Is it wrong to want to marry your boyfriend because it is suitable, not because of love?

That's right, it is estimated that what you say is suitable refers to the material conditions of your boyfriend, such as having a good marriage house, being in a well-developed city or location, and having a better income. If you are a woman with strong self-discipline and a strong sense of family responsibility, I think you can marry this suitable boyfriend. For such a marriage, I think it is possible that after getting married and having children, I accepted my boyfriend's shortcomings, unveiled this hidden knot in my heart to relatives and friends, and got used to my boyfriend's love and superior conditions, so I accepted my boyfriend.

And having children as a bond cultivates family affection and responsibility. ‍‍

Absolutely. Marriage can only have love when it is suitable, how can there be love if it is not suitable? My husband and I were very suitable at the beginning, the three views were exactly the same, we were very relaxed together, more than ten years like a day, and now we love it very much.

I can't understand the kind of people who are not suitable and still say love, they are not suitable, what do you love? ‍‍

That's right, marriage is not just a matter of two people, but also a run-in between two families when forming a new family. Feelings can be cultivated in life, and if they are not suitable, they can only say goodbye in the end.

That's right, suitability is actually more important than love, love can't last for a long time, and suitability is the ultimate partner worth entrusting.

That's right, marriage is originally about living together, and suitability is the most important thing. In these years, because there are too few people who love to get married, they will fall in love with each other after being together for a long time. ‍‍

Tie the knot? Aren't they two people who love each other together! Why get married?

Because of marriage, the responsibility that was originally borne by one person has now become two people. If it is for the sake of suitability, it is not impossible, I personally think that two couples are together, and then, in order to strengthen the relationship together, that is, the legal effect of marriage, the popular point is to get a license. Ordinary couples only start with suitability, but they skip the couple and go directly together, and the man also loves himself so that he doesn't love it.

Whether it is because of love or because of the right choice to get married, as long as you feel happy, the people who love each other will slowly become suitable for each other, and the right people will slowly develop feelings, as long as you are happy after marriage, it is right.

Of course you can, there is no marriage more suitable for marriage than suitable, only when it is suitable can there be love, so that you can live comfortably and you will be happy! ‍‍

That's right, how long can love last, if it can last a lifetime, there won't be a seven-year itch.

In fact, marriage is very complicated, the age is small, it is easy to get married and build a family, young couples do not live for a long time, there is no experience for the main reason, the reality of women is very correct, men have good mature conditions, and they get married without love, as long as both of them are willing, the feelings are cultivated slowly, and there is no need to worry about eating, drinking, and dressing, so there is nothing wrong with this choice. ‍‍

What does it mean to be suitable? Family background, work education, or something else, since it is suitable, if the other party has no bad habits and is a good person, it will be over, at least he loves you. Love is also a responsibility, if you can be worthy of his love and pay the responsibility of marriage, you will be happy. ‍‍

I think it's right, marriage itself is a good match, suitability is the most important, love will be slowly cultivated, and what you want to live is to respect each other, not like glue.

Of course, marriage is not more important than suitability, as the saying goes, "the shoes are not suitable and the feet know", and only you know whether the husband is suitable or not, so I think the right is the beginning of a good marriage. However, if there is no love in marriage, isn't it too much fun, two people take care of each other, love each other, shouldn't this be the most important purpose of marriage? ‍‍

There's nothing wrong with that, you can definitely cultivate feelings after it's appropriate.

Summary. Good evening, young lady. Do you want to get married now? Do you want to get married because you want to get married, or do you want to get married because you love him? These are two concepts. Marriage is a lifelong event, and you must think it through.

I feel like my boyfriend doesn't love me that much, just because it's suitable to marry me, do I want to get married?

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You've been in a relationship with your boyfriend, how long have you been in a relationship now? Why is it just suitable for marriage?

months. So how did you two meet?

Is it free to fall in love or introduced to each other on a blind date?

It's only been a few months, and I don't know that thoroughly. Getting married is a lifelong event. You need to be careful. Has he proposed to you to marry now? But in this relationship, are you insecure right now?

Good evening, young lady. Do you want to get married now? Do you want to get married because you want to get married, or do you want to get married because you love him? These are two concepts. Marriage is a lifelong event, and you must think it through.

I don't choose to get married just because everyone around me is married.

Because I think that marriage should be done because of love and your own will, not for the sake of getting married, and you can't get married because you are old and everyone around you is married.

You can imagine that you are married to someone you don't love, and after marriage, the other party's various problems will be exposed, such as: stinky socks thrown around, sleeping and snoring, etc., can you tolerate his or her various shortcomings? And if it's because of love, you might meditate on what I chose, what I chose, and then command him or solve these problems by myself.

So get married because of love, because of love.

To be honest, seeing this topic makes people think a lot.

First of all, it is said that marriage will be married because of love, which is something that many people take for granted. But every time you fall in love, you must have a good relationship between the two, because of love, but getting married is not so easy. There are also many people who get married because of love, because this is the basis of feelings.

If both of them have a good economic foundation, then it is even better.

But in fact, in the real society, there are many people who get married because they are suitable. Because marriage is complementary. Love is not so strong in the face of the material foundation.

There are many people's marriages that have been lost to love before they get married. Also lost to reality. can only find a more suitable marriage with a good family, which is a high probability event.

Feelings are a matter of two people, and it is about your affection and my willingness. Love is selfish, marriage is reality.

Hope to be able to pay attention, hope to help you.

I'm not going to get married because I'm married, and that kind of marriage makes me unhappy, which is unfair to both of you.

Marriage is a very sacred thing, and you can't marry for the sake of getting married.

It is a happy thing for two people to get married when they like each other, so that two people feel the actual value of marriage. The people around them suddenly got married, this is their choice, and they can't go with the flow.

Although marriage is a very beautiful thing, but you will be happy with the person you like, get married for the sake of marriage, marriage should be responsible for each other, only two people are built on love, so that you can get a better ending, not two people choose to be together in order to get married. If you marry for the sake of getting married, you will lose each other's happiness, so you will not see happiness.

In marriage, the husband and wife will be able to achieve long-term harmony if they have the same life goals, but if the husband and wife are not consistent in their spiritual level and their ideas are inconsistent, then it will directly affect the goals and structure of the marriage.

There are these reasons for getting married:

First, because of love.

There are many reasons for marriage, the most common is because of love, now many young people will fall in love when they reach a certain age, and when the time is ripe, they will hold a marriage ceremony to announce that the two are officially husband and wife. But anyone who has experienced marriage knows that after a couple becomes husband and wife, the relationship between the two slowly begins to fade, and the conflict begins, so the newlyweds should be prepared to deal with married life.

2. Getting married because of old age.

According to the survey, people will want a harmonious family when they reach a certain age, especially at the age of twenty-five, they will start to think about marriage, and by the age of thirty, no matter how enterprising people are, they will be anxious to find a life partner. However, everyone's concept of marriage is different, some people are early and some people are late, but most people will feel panic when they are old and their marriage has not yet been settled.

3. Marry for the sake of your children.

There are also some people who marry for children, but there are very few of them, because for people who have not yet started a family, children are generally not considered. If you marry someone who is only interested in children, then there may be a lot of conflict in your future life, because you always think that the other person only cares about children and ignores yourself. Therefore, couples should remember that you have an obligation to create a warm and comfortable home for your children, but it does not mean that you ignore the feelings of the two people.

Fourth, get married under pressure from others.

Many people get married because of the pressure of others, especially when they are older and have not yet married, relatives and friends around them will persuade them to feel stressed. Therefore, the phenomenon of blind date is more popular now.

There are too many such people, maybe he has experienced very painful feelings and is now dead, or it may be because he has reached the age of marriage and married for the sake of getting married. I can fully understand the boy's "helpless" mentality, but this does not mean that I am willing to be his "general".

Once my ex-husband was such a man, he was very good, and the good ones were impeccable. The address book is clean, there is no ambiguous relationship, he goes home on time every day for dinner, the salary card is handed over to me for safekeeping, everyone envies me for marrying a perfect husband, but his only bad thing is that he doesn't love me, and that's what completely cancels out all his advantages. In the middle of the night, a male colleague called ** to ask about work, he didn't say a word, I asked him if he was not jealous, he said indifferently I trust you, and then turned his head and continued to play with his mobile phone.

It was raining heavily outside, I asked him to pick me up from work, he said that the car was not good to drive out, and asked me to call Didi. Even the intimacy between husband and wife, he was like a routine, and he never hugged me to sleep. I'm really not hypocritical, marrying a man who doesn't love himself, only the authorities can understand the sourness and bitterness.

I always deceived myself that he loved me, but he was just cold and too rational, until one time he drank too much and cried and called his ex's name, and then I realized how ridiculous I was. For the first time, I asked him bluntly if he loved me, but he didn't even want to cheat, and said after a long silence, you are suitable for marriage and a good wife. One sentence made me completely dead, of course I know that I am a good wife, but you who don't love me don't deserve such a good me.

I loved him, and I still fantasized that he would wake up and know that he cherished me, but he calmly wrote his name and turned away. Look, this is the realistic face of a man, if you don't love you, you won't have nostalgia. Anyway, there are so many virtuous and virtuous good women, without me, he can still find his next home.

If you want two people to get married because of love, then this kind of boyfriend should be separated from him. Because in this way, even after being together, you will have all kinds of contradictions, all kinds of conflicts, and you can't feel too much family warmth.

I think you should have a good talk with your boyfriend, choosing to be together because of marriage will not end well, and your place in his heart is not so important.

At this time, two people should work together to develop in the direction of marriage, as the so-called marriage first and then love, such a marriage is longer.

I think you should break up at this time and find someone who really loves you, a marriage without love is very fragile, and you shouldn't spend your life compensating for such a companion.

Sometimes it is inevitable to compromise because of reality, if you want to pursue love, then directly state, if you can live directly then continue to live.