How many people don t like blind dates? Why do many people not like blind dates?

Blind date is a way that many people don't want to accept in love, more people are willing to fall in love for a long time or love at first sight, the former is emotionally stable, and the latter is to meet the male god and goddess who have feelings and take the initiative to like each other from their own eyes. With subjective initiative, ordinary people need to invest a lot of energy in their work no matter which city they work in, and there is a lot less sincerity between people. Most of the reasons why marriage or love is caused by blind date is because there are too few resources around and the social circle is narrow.

There is also a reason that the blind date market is mainly dominated by the post-80s, which is a generation that has been pitted by the state, and the good ones have not caught up with the bad ones, and the house has killed the dreams of this generation.

I think most people don't like blind dates now. If you can find yourself, you are really willing to go on a blind date. I think it's becoming more and more difficult to find someone you like now, because there are many blind dates now, and they are all clearly priced.

If you want to make it for everything in the family, and correspond to the other party's conditions one by one, this is not clear that it depends on the money.

I have a friend around me who is like this, she is a girl who is quite beautiful, but she has not been married for a long time, and the family has arranged a lot of frequent blind dates for her, but she almost doesn't go now, once I talked to him, I said that the family arranged so many blind dates for you to look down on, the light is really high enough. He told me that the blind date is getting more and more disgusting now. Now the blind date is to make the conditions of your home clear, that is, directly open the three chapters of the conditional covenant, what do you have in your family, what am I asking, and then the two of them make an agreement, if you can, you will get married, if you can, you will not get married.

There is no such thing as cultivating feelings between two people, as long as your family can be the right person, and two people can respect each other and fall off each other, then the two of us can immediately get a marriage certificate, I think this kind of love is ridiculous, and marriage is a long, long thing is a lifetime thing. If it ends so quickly, I wait to talk like this, I think it's a pity, and the price is clearly marked on the blind date, and the marriage that comes is not in love, and the two people haven't even talked about love, so they walked directly into the palace of marriage, I think it's very sad.

Later, I thought about it, and that's the case, now more and more people have to start talking about the conditions on a blind date, what kind of conditions do they want, they ask the other party to have better conditions to their own family, the door is right, now it's the 21st century, and there are still so many marriages that have to be measured by material love, I think it's really sad. I feel that people nowadays should not like this way of blind date, to clearly mark the price of marriage, I don't think it's called love, if you can find your true love, why is it still a blind date? Many people are forced to go on blind dates by their parents, first of all, it is involuntary, I think this kind of blind date is very meaningless, so now there are many, many people who don't want to go on a blind date at all.

In today's society, there are no blind dates, only a few people choose to go on a blind date, maybe it is because of the loss of love that leads to wanting to go on a blind date, or maybe it is the unanimous vote of relatives and friends, but they are forced to go on a blind date helplessly. Children are also more precocious and free to fall in love, blind dates always feel that it is just a form of seeing the right eye to become the wrong eye to say goodbye, love is a very beautiful thing, is what everyone yearns for, it is romantic, warm, happy and sweet. So I like to know him through my own life, understand him, and slowly develop feelings, which is the beginning of a relationship and a good memory.

When they are old, they look back on how happy they were before. For me, I don't want to go on a blind date, even if one day I listen to my parents and go on a blind date, that is, go to a formality, meet, and goodbye will be indefinite. Say <>

To be honest, not long ago, I was introduced to someone who was studying electrician, and his family had several houses and cars. I politely refused, saying that I would focus on work first, but my aunt always insisted on adding a WeChat chat. So, the boy added me, and we talked for up to three days, and it turned out that neither of us had any intention of being together.

And just like that, we said goodbye happily. I also gave my aunt an explanation, saying that I know the root of the blind date, but I don't think I know anything about him, don't you just know that there is a car and a house. And if we know the least character and character from our classmates or colleagues, or ourselves, we will also feel very secure.

At the same time, what I need is that he must have a house and a car, but a responsible, motivated, down-to-earth, and truly good to me. I believe most people think so.

First, maybe it's because of stage fright, or maybe it's because I'm embarrassed.

Everyone's personality is different, that is to say, not everyone can talk eloquently in the face of a stranger, calmly as if he is a nobody, like facing an old friend for many years. Just like some people, since childhood, they are introverted, withdrawn, unsociable, and don't like strangers, so they resist the contact of strangers in their hearts.

It's like a person who is afraid of heights, and he can't see heights; It's like a person with a phobia of density who can't see dense things.

That fear comes from the deepest part of the heart, not to be controlled and changed. And many parents don't understand very well, thinking that blind dates are just a trivial matter, is it necessary to be so repulsive?

There are also some people who are not good at words, although they are usually very arrogant, but when they see strangers, they are immediately timid, unnatural, and do not know what to say or what to talk about. So it made the atmosphere very awkward, and I always wanted to find an excuse to escape, and after experiencing it once, I never wanted to experience it a second time.

As the saying goes, people are different, and what you can accept does not mean that others can accept it.

Second, the most important reason is that you will feel very shameless.

In ancient times, there was a saying that a soldier could not be killed. Although it is not so serious today, it is enough to show that face and dignity are very important things, both men and women, although sometimes vanity is at work. In the face of blind dates, many people will have such a mentality:

It's not like I don't want it anymore, so why do I have to go on a blind date? ”

As a result, many people think that only people who can't find a partner will go on a blind date. Why can't I find an object? It shows that he is not good enough, so everyone will think that if he goes on a blind date, he proves that he is not good enough.

Then I was worried that my relatives and friends around me would find out about it, and they would laugh at themselves, and I would feel very shameless after being passed on. Even if blind dates are already very common, even if many people can accept them, but in the deepest part of their hearts, there will be more or less such scruples and worries.

Especially young people, vanity and comparison are even stronger, and everyone is so good-looking, so no one wants to lose face.

Third, I feel that the blind date is unreliable.

There is a kind of person who has been full of expectations and fantasies about love since childhood, and the love and marriage in their hearts should be as beautiful and romantic as in fairy tales. So, when it comes to blind dates, I am very unwilling, and I feel that my marriage should not be so casual or realistic.

In the deepest part of their hearts, they feel that blind dates are just to find someone to live with, and it has nothing to do with love or romance.

In general, the progress of the blind date is relatively fast, sometimes the two people are not familiar with each other at all, and they will be urged by their parents to agree to get along, so at this time it will make people feel a little disliked, and at the same time, the two people are not easy to understand, after all, they have not known each other before.

Generally speaking, blind dates are introduced by parents or elders, and most of them will have resistance.

In recent years, more and more young people have resisted blind dates, which is an increasingly common phenomenon. First of all, most young people think that blind date is a traditional way of marriage and love, and they may not be used to this way and they don't like it. Secondly, most young people believe that the blind date process may be too stressful and awkward, which is not conducive to their development in marriage and love.

In addition, most young people believe that they can find someone they like through online social networking** and online communities, which is easier and more free than blind dates. Finally, the development of modern society has also influenced young people's attitudes towards blind dates. With the development of society, modern people have a more liberal lifestyle, and they think that they have more control over their lives than let their parents decide their marriage.

Therefore, the development of modern society has also had a certain impact on young people's attitudes towards blind dates. In general, today's young people resist blind dates mainly because they are not used to this traditional way of marriage and love, as well as the new way of life brought about by the development of modern society.

In modern society, there are many reasons why many young people don't like blind dates:

1.The concept of free love: With the development of society and the openness of ideas, more and more young people advocate the concept of free love, believing that free love can better reflect personal independence and autonomy, while blind date will be considered to interfere with the freedom of personal love.

2.Internet dating: With the popularization of Internet technology, young people can meet more members of the opposite sex through social software and online dating platforms, and have more free and open communication and communication, making it easier to find like-minded partners with them.

3.Time pressure: In modern society, many young people face a huge time pressure and are unable to find time to participate in blind date activities. Blind dates take a lot of time, which affects work and personal life, so many young people do not like to participate in blind dates.

5.Social anxiety: Many young people feel nervous and uncomfortable when facing social situations, especially for those who are not very confident in social situations, blind dates can make them feel stressed and anxious.

6.Don't like to be arranged: Many young people don't like to be arranged on a blind date by their parents or relatives, they believe that marriage is their own affair and should be decided by themselves, rather than being forced to arrange.

In short, young people in modern society have different feelings of resistance to blind dates, which reflects the changes in social attitudes and values, as well as young people's pursuit of freedom and independence.

Nowadays, many people, especially young people, do not like blind dates, for a variety of reasons, according to my personal observation, there are mainly the following factors:

1. The blind date has a strong purpose, which makes people uncomfortable.

Many people are averse to blind dates because this kind of purposeful meeting makes people feel very uncomfortable. Most of the blind dates are introduced to each other by relatives, friends, colleagues, matchmakers, etc. They are all strangers to each other and have no common circle of friends and hobbies.

When we meet together, most of them are awkward conversations.

Even if you don't see it at first glance, you have to force yourself to find a topic to talk about. When encountering shy, introverted, and non-talking, the scene is extremely embarrassing. This kind of forcible meeting, a blind date with a clear purpose, makes people feel very suffocated.

2. A blind date is more like a transaction.

Blind date is really a market, where men and women are clearly priced, have cars, houses, jobs, etc., just like goods for sale, waiting for others to pick and choose. Many people go on blind dates, and their parents force them to go, and not many people like to be treated as a commodity, and they are very unhappy, and even have some indignation!

3. In the blind date process, the sense of oppression is too strong.

People who have been on a blind date should understand. The steps of the blind date are very simple, after the two people meet, talk about their own situation, then ask each other about the situation, and then put forward their requirements for the other half. Based on the overall judgment, consider whether to continue the relationship.

This kind of behavior has nothing to do with love, it's more like a mechanical step by step to complete a task.

Imagine two people who are strangers to each other and forcibly pull each other together to meet. There is no feeling of love at all, in most people's hearts, they feel that they have to be happy with the person they like, and the blind date is just to complete the task, and with each other, the result must be boring.

So for the blind date, I think we should respect the ideas of young people more, and be more understanding and tolerant, let them choose by themselves, there is no need to force them to do things they don't like, it will really backfire.

Blind date is a very common way to marry in traditional Chinese culture. For most Chinese families, blind dates are also a traditional way to choose marriage. In this case, many years of vertical fighting light people will find themselves "arranged" by their parents to go on a blind date, but many young people may not have thought about whether they are really willing to follow the family's arrangement to go on a blind date.

My opinion on this topic is that although we should respect the opinions and suggestions of our families, the final decision should be made by ourselves. This is not to say that we can ignore the concerns and suggestions of our family members, on the contrary, we should listen to their opinions, think carefully and make our own judgments.

If we really feel that this blind date has a chance to develop into a real relationship, then we should actively participate and try our best to get to know each other. If we don't feel like it's appropriate, then we should also be honest with our family members about what we think and try to avoid hurting each other's feelings.

However, we cannot completely ignore the wishes of our family members because of our own personal opinions. We need to think carefully about our decisions and respect the ideas and suggestions of parents. Family members are more experienced and able to see issues that we young people don't see, and their advice may be correct.

If we have confidence in ourselves, then we will communicate well with our parents, and maybe we will get a better outcome.

All in all, when deciding whether to follow the family's arrangement to go on a blind date, we should think carefully about our own ideas and respect the family's advice to ruin the feast. Blind date is actually an opportunity to meet a future partner, and if we meet the right person, we should not give up easily. However, we must not leave our happiness to others because we are obedient to family arrangements.

The final decision should be made by ourselves, and the responsibility lies with us.