My parents asked me to get engaged in October, but what should I do if I can t get so much from his

Since the marriage is a family, they are all their own family, so why bother the man, persuade your parents.

The old idea kills people, and it can be concluded without a bride price, and adults can't pull their faces to find the Discipline Inspection Commission.

Do your best, it depends on whether your family's happiness is important or their so-called face (in fact, money).

You can make a mistake a little later, discuss it with your parents, will they understand? How many love marriages have been lost to money.

How much is the bride price? It's a matter of marrying a daughter-in-law for a lifetime, and it's not a problem to love you and borrow money.

He is good to you, and he is worth more than any bride price. Well said [awesome].

The bride price is 200,000 yuan, and I really can't afford to be sad.

He is good to you, and he is worth more than any bride price.

I'm working in Lao Fengxiang, I can give you a discount if you come over.

When it happens, I believe in love, and if it doesn't work out, I believe in my mother-in-law.

It depends on whether you love him enough and whether he is good enough for you.

Or the first four and the back eight with one hanging.

No one wants to admit it.

Your family asks how much they want.

If you can't take it out, carry it out.

Either don't get married or don't want money Isn't that simple.

You can ask your girlfriend's opinion, see what she says, and then discuss it with your family, maybe it is testing you, your girlfriend will also bring a dowry when she gets married, it is all mutual.

Personally, I think that if this is the case, then don't worry too much, the bride price can be discussed with your parents to settle together.

You can have a good talk with the woman's parents, after all, the two of you really love each other, and you can let the other party's parents lower the bride price.

Talk about the bride price after getting married.

Many families will not be able to get married in the end because of the bride price before they get married. It's not good for either side. So, why not take such an approach.

It is to let the two people get married first and then talk about the bride price. After getting married, others will give gift money, and then the man has enough money to meet the bride price request made by the woman. Therefore, if the bride price cannot be negotiated before getting married, then get married first and then talk about the bride price.

This is also a good solution.

The gift money is used as a bride price.

In China, when we attend other people's weddings, we will bring gift money to express our hearts. The better the relationship and the more you ask, the more you will give the gift. Many families do not agree on the issue of bride price before they get married.

Because the woman thought that the man's bride price was too small, the man said that he didn't have that much money. Then, this is the time to take such a approach. The gift money received from the marriage is used as a bride price for the woman's family.

The gift money given by others is generally not too small, which not only meets the bride price needs of the woman's family, but also meets the problem that the bride price of the man's family is not enough.

The man does not give a bride price, and the woman does not bring a dowry.

In most of our Chinese marriages, there is such a custom, that is, the man needs to give the woman's family a certain amount of money, but the woman will also bring her own dowry to marry the man. However, often before getting married, the two families will have a disagreement over the bride price. Therefore, if you want two people to get married, you can also take such a method.

If the man does not give the bride price to the woman's family, the woman's family should not give the man's family a dowry. Neither family should give the other family a bride price or dowry. Then neither of them will suffer.

The man's behavior at home, in other words, would I reject this man as my partner, let alone my own children with such a man's genes.

Because as a man, shouldn't you be cared for, grateful, and cherish the woman who you want to be with for a lifetime, not to mention that this woman will be the mother of her own child. Before getting married, this man has no ability to favor himself, but to stand on the side of his parents, and in the future, a woman who enters the door, in the face of the unity of this family, is it going to fight alone, or hold back and endure for a lifetime.

The most important question is whether the man has the financial ability to do it, he can't give it, or he doesn't want to give it if he has the ability.

Before getting married, women live so passively, which is not a good phenomenon.

How many men who are obedient before marriage, after marriage, are in a mess, empathize and don't fall in love, hurt their wives, and you are not a person who has not yet decided to become him.

Your family is not short of money, and his family has no money, so don't want it.

You break up with him, you can't find a wife if you want to leave. If his family is too picky, you won't be happy even if you get married.

Summary. Hello, it is a pleasure to serve you, please be patient, you are trying to inquire, please be patient.

My boyfriend, who is not yet engaged, told me that I should ask for a bride price.

Hello, it is a pleasure to serve you, please be patient, you are trying to inquire, please be patient.

Explain that your mom is reasonable.

It was my boyfriend's mother who asked me to communicate with my family about asking for less bride price, and she didn't let me say that she said it.

That's because his family is not financially well-off.

Is this reasonable, how do I feel that I haven't waited for how to think about spending less, and I want to spend nothing for my daughter-in-law.

There is a loan for the house.

I thought your mother would advise you.

It's okay to have less points, and the dowry is also less.

But I always felt that his mother said this in this attitude, and I thought a lot about it.

Is it normal between 10 and 130,000, these are few on our side.

Don't think too much about it, and theirs won't be yours in the future.

Normal. We're going to have 20

Kindness. [Compare hearts].

There is a serious imbalance in the ratio of men to women in China, and the population of men is 30 million higher than that of women. Because of this, the bride price can be said to be one price a day.

But for two people who really love each other, because of Gao Caili giving up their relationship for many years, in addition to helplessness, it may also be a regret. The life of the parents, the words of the matchmaker. I believe that the vast majority of girls will still listen to their parents.

No matter how reluctant. So if you don't want to give up your relationship, you can only accept a high bride price to renew your relationship. It's just that the days ahead will be difficult.

What if you don't give up? If you don't want to give up, the initiative is in the hands of the woman, and you have to find a way to meet her requirements. I am a little more wronged and ask my girlfriend if she can feel sorry for you, reduce the burden for you, or make up for the lack of bride price in another way.

For example, promising her to provide for her parents in the future. Delaying tactics can sometimes solve big problems.

Since it is a relationship for many years, how can it be said that you can give up it, the issue of bride price can be discussed with the woman's parents, and you can try to give or borrow some more according to your family conditions, if the relationship between the two people is good, it is not important, and the money will be earned hard in the future, this is my idea.

I really understand your feelings, children from ordinary families like us have just come out of work and are under a lot of pressure, and few young people can earn a lot of money in a few short years, and they can't afford to buy a house and a car, and they can't afford the high bride price. However, the phenomenon of high bride price has become widespread, we must face this matter with a normal heart, even if it is very uncomfortable, do not complain, sit down quietly and discuss with the woman and her family, and discuss the best result.

This phenomenon exists everywhere, and there are many young people who are forced to take out loans by Zhaoxiao because of the high cost of the bride price, or borrow money to get engaged to buy a house and a car. But it is true that there are many families who can neither borrow nor borrow money, so it is very difficult for such families to get engaged. When this happens to us, we have to look for a solution to the problem, and I believe that with your sincerity, we can negotiate the best outcome.

If the woman's family insists on asking you to pay a high bride price and refuses to back down, then I think you should think about it carefully, because you can't solve this problem. We can also try to give up, and I believe that we can always meet the right people, the right families. Ethnic stupidity.

At this point, you should work well. Let the woman's family see your hope, see your potential, and when everyone thinks that you are a very potential boy, then I believe they will make concessions. If they think you're a hopeless boy and don't have any hope for you, then I don't think they'll back down.

So everything is different from person to person, but not everything is unchangeable, as long as you persevere, I believe there will be a way.

I have summarized it and give you three suggestions: First, talk to the woman's parents to see if your parents are willing to back down and whether the bride price can be cheaper. The second thing is to move them and impress them with sincerity.

The third is to work hard, give full play to your talents, get a stable salary, and make everyone look up to you.

Since you have already thought about whether you want to book it or not, then discuss it with your family and explain it to others.

If you can't talk about the bride price, if you don't want to get engaged, then break up.

Even if you get married, it's a hurdle that you can't get over, and you will always be brought up when you quarrel with your friends in the future. Forget it.

Summary. Hello dear. Logically speaking, it is not right to add a bride price after an engagement. So we should now put ourselves in the boyfriend's shoes.

Hello dear. Logically speaking, it is not right to add a bride price after an engagement. So we should now put ourselves in the boyfriend's shoes.

And the bride price is added after the parents are engaged, this kind of behavior is actually a kind of harm to the children, well.

So now that we have a clear attitude, I will identify this man, and the bride price is the original number.

My parents think that the man's family doesn't have it, and our family is the same thing, because this bride price is discussed between my boyfriend and me, and it was not discussed with my parents until we discussed it, and their family did not discuss it with my parents.

So my parents told them to add a bride price.

My parents will let me take this bride price back.

The normal process is determined before the engagement. That is, before the engagement now, the parents actually don't know the bride price?

Now it's normal to bring back the bride price money. If the parents didn't know before the engagement, then this is really wrong. You two should apologize to your parents first.

The bride price money is what I told my parents after I discussed it with my boyfriend, and my parents thought that the bride price should be discussed with my parents by the man's parents, and my father was angry and felt that they didn't ask me for anything, and the family said that they were directly looking for me to calculate me.

Parents are right about this idea. You can discuss the bride price, but parents must know when making a decision.

You and your boyfriend should apologize as soon as possible.

If your parents just want to make a fuss, apologize and they will acquiesce.

But on the day of the engagement, my parents didn't say anything, and the next day my boyfriend and his parents came to my house to discuss the wedding date, and my parents said that I had negotiated a bride price with my boyfriend, but they didn't agree, and the conversation broke down.

It is basic politeness not to make trouble on the scene. There is no shame in that.

My dad asked the man to bring back all the things he was engaged to.

Your father is really angry. Ask the man to bring a gift to apologize as soon as possible.

If he's just angry, an apology will solve the problem.

If it's late, you really have to add a bride price.