How can the post 80s get rid of the midlife crisis?

Recently, there is a popular saying on the Internet that "people are not as good as dogs when they are middle-aged", and middle-aged men are even worse.

People are in their thirties, and the career that they didn't fight out in the past few years is even more hopeless. has a mortgage on his back, and may have given birth to a second child in response to national policies. The mortgage, the living expenses of a family of four, may be counting on their own job.

Their own ability is average, if you change jobs, the treatment will not be better, but worse.

Work is the foundation of life, how dare not cherish it, how can a middle-aged man who carries the food and clothing of the whole family make mistakes like young people.

In order to avoid becoming a middle-aged person who was once despised by himself, young people also have to prepare in advance.

First of all, we must have the awareness of planning for our own long-term.

Think carefully about whether you have built your core job skills over the years and whether this job can be developed in the long run. After 10 years, will I be able to maintain my competitiveness? The sooner you think about it, the sooner you plan for yourself, so that you don't have to worry about finding yourself with nothing to do when the unexpected strikes.

Second, keep learning to think.

In the age of the Internet, everything is changing too fast. It's easy to get caught up in our own work environment and not know what's going on in the outside world. Keep thinking and paying attention to the trend of the times at any time, understand what changes are happening in this era, and think about how to combine your work content with the development of the times, so as to avoid not keeping up with the rhythm to the greatest extent.

Also, learn about financial literacy as early as possible.

When I was young, I always felt that my daughter was scattered and came back, and I consumed ahead of time, moonlight.

As I get older, I find more places to spend money. The children's eating, drinking, lazing, studying, traveling, and parents' health is not as good as a year after year. Thinking about improving the quality of life of my family, I always don't have enough money to spend.

Of course, it is good that wages can keep up with the increase in prices** and household expenses, but the problem is that they often can't keep up.

Reserve your financial knowledge as soon as possible, plan your cash flow, do a good job in insurance planning, do a good job in your own salary, find channels for non-salary income, savings, insurance, investment, and escort your family's finances.

First of all, to correctly understand this phenomenon, people at this age are already menopause, usually feel that the world is incompatible with themselves, everything is against themselves, and there is no hope in life, therefore, to correct their mentality, not the whole world is against themselves, and they are too focused on something, and ignore the negative social impact it brings, only to relax their mentality, and not so concerned about the eyes of others, The world will become a messenger of light in your eyes.

In addition, when you are in a bad mood, you can relax yourself, so that you can go out shopping and buy things, so that you can eliminate the dissatisfaction in your heart, make yourself stress-free or reduce stress, and make you happy every day.

Moreover, you must learn to control your emotions, don't lose your temper without moving, and don't be good for your body.

If the crisis is a crisis in one's own career, one can get through such a crisis with one's many years of experience.

If the post-80s generation reaches middle age, they should also have a stable career of their own, so there is no real midlife crisis at all, and such a midlife crisis is often their own emotional midlife crisis.

If it is a real relationship crisis, it is a good way to solve it, don't be overwhelmed by your original relationship by the dullness of your marriage.

Real marriage also needs a fresh love infusion, don't be the same every day, you must have a real communication method with each other, to share what you see and hear every day.

And this kind of communication is like chatting, you don't need to have too many ideas, so that two people can get common love, don't let two people get used to the dullness of life just because they have been married for a long time.

If two people in a marriage really have such thoughts, that is, they are truly indifferent to each other, and real marriage depends on the real efforts of two people, whether it is ten or twenty years, both people must love well, which is a real happiness.

A real marriage must grasp every day and care more about each other, so that a person can have real happiness and realize that marriage is a real home.

If you have a good grasp of your marriage, there will be no real midlife crisis, this is a real love to give, and you must manage it well.

To be precise, I am not a post-80s generation, but I classify myself as a post-80s generation, because I belong to the kind of people who have the tail of the post-80s and the head of the post-90s, and take into account some characteristics of the post-80s and post-90s.

I also feel that I have encountered this mid-life crisis, and I have been in a daze for a while now, thinking about how I should go next, and I want to find a direction for myself.

It can be said that the pressure on people at this age will become greater and greater, the parents are getting older, the children are getting older, and the family needs to carry it by themselves.

Midlife crisis refers not only to being responsible for the family, this is only a part of it, and part of it is oneself, at this time, what everyone is pursuing is no longer hard work, and it is no longer what those young people do.

It's stability, what you want is stability, and spend the next time very peacefully, but there is a prerequisite, that is, you have to be stable, that is, work and income, if you can get rid of this piece, then it can be said that the mid-life crisis has been successfully passed.

According to China's age classification standard, middle age is between 40 and 49 years old. In other words, the "post-80s" generation is entering "middle age" one after another.

I'm no exception, see you next year! However, the midlife crisis has already arisen in advance.

The significant characteristics of middle-aged people's body and mind are: their mental ability continues to grow, but their physical ability is gradually declining. So, where does the crisis come from?

First of all, it comes from a decrease in physical strength. No matter how noble the soul is, it must be attached to the fragile shell. If you can't do it alone, it doesn't seem to be able to create a sense of crisis, after all, everyone is an ordinary person.

Secondly, in any case, as we get older, our psychological endurance and social comprehension ability continue to improve, and there is no crisis at all.

The "mid-life crisis", where does the danger come from? I think it comes from the "gap", that is, the physical and mental state of not achieving the predetermined goal under the inevitable decline of physical fitness, and it is more difficult to achieve the goal.

Someone is going to say: I don't have a predetermined goal at all, and I always live one day at a time. However, even so, there is still a crisis, but this time, it is a gap that arises when compared with peers.

Is a midlife crisis good or bad? I think it is "crisis" + "opportunity", and danger is objective, opportunity is subjective, and it is a good thing. The crisis is urging us to take action, and it's time to do something about it.

In the new year, I have a deep experience from the bottom of my heart, and because of this, I have become more calm, soft, wise, and the "no desire is rigid" mentioned in the previous article, so that I have a more concentrated and dedicated subjective state, to start a new journey of sprinting to the glory of middle age.

So I'm going to say, thanks, midlife crisis!

I want to challenge myself, please supervise "Jianyou", and encourage "Jianyou"!