Am I incompetent in love? Who can tell what is wrong love.

It's not that you can't love, many times it's not that you can't fall in love, but that you are in love and willing to give, and the person who is willing to give up all the prosperity and just wash his hands and make soup for him alone has not yet appeared. Love doesn't need a reason, when you fall in love, everything about her or him is good, and when you don't love, even the advantages are disadvantages, so don't think about him saying that there is something wrong between you or anything. As long as you feel that you are really worthy of this relationship, why care!

But we are all ordinary people, and feelings are really not something that can be forgotten, if we forget it soon after breaking up, I don't care! I guess I didn't really pay for that relationship. The laughter, the tears that a relationship brings us.

It doesn't matter if it's beautiful, unforgettable, or painful. How is it possible to forget it.

But people always have to look forward, not everyone can be calm after a relationship, and not everyone can be lucky to use another relationship to ** themselves. More often than not, what we need is ourselves, I think you haven't let go yet, but I believe you can put it down, time, we use time to improve ourselves, enrich ourselves, let yourself have no time to think about these things, make yourself better and let him regret it! Every day you can get up and say to yourself that you deserve better, a man like this to his ex-girlfriend like this, this kind of ungraceful man is not worth your like this! Come on!

Leave him. Stay away from places where there are.

Slowly you will forget.

I don't know how to say it.

I'll just say that loving someone is painful, but as long as you feel it's worth it, then it's nothing.

There is no right or wrong in love, only whether it is suitable or not, willing or not, happy or not. When you can no longer be together, it is not that he did not choose you, nor that you abandoned him, but that happiness did not choose you, happiness did not choose you, and love did not choose you. So don't be troubled, don't be sad, you should bless each other and hope that each of you will find your true love.

If you feel pain when you lose the other person, then it proves that you don't love him at all, you just want to possess him, and you will only suffer when your possessiveness cannot be satisfied. When you love someone, what you should think about is not what the other person can give you, but what you can give her, can you give him the affection he needs? Can you give him joy and happiness?

Can you be happy with his happiness, happy with his happiness? Only this kind of love is true love, and only this kind of love can be happy.

Please go into the space and find the diary - love without results.

Hope it helps.

Where is the wrong love in this world, there is nothing wrong with loving someone, there is only one reason, that is, fate has not arrived, believe this sentence, you can have it if you are confident in your love, I wish you success!

You still have him in your heart, and it's sometimes hard to completely forget that it's somewhere else, and it might be better to find a new relationship somewhere else.

In this world, it's not like no one can't live without it, and leave the pain to time.

If you can't forget, remember it.

There is no right or wrong in love.

There are only ignorant you and me.

Turning love into a legend.

Think of the most beautiful outcome.

You say you like me, the reason is just that you like me.

Look at my smile, cute, sweet

Reluctantly, I just want to hug you in my heart.

Ask if you love me, I'm sad for your hesitation.

Mistaking like, you love me, stupid

Silly, naïve I made a mistake.

There is no right or wrong in love.

There are only ignorant you and me.

Turning love into a legend.

Think of the most beautiful outcome.

There is no right or wrong in love.

Just look at fate.

Fate has already been arranged.

I'm just a passer-by by your side.

Ask if you love me, I'm sad for your hesitation.

Mistaking like, you love me, stupid

Silly, naïve I made a mistake.

There is no right or wrong in love.

There are only ignorant you and me.

Turning love into a legend.

Think of the most beautiful outcome.

There is no right or wrong in love.

Just look at fate.

Fate has already been arranged.

I'm just a passer-by by your side.

There is no right or wrong in love.

There are only ignorant you and me.

Turning love into a legend.

Think of the most beautiful outcome.

There is no right or wrong in love.

Just look at fate.

Fate has already been arranged.

My love turned out to be a foil.

Not. When I meet the person I like, I will give him the best within my ability, and prove my love with my actions, because I like it, so I am worthy and willing.

No one is incompetent in love, incompetent love is a person's psychological inferiority, not immutable, as long as you work hard, everyone is not incompetent in love. In the past, I thought I was just incompetent, but after going through high school, college, and then working, I found that I still have the ability to love people.

No, because I will try my best to solve problems instead of waiting and being indifferent. Whether love is impotent or not depends on whether you can afford to bear the responsibility you should bear in this love. Love is impotent, nor is it a constant state.

He may be in a state of the moment, and through his own efforts and struggles, this manifestation of love and incompetence will slowly change.

No, in love I can love freely, but also love deeply, I treat love with a beginner's attitude, to learn how to love others, how to love yourself, so I am not incompetent.

No, love impotence is an abnormal phenomenon, and some psychological problems are inseparable, such as lack of confidence or what, if there is a person in love who is love inability, then it is a very painful experience for the other half.

No, I am full of longing for love, and if I meet someone I like, I will try to fight for it. True love incompetence refers to people who don't know how to love, don't want to fall in love, and don't know how to be romantic.

No. Although I can't give my partner the best thing, I can still satisfy him with ordinary items. And I have an unchanging heart, which is the best gift I can give.

No. Inability to love is a kind of mental illness, which is mainly caused by the combination of life experience, personal personality and pressure in all aspects. Moreover, such people are timid and self-conscious, and some circle themselves and draw the ground as a prison; Some only care about themselves and their children, and devalue love as worthless......

I feel like I am.

1. The impotence of love stems from the early pain in our hearts.

Every person who feels "disillusioned" has a once important person in his life who has caused irreparable damage to him, and in the face of the injury, he chooses to suppress himself and not let this pain be released. When he meets someone he loves and loves himself, he will release his pain.

Hurt is the dark side of our hearts, but it is not the cause of our inability to love, but the way we deal with it affects our relationships with other people.

This pain makes us feel self-pity in our relationships, over-protect ourselves, and feel that all problems are the fault of others.

In fact, when we move forward, there will be turnarounds, such as discovering new strengths in our loved ones, but I didn't do that because the pain prevented us from developing a deeper relationship. Hurt makes us think that intimacy is all about insecurity and will hurt you, and the best thing to do is to run away.

When we feel disillusioned, it is less psychologically burdensome to blame those who have disillusioned us and blame them for all the wrong than to change ourselves. This kind of avoidance is the prototype of "love impotence".

2. The incompetent person is a "deserter" in love

There are three traits of loving incompetent people:

1. You only like to fall in love at the very beginning, often love at first sight, once there is a conflict in the relationship, you will immediately cut off your relationship, turn around and run away, or take some evasive behavior.

Second, you are anxious about commitment and responsibility, you don't want to grow up, you want to be a child in love who keeps taking, but you don't want to pay too much for the other person.

Each of our hearts is a mirror of the real world, the world in our eyes reflects the way we look inside, when we feel that love is impotent, in fact, it is not that we really can't love, but we don't want to give, we just want to be loved.

We are afraid of being seen by the other person as our true selves, but we really want someone to love us.

The feelings of the "love incompetent" have reached the stage of "disillusionment", and they will think that the situation is already very bad, and there is nothing they can do but flee. But there are also many people who are willing to look at things from a different perspective at this time, are willing to take responsibility for the relationship, and think about what they are doing wrong.

Therefore, no one is truly incapable of love, we all have the ability to love someone, but it is difficult for us to bear the negative emotions in the relationship. These emotions are already there before you meet the other person.

Psychologists have proposed 4 types of people who are "unable to truly love": receptive orientation, exploitation orientation, hoarding orientation, and market exchange orientation. A person may have only one orientation, or be dominated by one orientation, mixing the others.

1. Exploitative orientation.

Similar to people with a receptive orientation, people with an exploitative orientation also believe that love can only come from the outside world. However, the exploitative type is different from the receptive type, the receptive type is still optimistic and expectant of others, and feels that others have the possibility of actively loving them; The exploitative type, on the other hand, does not believe that others will give love, they believe that the only way to get love is to get love from others through deception or plunder.

2. Hoarding orientation.

People with a hoarding orientation believe that the only way to possess love is to try not to consume it. They are not willing to give; They think that when they give, they are draining their resources. "Don't give" is their bottom line.

If a partner asks the hoarder to give, they will become distant or choose to sabotage the relationship.

3. Market exchange orientation.

People with a market exchange orientation will be willing to give love and think that others will give love to them spontaneously, but they see the nature of love as a transaction: I give you love, so you must also give me love. Market-exchanging people treat themselves as commodities.

They exchange their charming traits for a satisfactory partner.

4. Receptive orientation.

Receptive people believe that love can only come from the outside world, and that the only way they can get love is to rely on others to actively give love, and they can only be a passive recipient, and there is no way to actively receive love from others. Because the receptive person thinks that love can only be given spontaneously by others, and what he asks for is discounted love. So as soon as they feel that the person who gave them love makes them feel cold, or starts to withdraw love, the receptive person will start to panic.

Therefore, when receptive people get along with their partner, they avoid saying "no" to their partner, fearing that their rejection will cause their partner to retract the love they have given them.

I don't think I'm not.

In my experience, the feeling of love is hard to come by. In reality, I have only met a person who Mo Ming likes to love and is willing to pay for him or endure more. That's how I used to think. It wasn't until I saw him that I felt like I was falling in love again.

I couldn't believe that love was so fickle, so I had to admit that I was probably incapable of love, and that I could only stop liking others. It may be due to childhood family reasons, and emotional alienation from loved ones. I don't promise to others, and most of the emotional bonds are suffocating bonds for me.

The subject asked what to do if love is incompetent, I think it can be thought of like this, love is a special ability, for example, the sun will heat up, and we are just the moon reflecting cold light, without this ability will miss some beautiful things, but there is no need to force it.

I sometimes think that people are imprisoned between heaven and earth, and their physiology drives them to find their other half in order to pass on their genes, which is a bad trick of the Creator.

For these ethereal feelings, it is difficult to benefit from clinging to them, so you can divert your attention, such as reading, walking, and thinking about a few eternal questions: Who am I? I'm from **? Why am I here? I'm going to **?

In this life, people should be in the process of constantly improving themselves. Exploring the world outwards and exploring the heart inwards complement each other, and perhaps one day, when the inside and outside meet, it is probably the fulfillment of life.

The impotence of love may mean that you have less ties with the world, which may be the lightness that life cannot bear, but I like this lightness of floating without roots. You see, it was never He who made your life complete, and He may just be a reflection of an area of your heart in the world. So, does it matter if you love or not?

Maybe I have loved nature since I was a child, and all things in nature can make me feel that life is not boring, and I can still have enthusiasm for life, but if I suddenly have to leave one day, I have no nostalgia.