Do you feel that the baby is your own private property ?

Your children are not your children.

They are the children born of life's desire for itself.

They came into the world through you, but they did not come because of you, they are beside you, but they do not belong to you.

What you can give them is your love, but not your thoughts, because they have their own minds.

You can shelter their bodies, but not their souls, because their souls belong to tomorrow, to tomorrows that you can't dream of, and you can do your best to become like them, but don't let them become like you, because life doesn't go backwards, and it doesn't stay in the past.

Thou art the bow, and the sons and daughters are arrows from thee.

The archer looks at the target on the road ahead, and he pulls you away with all his might, making his arrows shoot fast and far.

Bend it in the hands of the archer with a happy heart, for he loves the arrows that fly all the way, and the bow that is incomparably stable.

Your children are not your children.

They are the children born of life's desire for itself.

They came into the world through you, but they did not come because of you, they are beside you, but they do not belong to you.

What you can give them is your love, but not your thoughts, because they have their own minds.

You can shelter their bodies, but not their souls, because their souls belong to tomorrow, to tomorrows that you can't dream of, and you can do your best to become like them, but don't let them become like you, because life doesn't go backwards, and it doesn't stay in the past.

Thou art the bow, and the sons and daughters are arrows from thee.

The archer looks at the target on the road ahead, and he pulls you away with all his might, making his arrows shoot fast and far.

Bend it in the hands of the archer with a happy heart, for he loves the arrows that fly all the way, and the bow that is incomparably stable.

— The above is Gibran your child.

How can a child be your private property, he is an independent being, with whom you are inextricably linked with love and affection, but does not belong to you. All love points to reunion, but parents and children point to separation.

Mothers may think so for a while, and it's all full of happiness.

When children grow up, they have their own thoughts and actions, so that children have their own space.

No longer "private property", everyone should have their own living space.

In traditional Chinese ethics, children are usually the private property of their parents. In the mythological story, Nezha wanted to cut off relations with his father Li Jing and was forced to return to his body. The Book of Filial Piety also says:

The body is skinned, and the parents who receive it dare not destroy it, and the beginning of filial piety is also. With this ethical concept, many parents ignore their children's inner thoughts, do not take into account their feelings, and force what they think is beneficial to them, and implement it if they understand it, and implement it if they do not understand, which often leads to family conflicts and even domestic violence.

Article 3 of the United Nations Convention on the Rights of the Child states: "The best interests of the child shall be a primary consideration in all actions concerning children, whether carried out by public or private social welfare institutions, courts, administrative authorities or legislative bodies." The principle of the best interests of the child became the principle of national legislation.

In China, in the treatment of the relationship between parents and children, the concept of "family-oriented" and "parent-oriented" in feudal society for a long time is deep-rooted, and children are regarded as the private property of the family or parents, without independent personality, and the interests of children are ignored. In today's China, the "child-oriented" principle is of course also reflected in China's legislation on the relationship between parents and children, but the ideological imprisonment that children are the private property of parents has not been completely liberated. As a result, the provisions for the deprivation of guardianship of irresponsible parents are incomplete and procedurally imperfect as reflected in the legislation.

When the adoption law promulgated in 1998 was formulated, although it considered how to protect the interests of children in legislative thinking, it also had a guiding ideology, that is, the principle of parental rights, because the Chinese have the traditional concept that blood is thicker than water, pay attention to family affection, and believe that it is reasonable for children to be raised by biological parents. "Reflected in the judiciary, on issues that are not provided for but not prohibited by the law, they dare not be brave in innovation to protect the interests of their children, and use practice to make up for the deficiencies in the law.

As long as we recognize the notion that children are not the private property of their parents, our society should take up the law to deprive the mother of custody. After all, the law gives us the right to apply to the people's court to revoke the qualifications of their guardians, how to deprive them, who is the claimant, and who bears the guardianship after the deprivation These provisions are not detailed, and it is not important that the public and the public can urge our procuratorial organs and civil affairs departments to safeguard the public interest and safeguard the interests of minors.

For domestic violence, this is a private prosecution case, and the court will ignore it, so in order to protect your legitimate rights and interests, you can only pick up the law and stand up bravely, expose and report the atrocities of your parents, so that their atrocities will be made public to the world and punished as they deserve!

In the past, most people thought this way, and some post-80s generations also had this kind of thinking.

Definitely not, the child is not an accessory of the parents and is not the property of the child. The child is an independent individual, but because his mind is not mature enough, parents have the obligation to protect, educate and raise the child.