It is said that China s divorce rate is high, and many people cross love, but why can t they get mar

I have to say that marriage is really difficult to manage, in marriage, if two people are not able to tolerate each other and understand each other, then it is difficult to make the marriage go better.

In fact, the main reason why I can't get into marriage is that the pressure of Chinese-style marriage and family life is too great, which creates a lot of pressure and trouble for women.

Because marriage and love are two different concepts, marriage is more trivial and the marital relationship must be able to resist the ordinary.

Marriage is relatively complicated, and it takes two people to work together to really enter marriage, and it takes a lot of effort in this process.

In addition, marriage is not the same as romance, marriage has to face the transition from love to marriage, as well as the increase in family population, and there are also conflicts in marriage. Many people just can't survive these setbacks and ups and downs, and finally choose divorce as the final outcome. <>

1. When love disappears, the number of divorces can be said to be increasing year by year, or everyone is becoming more and more afraid of marriage, and everyone thinks that they really have to pay too much after marriage, so they will consider it there and think about it. In fact, from love to marriage, you really need to go through a lot of things, after all, marriage is something to consider, and a lot of love may be sweet, but marriage needs to be tolerant of each other. It is a sense of mission between each other, and everyone has to divide and cooperate in marriage, and they will expose their shortcomings in front of each other.

2. Increase in the size of the familyMoreover, it will be found that after the two parties get married, because of the increase in family members, then it will be natural to change their identities and responsibilities. Especially when a small life arrives, it will pay a lot of natural communication between husband and wife on children, and the time becomes less. If children are regarded as the most important part of the marriage, and the way husband and wife get along with each other is lost, then quarrels will become more and more frequent.

Many people break up because of marital matters, because the responsibility of children is too great. <>

3. Run-in in marriageAnd in the process of marriage, because of the mixture of monetary interests and the sharing of all aspects, naturally with the increase of time, everyone will also enter a bottleneck period of feelings. Love will also disappear in this time, if both parties trust each other, then they may accommodate each other and eventually become each other's relatives. But if you can't tolerate each other's shortcomings, or even become more and more disgusted, then all natural feelings will be consumed.

Love is great!

But why is love not the most important thing in marriage?

The person who loves each other is more sensitive, it doesn't matter if you don't love him, you don't care what time he gets home at night, if you love him, you will get angry if he doesn't come home at night, then if you are angry, you will quarrel, and if you quarrel, you will continue to make contradictions.

People who love each other want to control each other's Xunzhen, but everyone is an independent rotten Chang Bo self, and there is no way to control it.

Everyone you love is the object of your criticism, for example, children and husbands always want them to get rid of habits that you think are bad, so the love is deep and responsible.

So: it's easy to fall in love and hard to get along. , people who love each other are more risky together.

Love makes us enter marriage, but love makes us love and kill each other, if you desire love, no love, don't get married, if you crave a stable marriage. Then love is not a necessary condition, and finding the right person is the most important.

Personal perception: If you want to love people don't take marriage as a prerequisite, just talk about a love vigorously, if you want to have a stable marriage, both parties should be suitable not to love too much, both parties' personalities, three views, living habits can be accepted, so that is a stable marriage. If you are eager to have love in your marriage, then you must manage this marriage with all your heart.

Why is the divorce rate getting higher now? What Aunt Northeast said is too realistic.

1.Changes in the environment and perceptions.

In the past, people united with each other and entered into marriage for the basic purpose of "production", and divorce was regarded as a stain and defect on a person's morality. Divorce cases are rare.

Today, the younger generation has grown up living in a more materially well-off environment, and the basis of their marriage has changed. "Modern marriage is more about the intrinsic bonds of emotion, culture and sexuality that unite couples, and such marital relationships are called 'psycho-cultural communities'.

2.Marriage is a science, no one teaches it.

Young people who grew up in China are often in an awkward situation in marriage, on the one hand, due to lack of emotional experience due to reasons such as "can't fall in love", and on the other hand, lack of guidance in managing marriage. What's even more terrifying is that the role of parents in this is tantamount to "adding insult to injury".

Compared to their Western peers, young people in the country are seriously inexperienced in terms of emotions. However, after completing higher education and graduating from university, he began to encounter pressure from relatives urging him to get married. Due to the lack of experience and the strong intervention of some parents, many young people may find it difficult to develop the eye for choosing another partner, and their problems will be exposed after marriage.

3.There is a difference between love and marriage.

In love, the two communicate a lot, they will care about each other's feelings, only need to consider the feelings of the two, once they enter the marriage, firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar tea and various family trivialities, will wear out love, communication will become less, there is no freshness, and the two will quarrel because of trivial matters.

Hello, this question has profound meaning and is worth thinking about and introspecting. I think there are several reasons for the high divorce rate now: 1. This is an era of individuality, and people pursue a high-quality spiritual life and are unwilling to wronged themselves.

2. In today's society, the material is rich, people's material needs and social entertainment have increased, and there is more selfishness and less trust between husband and wife. 3. The different growth environments of the two people make the ideological concepts, living habits, and standards of right and wrong different, and there are too many contradictions. 4. The contradiction with the previous generation, marriage is not only the integration of two people, but also the integration of both families.

Parents pay too much attention to and interfere with the small family, and if there are constant conflicts with the other family, it will affect the relationship between the two people. 5. Nowadays, young couples have many only children, and they are used to being taken care of by themselves. 6. The increase in extramarital affairs has led to the increasing number of relationships between men and women in society.

Expecting too much from marriage before marriage. Some couples get along for a short time before marriage and do not understand each other comprehensively, and personality differences gradually emerge after marriage, which eventually leads to irreconcilable contradictions.

Why is the divorce rate getting higher in China? After reading it, you will know why.

The quality and education level of our people are constantly improving, and the living conditions are becoming richer and richer, but in recent years, the divorce rate has remained high, and the average age of marriage is getting higher and higher. Shanlin Finance analyzed that many problems about marriage mainly lie in the change of traditional thinking in China. With the change of the family education model, more "strong women" have been cultivated, and when they grow up, they are more willing to go out of the family and participate in social activities than to deal with housework at home, thus affecting the current women's code of conduct.

Shanlin Finance believes that it is a good phenomenon for women to "stand up" in society, and more men have begun to fully respect women's social status and social values, which also gives men and women considerable freedom in social interactions. In order to reduce the divorce rate, men's views on the family should also be changed, and the traditional thinking that "housework is done by women" should be stopped, and the work of both parties should be respected, so as to make family relations more harmonious.

Because I got married blindly!

Why is the "divorce rate" getting higher and higher, do you know what is going on.

Why is the divorce rate getting higher now? What Aunt Northeast said is too realistic.

Because there are too many problems in life that cannot be solved, no one is willing to compromise and can only choose divorce.

With the continuous development of the times, people's living standards are getting higher and higher, and in this supposed happy life, the divorce rate is getting higher and higher, which has to be puzzling. I think it may have a lot to do with the increased sense of independence of everyone, everyone wants to live their own life, but marriage requires compromises and concessions.

Love is the management of two people, and marriage is the run-in of two people. I rely on each other for a lot of things in the process of getting along with my lover, even if there is a conflict between two people, as long as the other party is coquettish, I always have no resistance.

But when I got married, the situation changed a lot, and I couldn't compromise on some of the family decisions, and I couldn't compromise on some of the attitudes towards my parents. The contradictions and differences between two people, when I can't compromise, always need the other party to make a little concession, so that our relationship can be maintained better.

I'm glad I met someone who was willing to compromise and give in, and I'm happily married now. But not everyone is like this in life, in a marriage relationship, when both people firmly believe that they are doing the right thing, the relationship is about to break.

The continuous improvement of people's sense of independence makes everyone unwilling to compromise and make concessions in their relationships, and finally they can only use divorce to solve the problem. A friend divorced last year, the cause of the divorce was very simple, the girl wanted to go back to her parents' house, and the boy thought that she was too diligent in going back to her parents' house, and she spent too much money every time, and many things at home were delayed.

The two began to quarrel because of this problem, and then the more they quarreled, the more fierce they quarreled until the end, they turned over some old things, and divorced on impulse. After the two of them were calm, they obviously regretted it, but no one was willing to take the initiative to retreat, and this marriage changed from impulse to real divorce.

This is the case for many divorced couples in life, not that there is really a problem in the relationship, but that they are unwilling to compromise and make concessions in life, and they all hope that the other party can let themselves. But how can there be so much to take for granted in life, and in the end, all the sorrow needs to be borne by yourself.

In the real society, people have become accustomed to using divorce to solve problems, and they want to divorce if there is something unsatisfactory in their married life, as if divorce is a panacea, and any problem can be solved. But when two people really divorce, there will be more problems in life.

Don't use divorce as a means to solve the problem, harmony in the marital relationship requires two people to take time to run in.

Marriage is the top priority in life, since ancient times, men and women should be married, in ancient times, the marriage of men and women was completely decided by their parents, the words of the matchmaker, both men and women meet, are under the leadership of both parents, the introduction of the matchmaker will meet, and some of the two have not met before marriage, until the moment when the marriage lifts your red hijab, the bride and groom meet.

In ancient times, the probability of divorce was very low, only some rich families and some noble people, elegant scholars would have the qualification for divorce, they divorced at that time, not as troublesome as now, just the man's letter of divorce The woman can go back to her parents' house and the man's marriage will be solved, which is what people called divorce in ancient times.

Now the times are different, society is developing, people are progressing faster than society, divorce is easy, marriage is hard!

Why is the divorce rate relatively high now, because there are several possibilities for people to divorce now, and some people's divorce is due to two people's emotional problems, and the so-called emotional problem, that is, a man and a woman have met their so-called "confidantes" outside", met someone who is more handsome, more talented, and richer than her husband, meets a wife who is more beautiful than her wife, and whose family conditions and personal conditions surpass her and so on, and so on, and they divorced.

Now the society is, the times are developing, science and technology are constantly updated, high-tech era, robots have replaced labor, the field of life has changed, the material conditions have changed, and this is why the business of all walks of life in the society is not good.

If the business is not good, you will lose money, and if you lose money, you will borrow money from relatives and friends, borrow money, and have no money to pay back, some old people will come up with tricks and divorce, they always think that they don't have to pay back the money if they divorce their wives, they leave all their property to their wives, and they have nothing.

I always feel that other people's other half is better than my own.

It's always the other half of yourself compared to others.

Do you think this kind of marriage will last?

It is necessary for the state to take care of it, for the sake of the poor children, to take care of it, and those who propose to divorce, can they give their children a warm home, and can they give a certain amount of compensation to raise children.

The divorce rate in China is getting higher and higher, and I think the main reason is that the husband and wife do not have a common language and do not have the same views. Also, life is very stressful right now. Everyone's temper is not very good. It's hard to tolerate each other.