Humble to the dust, how can I change the status quo?

If a person feels that he is humbled to the dust, relatively speaking, the environment he is in must not be harmonious and warm, and the lack of self-confidence is not directly proportional to whether he has financial resources. When I was in the second year of junior high school, my family suddenly had an accident, my parents divorced, and since I was a child, I never thought that my beloved parents would suddenly tell us what separation and what is wrong with things in this way. What is the lack of yin eyes...

I remember that day, my parents told me that they were separated, and let us choose who would follow my father and who would follow my mother. At that time, my heart was empty, wooden, and I didn't cry, at that time, I thought about it, I felt that I was older, and I must face a stepmother in the future, worried that my sister was too young to be insulted, I had to take the initiative to choose to follow my father, I will never forget that scene, I carried my schoolbag, holding a few clothes to a strange environment, at that time, when my father led me to the front of the house, the door opened, and a young woman came out of it, to take my schoolbag, and said, here. Let's eat!

At that time, I hated it in my heart, and I knew that it was this woman who ruined my home and ruined my mother's happiness. I didn't eat that day, I just sat on the ground and watched my dad live with other women in a house without my mother.

When I went to school the next day, I felt that I had no strength at all, and I felt that from now on, I was a child with a stepmother, and I was like a child who was playing. I wanted to come up, but there was no place to climb, no rope to get up... When I arrived at school, I sat in my seat and glanced at my classmates, everyone was reading with concern as usual, I calmed down a little, touched my school bag, took out the book and read it carefully.

On that day, my heart was always carried up, afraid that my classmates would know about the changes in my family, and that my classmates would laugh at my pitifulness. I'm afraid that my classmates will laugh at me for being a child who doesn't have parents. I'm afraid my classmates will know that I have a stepmother.

I'm afraid that my classmates will no longer play with me and talk with me from now on. But the more I was afraid of something, and when it came to the evening self-study, the boy sitting in front of me. Looking for what I want to eat, I didn't give it, he was calling in front of the whole class:

Your mother doesn't want you anymore, your father found you a stepmother, and you're a little cabbage from now on. I was anxious and wanted him not to speak, but he was like a monkey, running and jumping, and I kept chasing after him, and as a result, he ran into the men's toilet, and at that time, I stayed for a while, and immediately rushed into the men's room, and pressed him in the corner and beat him. Since then, he and his classmates have never said anything nonsense.

Since then, I have understood that humility is given by oneself, and self-confidence is also one's own feeling. It's not my fault that my parents left, and again, as long as I'm healthy and alive, what am I afraid of? From now on, I am no longer afraid of others knowing, and I no longer care, just live and live a good life!

Since you want to change yourself, you have already begun to realize that everyone has their own characteristics and personalities, and they are all unique people in this world, and we are irreplaceable. So I don't need to have low self-esteem, your inferiority complex is only because you are not as good as others in some aspects, so you will always fall into your own inferiority, if you can jump out of this thinking and find your own shining point, you will not be humbled to the dust.

The first is to cultivate your self-confidence, some people have low self-esteem for a long time, this self-confidence has long been missing, no matter what aspect they feel that they are definitely not good, no matter how easy things are, they also feel that they can't, and then just give up on themselves. You have to develop your own self-confidence in order to be able to get out of this inferiority complex. Everyone has their own strengths, you have to be good at discovering your strengths, and then carry them forward and do what you like.

If you like something, you will take it seriously and make it a good thing for you. In this way, you can make others look at you and think that you are also shining.

The second point is to work hard to improve yourself, if you are poor in all aspects, then you will indeed have low self-esteem, because others are better than you, so you have to improve your own shortcomings. It's not terrible to have problems and problems, the most terrible thing is that you don't want to work hard, you just want to live in your own limitations. If you are willing to work hard, to get rid of some of your bad faults, or to improve your abilities, to make yourself a better person, you can get out of this inferiority.

The last point is to love life, love life is a very important thing, only if you love life, you will feel that every life is precious, every person is unique, you can face yourself. In order to make yourself less inferior, in order to better look forward.

First of all, you shouldn't give up on yourself. I used to have low self-esteem and I didn't want to talk to anyone, I felt like anyone talking about my incompetence, which was useless and a waste of other people's time. So I can only cry silently alone, but after crying enough, I should still do what I have to do.

Because no action makes sense except to change yourself.

Only you can stand up yourself, others will carry you for a while, not for a lifetime. Parents love you forever, and you can always ask for help from your parents. I didn't want my parents to see my incompetence and I didn't want to drag down my friends, so I was on my own.

People can't be useless, find your own shining point, you can't find it yourself, you can let others discover, discover and expand it, you will find that you are not as bad as you think, but there are some places where you do much better than you think. You can't cover up everything because of some shortcomings, it's not okay, you also have to evaluate yourself objectively and fairly. Learn to shake off the pessimism in yourself and tell yourself that even if you are useless, you must live tenaciously.

Because you are who you are, and no one can save you but yourself. Learn to respect yourself and protect yourself.

Identify problems, then fix them. Figure out why you've gotten to this point. Is it because I don't work hard, or because my brain is rusty, and I don't want to use my brain.

When I finished the college entrance examination, I felt that I was very limited. Holding the feeling that I couldn't go for a few hundred minutes, I dreamed of flying to Beijing, Shanghai and Guangzhou, and left home far away, but found that it was impossible, and my score was limited to me and I could only go to an ordinary university nearby.

Don't do things that don't make sense, since you know your incompetence and humility, use every minute and every second to change yourself. To have a direction that you are good at, as your own reliance, a skill that surpasses others, it is better to be able to use it as a job to make money and eat, and this skill can also be used as your own lifesaver when your career is unsuccessful.

Don't use time to kill yourself, no matter how humble you are, your time is precious. Change is your only way out. When I was sad and couldn't extricate myself, I chose to numb myself with a lot of work, and when I was tired and sick, it was the happiest time.

It allows me to forget about the temporary embarrassment.

Don't expect something impossible, being able to do every ordinary little thing well is the greatest progress. Only by being down-to-earth can we go further and further.

We sometimes put ourselves in a weak position, and many times, instead of looking down on you, others look down on you, but you look down on yourself. That's why you feel humbled and pitiful, whether it's in love, friendship, or in the workplace.

My personality has been weak since I was a child, I speak quietly and do things slowly. Sometimes when the teacher asks me questions, I will stand up and blush first, lacking confidence.

When others bully themselves, it's obviously someone else's fault, and they don't dare to reprimand others loudly, thinking that more is better than less, so let them do it. However, we tend to ignore the fact that your kindness to others is seen as your cowardice, and then use this to humiliate and trample on you.

It was only when I was in high school that I changed myself. At that time, everyone was focused on learning, and there were always some bad kids who didn't learn and didn't know how to learn, and they were overbearing. One day when I came home from school, because there was a night of self-study, it was already late after school, and I usually didn't dare to stay, so I went home directly.

That day I heard people crying and cursing in the alley. Listening to the voices, they are probably all girls, as if someone has been blackmailed to collect protection money. I didn't think much about it at the time, I rushed in and found the girl who was being bullied in the direction of the voice, and I ran by pulling it.

When I was running, I was touched by a girl on my chest. The next day, someone looked for me at the door of the class, and it turned out that the school badge on my chest was taken away last night. That time, instead of being cowardly, I righteously accused them of being wrong.

It's almost time for class, and they haven't asked me again. But when school ended that night, they stopped me at the school gate. Then I was caught in the black alley like a chicken, and they asked me for a sum of money, and I wouldn't be in trouble again.

That was the first time I had the courage and wisdom to do so, and instead of being tough, I promised to go back and get the money first, and then give them to them the next day. I went back and wanted to tell the principal about it, but there was no evidence, and their families had a certain background.

The next day, I met them with the money. But at the same time as I paid the money, I also brought my mobile phone and turned on the recording function. That is, I took their words.

If you give this mobile phone to the police station, then they are likely to go to the juvenile correctional center, so I gave this evidence to the principal, and in front of the evidence, no matter how great your ability is, there is nothing you can do.

After that, the principal announced the dismissal of several of them. From that moment on, I understood that I had the power to protect myself. Since then, I have been strong, I will not be bullied anymore, and I can walk with confidence.

Therefore, humility and low status are your own psychological problems, as long as you are confident, you are not worse than others.

No, the more you have no bottom line for him, the more he will have to make inches and disrespect you, and if this continues, you will not have a future.

No, I think liking is a two-way street, it's useless for a person to be humble, he doesn't like you, it's useless for you to be humble.

No, I think at least I'm still myself, I won't change myself for others, once you change yourself, no one else will take you seriously.

No, I think you have to have an ego before you can love others, you don't have a self, and others won't care about you.

Yes, I had a crush on someone before.,Very good to him.,All his difficult days were spent with me.,I put myself very low to like him.,But in the end there was no result.。。

No, unequal love generally doesn't end well, and putting yourself too low is giving others the opportunity to step on you, and I will never do it.

Yes, he has nothing to do, I accompany him, when he is beautiful, he splits his legs, but I think as long as I don't get divorced, home is there, only to find out later that I put my posture too low, I really regret it.

No, feelings are inherently reciprocal, I can accept that you don't love me, but I can't accept a humble self.