ability. The relationship between different places is the largest, and there is also the support of the other party's parents.

    You say you want to break up, but you still don't want to break up with him, you still care too much about him, have you thought about it, you always encourage him, if you get married, can you always encourage him, if you can't do it, you will often quarrel. I think you just tell him what you want to say and see what he thinks. Make a decision again.

    Don't try to help him anymore, he will feel like a burden. As long as you do a little bit, don't get angry, and be happy with him. Maybe he'll ever come back.

    If he gets angry, Chengren will be gone.

  15. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    You go to him ** to find him, make it clear, ask for clarity, communication is very important, if you can't even communicate hehe, you understand.

  16. Anonymous users2024-01-27

    Outstanding girls will always meet some men who seem to have potential stocks.

    You change yourself for him and give everything you have, but he says that you are too good to him, and his (education, money, ability, status, appearance, etc.) is not worthy of you.

    This kind of man, who has no self-confidence, depends on you to be subservient in order to get along, that is, you always have to accommodate him.

    What's worse is that he won't be very good to you in the future - if he encounters any difficulties or contradictions, he will "take it for granted" to escape. As a result, you "seek perfection", and the "completeness" that comes from "seeking" is "grievance".

    You advised him to correct it, but he was uplifted, saying, "I knew that sooner or later you would dislike me; I knew that sooner or later you would regret it", making you look like a "negative person".

    Because: a man who said at the beginning that he was not worthy of you will never be worthy of you in the future.

    So: experts say that a man can fall in love with a woman because of sympathy, appearance, personality, and other factors. But when a woman falls in love with a man, it must be in him that she finds a place of appreciation, admiration, and approval.

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