How do you look at over giving, over intense love?

In my own opinion, once I say the word excessive, I don't think anything good will come of it, whether it's love or something else. In fact, when two people fall in love, they will always have different feelings, and the most feared thing in love is excess. Once it is excessive, then the love between you will not last long, no matter how much you love him, or how much he loves you, excessive is not good.

The love in my heart is that the two of us pay about the same, in fact, it doesn't matter if one party has a little more. But once it's overdone, it's really going to end up in a hurry.

Recently, I watched a Korean TV series called the third-rate road, the second male and female second in the play belong to such a couple, one side is over-giving, the other side is over-intense, you say that such a thing exists in two separate people, it's okay, but such an excess exists in the woman's body, the girl is always very picky on herself, she won't buy clothes by herself, she won't buy cosmetics by herself, she always uses a trial suit, but the things she buys for her boyfriend are always the best, because if you love him, you have to give him the best, I believe that boys also love her very much, but then other girls slowly appeared, but in the hearts of boys, girls are still the only ones, but there are always some things that have changed, and they have become different. Every time I watch it, I think this girl is stupid, I think you really don't have to give everything in love, really have reservations, not to say that you are selfish, or to love yourself a little, if you only love him, then in the end he will not love you, and you will lose the person you love, which is really a very sad thing. So at all times we have to remember that it is very important to love you, and it is also very important to love ourselves.

Everyone doesn't want to always have someone in their love who gives too much and loves you too much, and we all want to get the same love from each other. Half and half of the two of us will get the most complete whole, and if we have two-thirds of one person and one-third of one-third, it is very likely that we will end up with 0.

Giving too much in love will make one partner proud and at ease, and at the same time, it will also make the other person humble. There is nothing wrong with such a situation to exist for a short time, but as time goes on, it will definitely affect the relationship and make the relationship slowly come to an end.

In my personal view of love, I have always believed that two people in love need to pay equal love in order to maintain a relationship for a long time. Such a situation is like a balance, only the same weight can maintain the balance. Add weight at one end and this balance is bound to be upset.

Overpaying romance is not a good thing. At first, we will think that this is the best way to spoil our lovers, and we are willing to spoil our lovers like this. Over time, this heavy love can be overwhelming, and it can be so heavy that it can be suffocating.

A friend next to him made a girlfriend who was 7 years younger than him in Lingcha, and at first he accompanied her to do whatever she liked in order to make his girlfriend happy. These things affected his life, and they were not what he wanted. At first, he was able to forcibly convince himself to accompany his girlfriend to do these things; After a year, he began to get tired of his girlfriend's request, and the two quarreled frequently, and finally failed to continue.

When we are in love, we should have no reservations, and we should pay to our lovers, this payment does not mean that we are ashamed to do it, we have to pay far more than our lovers to us. As the old saying goes: "Peach reciprocates", the real relationship is that in your coming and going, the balance of the relationship is maintained, and the lovers see that they care about each other, and finally use mutual care and thoughtfulness to make the relationship smoothly upgrade to marriage.

It is not love that is overgiving, but the love that parents have for their children. This kind of love will make children develop bad habits, and the same is true for lovers.

Therefore, in a relationship, we should not overgive. If you want to make the relationship last for a long time, it is key to maintain equal giving.

If you give too much in love, you can get hurt in the Zen shirt, and in the end, both parties are likely to face a breakup, and then you may suffer a lot of losses, and it will also affect your mood, and you may not be able to get out of the shadows indoors; I don't think you should give too much in love.

It will cause great damage to the canopy itself; should not pay too much, too much payment slip and rot, will always make yourself have high expectations of the other party, and will always hurt your own letter leakage.

may make the other person disrespect themselves and is likely to break up; I don't think you should overgive, it will be undignified.

I think we should be able to look at love dialectically, consider it seriously, give sincerely, don't deliberately pursue love, we need to go with the flow and stabilize our minds!

So what kind of emotional outlook should we have?

1.If you love someone, you want to give him all the good. But to get someone, you can't be too nice to him, because the more you give, the less he will cherish it.

Love is to give without reservation, but life is to give and reciprocate. When you blindly love someone, it's not life, it's masochism. Happiness is the one you love, and he loves you.

It is you who take care of people, and others take care of you.

Love is mutual, not unloved.

Some things will always pass, some feelings will always be in my heart, I have heard the songs you have heard, watched the movies you have watched, time passes, and I silently bless you. Hongchen's ferry, people come and go, if next time, I still have the fate to meet you, I hope the ending is the rest of my life.

2.The beauty of love lies in its uncertainty, we look at it with an open mind, love is an experience, a feeling we can choose to experience or choose not to experience, there is no right or wrong, as long as our actions and inner thoughts are consistent, there will be no consumption. If you choose to experience, you have to be attentive, just like happiness is to experience sadness, and at this time, don't be too externally de-materialized, for example:

Love must have what kind of result, what kind of result, but more to **** their own heart, our own inner things we face, we assume our own responsibility, you do it, you do it right, the world is good.

3.Love is a metaphysics, some people may be in the eyes of others, but in the eyes of some people can shine, sometimes we will be tempted by a person at this moment, it is determined by our history, our growth is determined, for example, in that person to see the ideal self, to see the former self, in short, we see the shining point.

I recently saw such a message on the Internet, what will happen if one of the parties in a relationship overgives? In my opinion, in a relationship, both people should be required to be equal, and there should be no over-giving, if this is the case, then the person who over-pays will be bored with the relationship, and he will think, in this relationship, what is he, the person who over-pays will really think more, will think about whether he will be used, and there are some messy problems in his mind. Originally, in a relationship, it should be that both of them come back together, so that the love can last for a long time, and there will be no regrets.

1. Everyone should be equal in relationships.

In the eyes of many girls, after falling in love, boys should be allowed to pay, girls should not pay, and they take it for granted, but this idea is very wrong, why just ask boys to pay, and girls don't have to pay, we, as girls, should also think about it from the perspective of boys, if it is you, you have been paying, then will you question this relationship, will you think this relationship is worth it, I believe, no matter who it is, as long as you have been paying, One day the relationship will break down, and in the relationship, men and women should be equal. <>

Second, a good relationship is maintained by two people together.

All of us are adults, and we should all know very well that a good relationship is maintained by two people together, not only one party is paying, a relationship, two people should pay together to maintain this relationship, so that the relationship will come to the end, and the ending will not leave any regrets, otherwise, the person who has been paying will sooner or later propose to break up, because he has always been a person giving, he will feel that there is no need to continue this relationship. <>

In each of our relationships, don't always think about letting others give, the relationship between two people is the best.

Over-giving by one party in a relationship will cause the other party not to cherish the relationship, feel that they can do whatever they want, can make the other party very willful, and can make the other party irrational, these results are due to the over-giving of one party in the relationship.

Gold Medal Lecturer 10 Years Senior Marriage Emotional Psychological Counselor Tian Xiaorong In marriage, excessive giving is a lack of boundaries.

One party in the relationship gives excessively, and excessive care and giving, first of all, loves the other party too much, and it is also an obsession, which may cause the other party to be disrespectful and not cherished, resulting in a wounded soul.

I love each other more and more, so I put in a lot of energy, I don't get the same response, I will complain, and in the end I will break up.

It will put pressure on the other half and feel that it has to be reciprocated. There will be cracks in the relationship between the two. Finally leads to a breakup.

Don't doubt the true love of the world, although the feelings of this era are mixed with many factors, but there must still be true love. It's just that the time has not yet come, God will give you some training, and I always feel that the more tempered people in the front, the better they will get if they survive. Don't be discouraged.

True love is not something that can be expressed in words, it comes from the heart, don't be afraid of being hurt when you fall in love with someone, because you are concerned about him (her), you want to see him (her) every minute, you will be excited when you see him, your heart beats faster, you will feel very warm and safe when you are together, real love a person will be willing to take care of him (her) care for him (her), you will be happy when you see the person you love happy, you will also be troubled when you see him (her) troubled, But you will do everything you can to make the person you love happy, the real love of a person will want to grow old with him (her), and he (her) in love, you will look forward to using all your love to bring him (her) the greatest happiness in the process, you also get another kind of happiness!

In the process of love, hurt is inevitable. Because the deeper you are hurt, the deeper you love.

Finally, good luck.

If love is wishful thinking, the love will not be responded to by the other party, but only unilaterally, and you may feel that the more love you give to the other party, the more you will be hurt. The more you pay, the more you will drop the price, and you will naturally be looked down upon by the other party.

Love is like this, instead of being so humble and loving someone who doesn't love you, it's better to be a single aristocrat. Begging for love will only make your efforts go down the drain, and in the end, you will be hurt to the fullest and heartbroken. Love is like this, you have to know how to do it and cherish it.

If two people in love are happy with each other, there will be no one-sided emotional giving. Feelings are very true and kind, one person pays to another person, not to please another person, but from the bottom of his heart wants to be good to her, and the other person will also feel her good to him, will give a positive response, will be grateful, will empathize, naturally there will be a flow of love in each other's love, and there will be temperature in the feelings. There will be love in return for each other's efforts, and feelings will blossom and bear fruit.

Naturally, there is no question of the more you give, the more you hurt.

Like, two husbands and wives love each other, the wife will go out and hand the bag to the husband, and the husband will give his wife a loving hug, and then say "I'm going to work, bye-bye." This kind of love is reciprocated, not given by one person.

This has to be looked at separately. If the other party also loves you deeply, then there is no harm, but you and me, full of happiness. If one of them has a playful attitude and eventually leaves you, the proposition is true.

At this time, the classic line is "I poured out my heart and lungs to you so much, why did you treat me like this?" If you understand that "love can't be forced, barely there is no happiness", if you can afford to take it and put it down, the hurt will be relatively small, after all, in love, sometimes the damage is mutual. If you get into the horns and can't get out, then the more you think you give, the more damage you feel.

Because of deep love, it hurts so much. But remember, love is a process of interaction between the two parties. Since the other party has made up his mind, it is not interesting to force it to stay, and the long pain is better than the short pain, so "let it be once, the pain is enough".

Start again, and within ten zhang, there will be fragrant grass.