The problem with my mother in law left me with no hope for the future

IMHO: I think your whole family is to blame for this.

First of all, your mother-in-law: as an elder, she does damage the image of her elders and does many things that are not atmospheric enough. However, it is also understandable. After all, she has lost her husband. Blows are inevitable, and loneliness is inevitable.

Your husband's problem: The understanding of filial piety is not comprehensive enough, at least in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

Your parents' problems: The way to solve the problem is not to push all the problems to you, after all, you are still a child, and many aspects should be coordinated by your parents, at least you can be taught how to coordinate.

Your question: There are cultural differences between China and the West. Have you forgotten the traditions of the Chinese. I think mutual understanding is fundamental to the harmony of family relationships, and you should have this ability.

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After all, you are the only one who has gone through your life with your husband, and learning to wait and endure is a test of your will. It may seem imprudent to give up on the whole family just because there is no good communication within the family. Your current attitude is only pushing your husband to the side of your mother-in-law, and it has no effect on solving the problem.

I think that at this point, there is no point in holding accountable. Why don't you sit down as a family and find a relaxed environment to talk? Is it so difficult to open your mouth and say what you think?

You can say to your mother-in-law very clearly: Mom, I know that I am not very sensible, and I am not doing well in many places. I hope you can correct me.

But for the sake of this family, I want us to live in peace. After all, if it is true that we are divorced, it will also be a disservice to your son.

The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will always exist, and we must find a way to solve it, instead of running away, and when the old man is old, just bear with it more.

If there is a smart person between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, then it must be in harmony.

If they are all smart people, then outsiders look closer than their own mother and daughter.

I'm afraid of meeting two stupid people, one needs to gain a sense of attention (mother), and the other needs a sense of fairness (wife), neither of them is malicious slander, it is nothing more than the sudden intervention of outsiders in their living habits, and they will inevitably defend the original way of life and rhythm.

The most troublesome thing is the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, find a way to kill your mother-in-law, and you will be freed.

Of course, men who can't handle this kind of relationship well are all wrecks.

As the saying goes: if a man is not strong, a woman is out of the wall.

Your mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have developed an emotional precipitation of disgust and prejudice, and this kind of thing can only be resolved little by little, and there is no good medicine that can take effect quickly. Generally speaking, it takes the same amount of time for a stereotype to be resolved.

It's okay for the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to go out, find a friend to hit her on a bicycle, you protect her, and if you are hit, your relationship will be harmonious. Ha ha.

Alas. A woman who is confident and self-reliant.

Troubled by some birds.

Separate also score Score not separately.

Haven't you heard that distance produces beauty?

Those who have stayed abroad at least have the money to find a house near where they live now.

Naturally, the child lives with you, your son.

You can stay for 10 days and give me extra points.

When you live alone, you can think about your life.

If your husband comes along.

So what's there to say.

Remember: a daughter-in-law becomes a mother-in-law.

Be kind to your future daughter-in-law.

The old man will be a little feudal, but that "reincarnation" is a bit outrageous, I think his mother should not have a very high level of education, and many places must have conflicts with you, this kind of life is more troublesome. There are always contradictions, if you are unhappy all the time, divide it, because it is not worth living like this if you have wronged yourself, if you can alleviate it, if you can, if you don't have room for maneuver, you should be your original self.

Although it will be painful for a short time,......

The problems between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will continue forever.

In fact, the contradiction between the landlord and the mother-in-law is not serious, it is just a matter of mentality. If the landlord imagines the situation of the old man, he may understand it. The old man has just died of his wife, and he only has a son and a grandson, of course, he wants to find support, and sometimes he is saying that in fact, the old man and the child are the same and need to be taken care of.

The old and the old. Think about your parents, can you also care about the elderly?

Of course, there must be something wrong with the elderly, but as a younger generation, or the mother of the person you love the most, let's calm the anger in my heart a little.

Maybe there is something wrong with your husband's way of doing things, and he didn't think of solving the problem, but asked you to back down in the name of love. Let's communicate well, there is no knot that cannot be untied.

Alas. If you meet such a mother-in-law, you can't help it, don't hesitate, move out. If you continue, your mother-in-law will make more and more conflicts between you husband and wife.

Affecting the feelings of husband and wife. Your husband shouldn't be unreasonable. Make it clear to him.

Does he understand the true meaning of filial piety? It's not about living together that it's called filial piety!

The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a problem for the ages.

Try to communicate with your mother-in-law and show sympathy and comfort for her grief. Be generous.

If she is reluctant to improve your relationship with you, no matter how hard you try, you can first separate from your husband and raise the children alone.

A hasty marriage is a mistake, and if you divorce hastily, it will be a mistake on top of a mistake.

Don't be rash and calm down for a while.

The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has been a topic since ancient times.

I don't think you can talk about what people are difficult to get along with, because you join his son to give you half of the love, as a mother will inevitably find fault with you, as a junior, you can first empathize with it, I believe that people's hearts are flesh and blood, your contribution will not be seen by no one, but it is not to blindly pay, if you have done what you should do as a junior, she can't accept you, then you don't have to waste your youth, you should communicate well with your husband and the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is good or not and son also has a lot to do with it.

I sincerely hope that you can get along harmoniously and don't go down the road of divorce, which will hurt the children.

Don't get divorced because of this kind of thing, you are married to your husband instead of your mother-in-law! Of course, it's better to live separately from your mother-in-law, but I think the first problem now is not your mother-in-law, but your husband. You should have a good talk with your husband so that he understands your current situation and then move out.

After moving out, I often go back to see your mother-in-law, although the relationship is not good, but filial piety to the elders is also our responsibility, not to mention that your father-in-law is no longer there, and your mother-in-law will be very lonely alone.

This is a more personal question, as everyone's situation and perception may be different. However, here are some factors to consider:

First of all, it is very important to establish a good relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, because it has an important impact on the stability of marriage and family harmony. However, this does not mean that you need to please his mother, but rather to build an equal and friendly relationship based on mutual respect and understanding.

Your boyfriend asks you to please his mother, which may be a kind of respect and concern for his mother, or it may be his control and requirements for you. However, in either case, such a request can have a negative impact on your relationship. Because this kind of demand can make you feel uncomfortable and uncomfortable, and even make you feel controlled and demanded.

In addition, if your boyfriend always has to go home to spend time with his mother, it may be his sense of responsibility and concern for the family, or it may be that he neglects and does not value you. However, in either case, this behavior can have a negative impact on your relationship. Because this behavior may make you feel neglected and unvalued, the stool can affect your communication and interaction.

Therefore, you need to communicate openly and honestly with your boyfriend, express your feelings and opinions, how to build a good mother-in-law relationship, and how to balance the family and your relationship. If you can't agree or resolve the issue, you may want to consider whether or not to continue the relationship.