What are some of the things that make you angry?

The other day I drove my friend to the train station with three people in the car, my friend and his wife. When the car came to an intersection, the friend said to turn left, but the friend's wife said to go straight. In fact, both roads can reach the train station, and you can take either way.

Unexpectedly, both of them insisted on their own views and refused to give in to each other. And then I can't see them arguing like this, so I have a few words. It turned out that I was nosy, and I was very angry. ‍‍

Because I'm a truck driver, sometimes I get really angry on the road. I remember one time, I was driving normally, and when I was crossing the intersection, a turning car suddenly appeared. I braked urgently, but fortunately I didn't drive fast at the time, so angry.

Although he was very angry, he quickly suppressed the fire and calmed down. The purpose of let's drive a truck is to make money, and we just need to arrive at our destination safely.

The most hated is the dishonesty of friends, and I believe that this problem is also a problem encountered by most Toutiao friends. Sometimes it's really hateful, a friend came to me to borrow money, and when I borrowed it, I asked when I would pay it back. As a result, when the time came, I did not receive any message of voluntary repayment.

Even if you can't pay it back on time, at least take the initiative to make it clear. Finally, I asked for two days today, and then two days later.

I think the things that make me angry are part of borrowing money, and not paying back the money makes me even more angry.

My classmates helped others speak, and he couldn't say anything I said wrong, and he was always biased towards others.

Sleeping in the university dormitory, playing games and singing in the dormitory next door at noon, I can't sleep at all, and at night the people in my dormitory are playing games, and it's noisy, and I can't sleep well at all.

A friend of mine borrowed my money and then called me stingy, and I really got angrier the more I thought about it.

I feel like when I'm sleeping at school, and then my classmates are amplifying the ** in my ear, these things make me feel irritable. And then slowly. Scream bloody murder.

I usually don't go home often, I am ready to go home for the New Year and find that the parking space is occupied, there is no ** left in the car, I can't contact the driver, I contacted the owner through the traffic management app, and said that I would move the car immediately, and I waited for 1 hour to come.

Recently, I have encountered someone who is more angry in my life. Because I just bought a 2-hand house this year, I don't know if it was like this before. My basement is facing the load-bearing wall, and I don't know how many floors of the electric car are placed on the load-bearing wall all day, which especially affects my basement access to the floor.

I was very angry at first, but then I thought that it was all neighbors.

When I was shopping, I met a shopping guide, the attitude was very poor, I asked him about the product and he still loved to answer the question, what he didn't want to leave, I heard this was very angry, consulting the product is still wrong.

I heard that a landlord rented a house to a person and didn't increase the rent for 20 years, but the tenant renovated the house and rented it to someone else, and later the landlord found out and wanted to repossess the house, but the tenant went to the court to sue the landlord and asked the landlord to compensate him for the renovation costs and losses. In the face of such a conscientious landlord, how could this tenant do such a thing, he is so angry.

People's mood should be like this flower, although sometimes a little gloomy, but the whole should be in full bloom!

When I went to work in the morning, I had a little quarrel with my colleagues. The cause of the incident was only a difference of opinion, so they argued with each other for a few words. It wasn't a big deal, but I was annoyed and angry because of his few words.

Annoyed and angry means: being ashamed and angry because of some unspeakable things that others expose yourself.

I reacted fairly quickly, and when I knew I was angry, I began to deliberately restrain my temper to avoid a bigger quarrel. This is fortunate enough to be an exercise in which you deliberately observe your own emotional reactions.

After waiting for the temper to subside, I sorted out the matter, it can be handled in different ways, his method is not wrong, my method is not wrong, but the starting angle is different.

But why am I so angry? Simply put, it's because my self-esteem has been hurt because I've been opposed.

I think back to the attitude I have always had in dealing with problems. I have a typical approach:

When someone points out my shortcomings in front of others, I get emotional and angry. Because he made me lose face, even if sometimes, I knew I was doing something wrong. I am a person who does not want to make a fool of myself in public, this has been the same since I was a child, let me make a fool of myself in public, I will instinctively be more impatient and irritable.

And when I'm angry, a lot of problems just get worse and worse for me.

Some of the people who are easily embarrassed and angry are people who want to save face. And there are also the following types of face:

1. It is a manifestation of self-esteem. Moderate self-esteem is a good thing, but after that, there will be overreaction and affect interpersonal relationships, such as conflicts with lovers and colleagues.

2. It is a manifestation of vanity. I don't have confidence in my heart, I always want to behave a little better, a little better, which will make me very tired of living, in fact, people, just live a relaxed and real life, what it is, so there are more people who recognize you.

3. It is a manifestation of inferiority complex. I'm afraid that people will look down on you, care too much about other people's opinions, and when it comes to face, you will either be impatient with your relatives or be harsh on yourself. It makes everyone miserable. In fact, not many people care too much about how we are, but some things are exaggerated by themselves.

These three are actually because they want to be recognized by others and are afraid of losing face, so they will have too face-saving behavior.

To ask what to do, it is very simple, it is to change a concept. There are no perfect people in the world, and all people can make mistakes, so you will too.

The truth is very simple, the key is whether you can do it yourself. The more you are afraid of something, the more you have to try something. Whether it's frustration or self-esteem, if you experience more, you won't have anything you can't think about.

Hitan takes the hidden solitaire: after being annoyed and angry.

Niu Yuxia's "annoyance" and "shame" are superimposed together to fuel each other's momentum, and after picking branches and ants to fight people's willpower, a strong emotional "anger" is formed, and the expression of "anger" is divided into two states: action is generally as follows: beating, scolding, burning, killing, robbing, plundering, or self-injury and self-harm, etc.; Physiology usually includes: emotional disorders, the face will be red, the eyes will be bulging wide, the mouth will be closed very tightly, the arms will tremble, the fists will be clenched, and even the voice of speech will tremble with anger, so that the internal physiology will be manifested as a significant increase in heart rate, an excessive increase in red blood cells, and a tight stomach muscle.

Either reaction can have terrible consequences, either hurting others or hurting yourself.

Therefore, how to control negative emotions, dismantle the annoyance and shame caused by others, and not punish yourself with evil words from outside, I am afraid that before the anger burns, we must reflexively go out, look at the current situation, and care for our mother. Then concentrate and calm down, take a deep breath, and face the scene with a calm mind, which is the most powerful counterattack for the other party. Thinking of two famous sayings--- Lu Xun asked the hall to say:

But silence is the greatest contempt", said Eileen Chang: "The highest contempt is to be silent, not even to turn your eyes." ”

Glossary] Annoyed and angry.

pronunciation: nǎo xiū chéng nù

Interpretation] annoyed, annoyed, annoyed. Shame, shame. It refers to the tantrum because of anger and shame in the morning.

It can also be called "annoyance and anger", because of the extreme shame and tantrums.

Source] Qing Li Baojia's "The Appearance of Officialdom" Chapter 6: "That Futai saw that this was the case, knowing that Wang Xietai Yinling had the heart to look down on him, and he was annoyed and angry for a while. "Qing Li Baojia's "Officialdom Appearance" Chapter 31:

When Uelab saw Tian Braid's words like this, he was also annoyed and angry. ”

Example] Qing Li Baojia's "The Appearance of Officialdom" Chapter 31: "When U Errab saw Tian Xiaobraid say such a thing, he also ...”

synonyms] righteous indignation, annoyance, shame and anger.

Antonym] peace of mind.

Grammar] subject-predicate; as a predicate, a definite, an adverbial; Answer: Bo Finch is derogatory.

synonyms] furious; Anger is in the form of color; The old man was ashamed and angry.