When the old man dies, the children have to hold a funeral together, and the fairest banquet is how

Hello, your question I received the rules of our hometown is, unified written in the book of gifts, after the end of the old man's burial, noon banquet to thank relatives and friends, the sisters sit together for a family meeting, according to the list recorded in the book of gifts and the amount of the person's gifts, belong to which relatives, friends and colleagues among the children raise their hands to claim, the remaining list and money in the gift book is the gift of their parents and their nephews, aunts and nephews, according to the public etiquette, generally evenly distributed to the sisters, in the future, when people encounter trouble, the children will give their own gifts, Maintain favors with each other.

The death of an old man as a child is very sad. As for these expenses, it is enough to use the pension of the elderly, as for the gift money, it should be collected separately, everyone's life circle is different, and the relationship between friends outside is also different.

After the death of the elderly, since the funeral expenses are paid by relatives and friends, the cost of the banquet should also be shared by the three children.

Legal basis

1.In the law, there is no distinction between men and women, and as long as they are children, they have the obligation to support the elderly.

2.There will always be obligations, but if the children don't have any money, then there is no way. Whether you give money or not has nothing to do with whether you start a family or not.

3.All three are equal, no matter how big or small.

4.There is no way to change it, the traditional Chinese concept is like this, but if the old man thinks that only the son is filial piety, and the daughter does not have to pay any obligation (including money and effort), then the son should let him make a will to divide all the family property to the son in the future, which is human nature. If the old man does not have this will, the property after death will also have two daughters, just because he has not taken care of the elderly, he will share relatively little (of course, it is also at the request of the daughter, and the rural women generally do not ask for it, especially in the division of the house).

5.Of course.

6.Whether the children have to give money, depends on how the old man asks, the old man has the right to control the children to ask for money, no matter how much money he has, if he doesn't want it, it is up to him.

Tell the landlord an extreme situation, even if your parents threw you away when you were a child and never gave you a penny, but when you grow up, if they find you and ask for maintenance, you still have an obligation to support them, but you can give them very little money, which means that.

Even if you don't even know they exist, when you know about it, you have the right to claim their inheritance (if they have passed away and the inheritance has been distributed to your other children, then you have the right to demand redistribution and take your share).

In short, parents need to support their children, and children need to support their parents, which is a juxtaposition, not a premise that the first is the second. In the case I'm talking about, you can sue your parents for abandonment and make them pay you money, which may actually be offset by the alimony you need to give them, but theoretically you still need to pay alimony.

In a word, as long as they give birth to you, you have to pay alimony.

Inheritance is not necessarily money, those houses, the furniture in the house, labor tools, and even the clothes and daily necessities of the elderly are all in the category of inheritance.

If you think that your son is in a bad situation now, you can just ask his two younger sisters to pay every month.

As for the problem of fighting for the house you said, if the old man does not express his attitude when he is alive, then when he dies, the three children will inherit it, and the son can ask for more points according to his own obligations, as for how much is more, anyway, he can reach an agreement with his two sisters, and if he can't reach it, he will go to the court to sue and let the court decide.

In fact, after the death of the elderly, the funeral expenses should indeed be shared equally by the children, but if the daughter rarely comes back after marriage, it is okay to have a son to share it equally.

In fact, as a child, of course, I hope that my parents can live a healthy life, but if there is a real accident, I can't force it too much, and I shouldn't quarrel over the funeral expenses to be held after the death of the elderly. Well, if the funeral expenses cannot be shared equally by the daughter, at least the sons must share them with each other, because the son will have more time to spend with his parents, and the daughter will become the daughter-in-law of someone else's family after she gets married. But if you have a daughter, at least you have to pay some expenses, and this fee represents a little bit of your own heart, because it is not easy for everyone to make money, and that is still their own parents.

In fact, after the death of the old man, a certain ceremony will be held, but I don't think there is any need to be too grand, because after the death of the old man, spend more money, why not choose to give him good food and drink while he is alive. Because the old man can't feel the things that he does after he dies, and there is no need for that at all. He should be allowed to live well and be happy when he is alive.

And the thing that the elderly crave most when they are old is that their children can be by their side, and everyone is happy and healthy.

In fact, everyone's life is not easy, no matter who pays for the funeral expenses after the death of the elderly, in fact, it is not a big problem, and there is no need for everyone to quarrel too much on such days, because they are all a family. As for the question of who will give it, it is up to everyone to decide, and if everyone's economic conditions are not good, then it can be evenly shared.

Yes, because the elderly are co-raising all the children, and it is also the obligation of all the children, in the event of death, the funeral expenses should be borne fairly.

It should be spread evenly. This is because after the death of the elderly, all the expenses need to be shared by the children, which is also the obligation of the children, and these expenses also need to be shared equally by the children, which is more fair.

Children should be divided equally. This is because when the elderly die, the children need to fulfill the corresponding responsibilities and obligations, which is fairer for the children, and then the elderly can be buried faster.

I think it's up to the children to split it evenly, because it's fairer for each child and it doesn't put pressure on everyone.

Legal analysis: When a retired elderly person dies, he receives funeral expenses and posthumous wages, and does not need to be signed by his children. A person can bring his or her ID card, the ID card of the elderly, the death certificate or the cremation procedure, and go to the social security center for settlement.

Generally, it is collected according to the requirements of the unit, and some units are afraid of inheritance disputes so that all children can sign to receive it.

Legal basis: Article 8 of the Regulations of the People's Republic of China on the Suspicion of Household Registration Codes If a citizen dies before the funeral in the city and within one month in the rural area, the head of the household, relatives, dependents or neighbors shall report the death registration to the household registration authority and cancel the household registration. If a citizen dies in the place of temporary residence, the household registration authority of the place of temporary residence shall notify the household registration authority of the place of permanent residence to cancel the household registration.

If a citizen dies as a result of an accident or the cause of death is unknown, the head of the household or the person who discovered it shall immediately report it to the local public security police station or the township or town people's committee.

1. For the death pension, it is the living allowance given by the deceased's unit to the deceased's close relatives and dependents, and contains a certain amount of spiritual comfort. Since the death benefit occurs after the death of the deceased, it is not part of the estate.

2. For the distribution of pensions: the law does not clearly stipulate this, if there is no provision for the recipient of the payment, it should belong to the close relatives in common. The parties' request for the division of the pension is legally a division of the joint property.

The next of kin here mainly refers to the deceased's spouse, parents, children, siblings, grandparents, grandchildren, and grandchildren.

Although the pension does not belong to the estate, it will be distributed in the order of the heirs of the estate, the first order is the spouse, parents, children, and the other people are the second order, and if there is no person in the first order, the pension will be distributed among the people in the second order.

Civil Code of the People's Republic of China

Article 1127.

The estate is inherited in the following order:

1) First order: spouse, children, parents;

2) Second order: siblings, grandparents, maternal grandparents.

After the inheritance begins, it is inherited by the first-order heirs, and the second-order heirs do not inherit; If there is no first-order heir, the second-order heir shall inherit.

For the purposes of this Part, the term "children" includes legitimate children, children born out of wedlock, adopted children and dependent stepchildren.

For the purposes of this Part, the term "parents" includes biological parents, adoptive parents and step-parents in a dependent relationship.

The term "siblings" as used in this Part includes siblings of the same parents, half-siblings or half-siblings, adoptive siblings, and step-siblings who have a dependent relationship.

The amount of funeral expenses that the daughter bears depends on the situation.

The cost of the death of an elderly person in rural areas is very large. It is a traditional Chinese custom to raise children and prevent old age, and the cost of burying the elderly is mainly borne by the son.

The son bears the main cost of two or more sons to share the cost equally, and there are also cases where one of them pays more and the other sons pay less, and the cost is generally shared equally by several sons. The daughter bears a portion of the cost, which is much less than the son.

The son spent money to buy a coffin, and the daughter bought a shroud to slow down the slag. The son bears the money for the funeral banquet, and the daughter pays for the funeral. The son can pay for the pigs, and the daughter can pay for the sheep.

If the old man has several daughters, then the daughters will share the cost of making the tomb or some other item. If there is a daughter, then it is a daughter to bear. A niece, niece or granddaughter, the niece bears the cost of a certain item, and everyone pays the same money.

If one person spends two hundred dollars, the others are also two hundred dollars.

If the son of the deceased old man does not have the financial means to bury the old man, then the daughter's family will have to pay more, and how much money to pay, depending on the actual situation. If the deceased old man has no son, only a daughter, then the daughter bears the burial expenses, and if there is a nephew, the nephew can bear part of the expenses.

Why does my daughter spend less money? This is because after the daughter gets married, she is related to her mother's family. The property of the parents is owned by the brother. If the parents have several sons, after the family is separated, the family with which the parents live, and the property will belong to whoever dies.

The daughter is a guest at her parents' house, and the sister-in-law or sister-in-law is the host. After the death of the elderly, the money from the daughter's family or the money from the granddaughter, granddaughter, niece, etc., must be recorded in the gift book, and recorded or explained in the form of a guest salute. Similarly, the daughter is the host at the in-laws' house, and the child's aunt is the guest.

The guest changes with the host. After the death of the elderly, it is a hard rule for the son to share the expenses evenly, and the more money should be spent, the more money must be paid.

The amount of money spent by daughters or granddaughters is very arbitrary or voluntary. For example, the daughter bears the money for the tomb, and then bears the money for a pig to be killed, the nephew bears the suona money, and the niece bears the official cover money. If the daughter's family has no money, she can also bear the money for another chicken to kill.

This is because some rural elderly people have died, and they want to buy a white rooster, and on the morning of the burial, they will kill the chicken and bleed and eat chicken, which is like an ancient funeral item.

After the death of the elderly in the countryside, the incense, money, and wreath money sent by the world are also paid by the daughter. After the death of the elderly in rural areas, if there is a lot of money for gifts, there is still a surplus after burying people, and the daughter's family has no right to share it.

When the elderly die in rural areas, the cost is borne by the son when the anniversary or the third anniversary is celebrated, and it is not necessarily the case if the daughter does not give money. When an old man in a rural area dies, is it reasonable for his daughter to spend less money? Since it is a custom of thousands of years, it should be reasonable.

An elderly man with children and daughters spends his life doing farm work for his son's family, taking care of or raising his grandson, and his property belongs to his son after his death. After the death of the elderly, it is reasonable for the daughter's family to spend less money.

The funeral expenses of the elderly are generally allocated to the actual spenders of the funeral expenses. Funeral expenses are the compensation of the social security department or unit for the family of the deceased to deal with funeral matters, and the payment of funeral expenses should be handled in accordance with the principle of who pays who owns. **As well as the funeral expenses issued by the employer, they do not belong to the inheritance and cannot be distributed by inheritance.

If there is any surplus, the relationship between relatives and the deceased may be referred to, and the deceased may be divided according to the principle of mainly caring for and relieving the relatives who were unable to work who needed to be supported during the deceased's lifetime, compensating the relatives who took care of and supported the deceased more during his lifetime, and taking into account other relatives.

Legal basisArticle 39 of the Regulations on Work-related Injury Insurance.

If an employee dies on the job, his close relatives shall receive funeral allowances, pensions for dependent relatives and one-time work-related death subsidies from work-related injury insurance** in accordance with the following provisions:

1) The funeral subsidy is 6 months of the average monthly wage of employees in the overall area in the previous year;

2) The pension for dependent relatives shall be paid to the relatives who provided the main livelihood of the employee who died on the job and were unable to work according to a certain proportion of the employee's own salary. The standard is: 40% per month for spouses, 30% per month for each other relative, and 10% per month for each elderly person or orphan who is alone or orphaned.

The sum of the approved pensions for dependent relatives shall not be higher than the wages of the employee who died in the course of work. The specific scope of support for relatives shall be prescribed by the social insurance administrative department;

3) The standard of one-time work-related death allowance shall be 20 times the per capita disposable income of urban residents in the previous year.

Where a disabled employee dies as a result of a work-related injury during the period of suspension of work with pay, his close relatives shall enjoy the benefits provided for in the first paragraph of this article.

Where an employee with a disability of the first to fourth grades dies after the expiration of the period of suspension with pay, his close relatives may enjoy the benefits provided for in items (1) and (2) of the first paragraph of this article.

What documents are required for funeral expenses?

1. Individual handling, death certificate, household registration cancellation certificate, cremation certificate, cremation receipt, deceased's ID card, social security card, deceased's pension passbook or card, agent's ID card, certificate of relationship between the handler and the deceased;

2. If the relationship between the legal heir and the deceased cannot be clearly reflected in the certificate of household registration cancellation, the certificate of immediate family relationship issued by the public security organ shall be provided, and the legal heir shall bring the original ID card when handling the application;

3. Persons who have been transferred from rural to non-deceased shall go to the labor and social security office of the sub-district office to fill in four copies of the "Social Insurance Personnel Reduction Form" stamped by the sub-district office.