I doted on the result. What do you mean by doting?

After reading what you wrote, in fact, I can only say that there are no absolute bad people in this world! Most of my personality is caused by the environment I live in! A large part of my personality is very "deformed", and I know it myself, so I can understand your feelings very well!

Don't feel like you're hopeless, finally one day you'll figure it out for yourself, change your own, and everything is on your own! If you want to talk, feel free to do so!

I know you're lonely, right? Because I can feel it from your words.

Actually, I'm lonely, though not as serious as yours.

It works: think every day about how you can make others happy. You're going to do your best.

The amount of help to those who really need help and are happy. It's very important to do that.

It's simple, but it's also hard.

Do you need to communicate with people?

A good person with Pisces & O blood type.

o(∩_o...

Actually, you don't have to be so inferior. Because the difference between good people and bad people is only one thought. As long as you repent and turn to yourself.

There is also a saying: actions speak louder than words, so take action. It doesn't matter if you're back.

You still have a long way to go, so you don't have to stuff yourself so much. Also, just like you thought when you were a kid. The people in the world have not changed, they are all good people.

It's just that the attitude of doing things and the way of solving problems are different.

It's okay... I did 90% of those things when you were a kid ...

I think I'm normal ...

Just because you know your flaws means that you are normal ...

Change can change. Accept what cannot be changed ...

In a word.. You are normal ... Don't give up on yourself...

I'm back in your post, remember to read it! Look for my name!!

A clear conscience is fine.

Doting means being overly pampered.

Basic explanation: It is usually parents who spoil their children.

Most of today's parents know that spoiling their children is harmful, but they can't tell what spoiling is, let alone whether they have spoiling at home.

Doting is a kind of love that loses reason and directly destroys children's physical and mental health.

From: Southern Dynasty Liang Jiangyan "Empty Qingfu": "Doting, the soul is gone." ”

New Tang Dynasty Book Gaozong Ji Zan": "Gaozong dotes on the seat, does not quit the frost, and the poisonous flow is balanced, and the state family is harmed." ”

The fourth episode of "Dream of Red Mansions": "It's just that now this Xue Gongzi lost his father when he was young, and his widowed mother pitied him for being a lonely species, which was inevitably doting and conniving." ”

Cao Yu "Pekingese" Act 1: "He has been doted on by his mother since he was a child. ”

Types of coddling:

1.Special treatment, the status of the child in the family is superior, and special care is taken everywhere, such as eating"Eat alone"and good food was laid before him for him to enjoy; Done"Only child", grandparents can not be birthdays, children have to buy big cakes for their birthdays, and there are many people who fit him like him"Little Emperor"The same.

2.Easy to satisfy, the child will give whatever he wants. Some parents also give a lot of pocket money to young children and elementary school students, and the satisfaction of the child is easier.

Such children will inevitably develop a bad character of not valuing things, paying attention to material comforts, wasting money, and being inconsiderate of others, and will have no patience and the spirit of enduring hardship.

3.Life is lazy, children are allowed to eat, live, play and study irregularly, do whatever they want, sleep lazy, skip meals, wander during the day, watch TV late at night, etc. When such a child grows up, he lacks self-motivation and curiosity, and he can get by.

For the healthy growth of children, parents should give their children full love, but if they love too much, they will become doting, and spoiling is harmful to children's health, just like laissez-faire. So, what are the manifestations of doting?

1. Parents are subservient to their children, responsive and obedient, without principles and requirements.

2. Take care of everything for the child, take care of it excessively, and don't let the child do what he can or should do.

3. The material life provided for the children is too superior, even exceeding the normal economic capacity of the family.

4. Do not give children the opportunity to contact difficult and difficult environments, and do not let children suffer a little grievance.

5. Always boast about the child's strengths and advantages in public, and justify the child's shortcomings everywhere. In addition, parents should also recognize that although the spoiled child may be healthy and intelligent. However, these children's non-intellectual qualities are defective, such as willfulness, selfishness, strong dependence, inability to get along with others on an equal footing, weak character, etc., which will inevitably affect the normal development of children's intelligence.

When these children grow up, they have difficulty adapting to normal social life and the competitive environment, and may also develop behavioral problems.

Some parents are deeply troubled and confused by their children's "inadequacy". The so-called "failure" is that parents think that their children do not have the conditions for success or are difficult to educate, but in fact, the root cause of this problem is still in the parents. Parents should be reflective:

What kind of education and influence do we give to our children, and what do children really lack? On the whole, it seems that children do not succeed because of the lack of education in the following aspects:

1. Lack of education with lofty ideals. There are many children who just want to grow up to "be a boss" and "be a big official", in fact, this is a reflection of the parents' (and some people in society) eager for quick success and quick profit in their children.

2. Lack of education on the concept of right and wrong. The influence of the moral concept of right and wrong reflected in the words and deeds of parents on children should not be underestimated.

3. Lack of cultivation of good habits. If parents do not have the habit of reading and learning, but talk about treats, gifts, eating, drinking, and playing, it is impossible to ask their children to study hard.

4. Lack of frustration education. Parents' doting on children makes children live like "princes" or "princesses", and indulgence is more than control, children cannot have a strong ability to resist setbacks, and it is difficult to overcome difficulties and setbacks on the road to success.

Remember not to be overly spoiled, spoiling is a poison.

Doting is not love, it is harm. When the child grows up and is sensible, he is not grateful for this kind of love. But it is difficult for parents to let go of their children, there are too many parents who are reluctant to see their children frustrated, this is the heart of parents in the world.

Therefore, in order to achieve great love, we must look far away, and cultivating the quality of independence and self-improvement is true love.

Dodging is an unscientific form of love. The cultivation of the next generation is not self-righteous satisfaction, but should be a reasonable, positive, and in line with the direction of social development of education and guidance. Make it an independent existence with a certain social value.

There are many kinds of spoiling in the world, but there is one kind of love that is selfless, that is, the love of parents for their children, love can help children grow up healthily, but doting prevents them from growing.

Children are the treasure of parents, love children is the instinct of parents, in our Chinese family education, Chinese parents doting on their children are among the best. Doting is a deformed psychology of human nature, a shackle, a trap, a rope, and a dangerous code.

In our Chinese family, every parent pampers their children, and the children are really born and grown in the honey pot. It is the nature of parents to love their children, but if they love their children too much and fall into doting, they are harming their children, which is a dereliction of duty of parents. The elders are always very sorry that their grandchildren will suffer, and they always refuse to let their children learn to walk on the ground and fall on their heels.

The grandchildren are spoiled, they come to stretch out their hands for clothes, and they open their mouths for food. The child does not do housework at all, the child does nothing at all. You see, even in the school's mountaineering competition, there are parents who follow and rent a sedan chair to carry the child up the mountain, for fear that the child will make a mistake, and he will be harsh everywhere.

If this continues, how can the child grow up! When a child reaches adulthood, it is easy to slip on the verge of crime.

However, not every parent is like the previous parents, they know how to educate their children, so that children can develop the habit of doing it themselves from an early age. This develops their judgment, analytical skills and adaptability. Even if their parents are not around, they will do better, step by step towards success, and become the pillars of society.

Wishing for a son to become a dragon and a daughter to become a phoenix is the wish of many parents. But if you want to realize these wishes, you can't spoil them too much, young parents, respected elders, if you want to train your child to be a useful talent, a person with good health and a good heart, then please listen to my advice: please stop your spoiling of children!

Everyone longs for love, and love is a noble state.

The distinction between love and doting, I think, should be the difference between reason and blindness. In our lifetime, we may receive countless loves, and love can come from all sides. In the same way, we will give our love unreservedly to the people we love, and love knows no bounds.

Love will sublimate people's thoughts, and love can melt frozen hearts. Love also awakens and enlightens the formation of consciousness, and it will play an invisible role ...

Doting is formed invisibly, and now many parents have converted love into doting, since the end of the 70s of the last century, there have been only children in China, especially young people born in the 80s. They are all children who have grown up in privileged environments. Now the young people of the post-80s are about to enter their 30s, many of them have already married and have their own children, and most of them are in love and married after the 80s, and they have purchased their own comfort nests with the support of their parents.

Parents would rather suffer themselves, take on debts and borrow to create happiness for their children, and parents pour all their efforts into their children. However, some young people born in the 80s think that it is appropriate and natural to ask for it from their parents. Because they have become accustomed to being the hegemon.

The title and aura of the only child have been hanging over them, and the superiority and doting of family conditions have been exchanged for being withdrawn, domineering, self-righteous, with no one in their eyes, only paying attention to personality, etc.

Now that some of their children are born after the 80s, the superior family conditions of another generation have given their grandparents not care and support. Not to mention serving the old people in the family, the old people only have the share of slavery. The old man became a nanny and handyman with a salary.

The old man in the family has become a grandson...

Don't blame the daughters-in-law for thinking about it, because they are also only children, and they are used to being domineering at home like their sons, and they are used to talking about everything, and when they are in their parents' house, they come to reach out for food and open their mouths. They are all served, spoiled, and accustomed to by their parents. It became a habit to see no one.

After getting married, they are required to take care of the housework, take care of the children, husband and support father-in-law, is it possible for the mother-in-law?

It's really impossible, it's completely impossible! It is the sorrow caused by doting, it is doting that plants the poisonous seeds of doting, doting turns part of human nature into distortion and greed, selfishness... Dodging is pure poison.

How to educate the next generation well, we should start from reason. Both social and family influences education is very important.

If you want your children to not be spoiled in the future, try to train them to be independent and self-reliant from now on, and don't be their accessories and dependent crutches. You need to liberate yourself. Children should be allowed to experience failures and setbacks in practice, and parents are always parents who cannot replace and take care of their children's lives.

In order for children to learn to integrate into society, children should be taught to respect society and others first.

Society is multi-membered, and the purpose of raising children should be clear as parents. Your goal is to raise your child to be a useful person rather than a waste. What kind of fertile soil and seeds will grow what kind of seedlings. What you plant today is what you will harvest yourself in the future.

Dodging is the enemy of life, it is poison...