Should the marriage partner choose one that suits him or loves him? Why?

I think this kind of thing varies from person to person, and you have to listen to your heart's choice. Especially for such a big thing, don't let others make decisions for you, because if you regret it, no one will bear the consequences of regret for you, whether it is suitable for yourself or love yourself, you must consider your own heart.

Personally, I will choose to love myself, because I will be with him, I also love him, and I will love him when I think he is suitable for me, and I feel that the most important thing in a family is love, so I personally choose to love me.

It should be considered comprehensively, love is important, and it cannot be ignored if it is suitable, and it is difficult for two people who are not suitable to get along day and night. It's hard to go on without love.

<>I believe that the vast majority of people have seen this issue on the Internet, and it has also triggered a wave of discussion. And I was once asked this question when I was chatting with friends at a party: If you choose a marriage partner, would you choose what you love or choose to love yourself?

Because this question was obviously out of line for me at that time, I was still a little confused, and I was not very clear at the time why two sentences that were obviously very similar meant different things. In my cognition, I think that two people who choose to get married must love each other before they can choose to be together. As it turned out, how naïve my thinking was at the time.

As I've gotten older, I've gained a very deep perspective on this simple question.

Choose the person I love

The answer I chose before was that I would find someone I loved, because life is so short, and married life is the only thing that requires a lot of energy to make a serious choice. So I must make my life very comfortable, so that I will not leave regrets in my short life. And if I love him enough, I believe that I am very willing to be considerate of him, and I will impress him with 100% enthusiasm, and one day he will treat me as well as I did to him.

Choose the one who loves me

But for my current age, I will choose someone who loves me, because Eason Chan's lyrics tell us that those who are favored have nothing to fear. I don't think the promises made by the young and frivolous will not necessarily be fulfilled with the passage of time. And the only thing that accompanies me is the feeling of powerlessness when I chose this person in the first place, because no one will return the same love to you because you love him, so I would rather choose someone who loves me and is willing to tolerate me everywhere in my life, even if I have no feelings for him, but my life will become very warm.

And in the long run, I believe that feelings can also be cultivated, as long as he is willing to treat me sincerely, I will also treat him sincerely. After all, feelings are only part of the relationship in marriage, and it is more of a family relationship that depends on each other. Isn't it?

And netizens agree with me. They will choose the one who loves you!

Because many times, the person you love is not suitable for your life, but the reverse is okay. However, feelings can also be cultivated. How many people fell in love vigorously at the beginning, got married in a beautiful way, but in the end they ended in divorce.

Cherish what is in front of you, happiness comes from the plain. The happiness of marriage mainly depends on the attitude of two people towards life after marriage, and marriage can be happy or painful, but it is all decided by themselves.

So, do you have different options?

If I choose to love myself, I will be happy, because the one I love may not love you, and if you love him and she doesn't love you, you will be more miserable.

01 Everyone has a desire for love, and the ultimate purpose of love is to find someone who can give them a happy marriage. Getting married is not as simple as falling in love, and if you want to get married, you have to consider both the feelings of two people and whether they are suitable or not. You can't ignore the future because of the happiness in front of you, marriage is related to the second half of your life, so many people are afraid of Lun Maofeng's marriage, worried about unhappiness after marriage; However, some people believe that marriage is the continuation of love and the beginning of a happy life.

02 In fact, no matter what others think of marriage, it has nothing to do with your marriage, just like the truth of "pony crossing the river", marriage needs to be experienced by yourself to understand. Of course, you can learn from the experiences and lessons of others, which will allow you to avoid detours. When the relationship between two people reaches the consummation, it is natural that there will be plans to get married at a loss.

However, there are many factors to consider when getting married, and you can't blindly choose to get married on impulse.

If you don't want your marriage to become a "grave of love", you must consider these issues in advance to avoid marital misfortune. Considering the personality factors of two people, the relationship needs to be run-in before two people start to fall in love, they will naturally feel that each other is good at everything, and they will have the idea of wanting to be together.

Especially sometimes what he does for you will move you, and you will regard him as your ideal partner as soon as your brain is hot. The first requirement of the relationship is that each other's personalities are suitable, and if the personalities don't get along, he may tolerate you at first, but after a long time, his true attitude will be exposed. Your married life is prone to conflicts and quarrels, and it is difficult to maintain the sweetness of your relationship.

If there is no way to choose what you love, then you must choose to love yourself, so you will also be happy.

Introduction: Some people usually struggle when choosing a marriage partner, because each person who can marry them has different characteristics. So should you marry the person you love, or marry the right person for you?

1. Marriage will wear out love In fact, the love before marriage is usually vigorous, making people feel the sweetness of love, but after marriage, these loves will quickly transform into family affection. Especially after two people have children, the education of the children and the things between the various families will consume the emotions between the two people. Sometimes it's more like people who work hard together and live together, rather than like lovers who are in love.

So even before getting married, how much they loved each otherThen after getting married, this love will be slowly diminished

Second, as long as you love yourself, sometimes you don't love yourself to the person you love, just like looking up at the starry sky, although it is tall, it will not bring warmth. And sometimes the person who suits you is actually like the ground under your feet, which can make you feel very grounded. Therefore, when choosing a marriage partner, you must choose the person who can love you, and don't choose those who seem to be the ones you have been pursuing.

In fact, such a person will not be considerate of the other half after marriage, nor will he take care of the other half's feelings. However, especially a woman has to suffer a lot of pressure in married life, and she has to take care of family life, and if she does not have her husband's thoughtfulness, then it is difficult to persevere.

3. Believe in your own decisions, but everyone's emotional experience is different, and sometimes other people's opinions are not necessarily correct. But no matter what, you must be firm in your choice, and marriage is to face the ups and downs of life together. Many people disperse halfway through, so once you choose, you have to believe it.

But if something goes wrong, you must be brave enough to let go and find your own freedom and stability.

The right people. The person you love may marry you to the end, but the right person will always accompany you to old age.

I think you should go with the right person, because this kind of marriage will be more complete and there will be no many contradictions.

It must be with the person you love, so that the two of you will reap happiness, if you are with the right person, it will always be bland, and there must be no special feeling of love.