What might be the final outcome of marrying someone you don t like?

There will be two situations, one is to walk on the road of happiness, the other is to walk on the road of harm, these two different choices, there are two different paths in life. The beginning of a marriage is often not so perfect, there will always be some helplessness, different choices, and here there are two extreme life states.

At the beginning of marriage, most of us experienced the attitude of taking one step at a time, and there is a saying that they will be in love for a long time, which is the first type of person, they did not have great hope for each other at first, but they were forced by the pressure of life and family affection to choose this marriage.

At first, we chose marriage, they didn't hate or dislike, so they also took care of each other in life, and asked each other for warmth, which is this kind of persistence, and gradually we will find that when the other party is not around, they feel like they are vacant, uncomfortable, and don't know what they want to do. will also be happy for a while because of the surprise suddenly given by the other party, and slowly I will find that happiness in marriage is like this, starting from confusion, but gradually reflected in the little bits and pieces of care in life. This kind of marriage has always been on the road to happiness, and gradually became the envy of others, plain but difficult to give up.

There is another kind of love that is not like this, for an unsatisfactory marriage, they did not choose to operate, but more complained about their unluck, complained about their tragic fate, and so there were many grievances, resulting in an extremely unfortunate marriage, and even chose to divorce.

It's not that their marriage is unlucky, compared to people who can't afford to have marriage, they are lucky enough, but they don't cherish it and don't try to change themselves to adapt to married life. talked too much about his misfortune, and gradually lost the dominance of the marriage, and finally the illusion was really shattered, and he became an unhappy couple in the marriage.

The choices in marriage are not perfect, the so-called perfection just exists in fairy tales and TV series, and real life has given us too many tests, and if you don't survive, you will become the most unfortunate one. Marriage is not easy, but it is done and cherished.

I think it's very likely that two people will get divorced, because if two people don't like each other very much, then they won't be able to tolerate each other's shortcomings, and they will often quarrel at this time, and it's not interesting.

If it leads to divorce, it will lead to a very unhappy marriage, and marriage requires payment and emotional consumption.

Marrying someone you don't like is living like a year, and trivial things are the fuse that contributes to divorce, and in the end, the reason is why you didn't choose love in the first place, and many times it is difficult to fall in love for a long time.

What will be the final outcome of marrying someone you don't like? Why?

In this process, what we have to do is, let"themselves"with"others"Together. "A fire, a pot of water, a few catties of rice, if the raw rice is made into cooked rice, but this is not the turn of the value of the raw rice, it can only be eaten as a bitter fruit. "And for the same life outcome, the matter has come to this, how can you choose an irresponsible excuse?

<> feelings and love are tied together from the psychology of the individual, and people often compare this concept to the long-term development of feelings, and the development of this concept is based on the conclusion of long-term communication, understanding, tolerance and generosity. There is almost no difference between reality and reality. Why?

For a person who does not like it, there is no favor left or paid. Exactly from"Ego"Perspective, a person doesn't like or don't love you Brother Lu. Such"Love and marriage"It's an empty shell, like kidnapping and Lunsan, and it's also a meaningless wedding.

It's hard to live, it's even harder to be a man, sometimes it seems to be just living in your own space, and this can always reflect the value of life and the unselfish feelings in love! That's why we're putting it"Love"with"Marriage"Put it in the first place. Love and marriage are not superficial, and facing real life is to grasp a person's psychology.

As for obedience, it only realizes personal understanding and acceptance of feelings, but that's another story! In this process, we have to be careful not to make people feel like you are dreaming.

The premise of love is that you don't have love at first sight for someone, but the other person doesn't hate you, at least you don't reject him in your heart. Then in the process of slow contact, you may find some advantages of the other party, and this advantage is the appreciation and recognition of you, such as good character, which is a very important advantage, because marriage and love are different, marriage is a contractual act, two people are an economic community, not only need to live together, have children, but also rely on and support each other;

Two people have different personalities, it is difficult to get along with each other in daily life, and without the blessing of love, I am afraid it will be like falling into an ice cellar, which will make the heart very cold. Holding hands with someone you don't like against your will usually has only two endings.

One of the endings is that the heart is like ashes, but the appearance is calm. If you have no feelings for this person before entering the marriage, then you can still do it for a short period of respect, and it will be difficult to withstand the long-term run-in test. You have to get along with this person day and night, and deal with the details of tea, rice, oil and salt together, you can't get used to his three views, and you can't have any love from the bottom of your heart, and after a few years, you already want to escape.

Many people regard marriage as a castle of happiness, but forget to say that when there is no love, marriage is everyone's shackles. You feel the pain, but you can't let go because of the world's eyes. Even if you look lively and sunny on the outside, you are desperate on the inside.

Not to mention that if he stabs you with indifference, getting along becomes a kind of torment, and such days will eventually torture people to lose their luster.

Don't underestimate the importance of marriage, in a person's life, marriage is enough to change the fate of the existence. When you want to walk in, think carefully. Impulsiveness or over-glorification are not attitudes toward marriage.

The rest of your life is long, so long that you can't tolerate people you don't like around, don't overestimate your endurance, and don't take the difficulties of marriage too lightly. When there is no suitable partner, you might as well only promise yourself, don't settle, and take good care of yourself until you are old.

Marrying someone you don't like, another ending is resentment. The other party is lazy and doesn't clean, you can't get used to his habits, and you spend lavishly, and he also dislikes your view of money. There is no sweetness in your daily life, only quarrels.

If there is love, you can reconcile after the quarrel. Without love, there is endless cold war and tug-of-war. didn't want to tolerate the other party, faced him with a cold face, turned his head and poured bitter water on his friends.

Maybe such people themselves don't realize that a bad marriage has tormented them and is full of resentment. So I didn't like anything, and lamented that my fate was not good. As everyone knows, this loveless partner is exactly what he chose at the beginning.

Many people have the illusion that if they don't love each other before marriage, they may be able to slowly fall in love after marriage. In fact, this is impossible, the trivialities in life will only grind people more impatient.

If you marry someone you don't like, you may not be happy in this life, let alone happy.

Both men and women want to find someone who loves them together, and they hope that the person they love happens to love themselves, and they can stay with the person they love for a lifetime, and spend a lifetime happily and sweetly.

But not everyone can meet the person they like, and they happen to like themselves, and the people they love also happen to love themselves, and many times, they are the people they like, and they don't like themselves, and they don't like them.

Fate always likes to play tricks on people, which will make many people experience failed feelings, at the right time, but meet the wrong person, no one wants to be with a person they don't love, but by mistake, they are with someone they don't love.

How do you feel when you're with someone you don't love? When you are with someone you don't love, you will have these 4 feelings, and sometimes, it is particularly obvious.

1. I feel very tired.

With the person you love, you will feel very relaxed, very happy, always feel that time flies quickly, there will be a sense of happiness, there will be a sweet feeling, and your heart will be very satisfied.

And when I am with someone I don't love, I always feel very tired, I feel that the other party doesn't understand me, I don't understand myself, I don't understand myself, I don't understand myself, I feel that no matter how hard I try, I can't get into each other's hearts, and I always feel that there is a distance between two people.

Many times, I feel that I am exhausted and have no strength, not because my body is tired, but because my heart is too tired, and all the sadness and difficulty are experienced by myself.

2. I feel very lonely.

With people who love each other, there is a sense of security, a sense of steadfastness, no matter where you are on the earth, you will not feel lonely, you can always feel warm love, and you can always feel each other's existence.

There is an interesting question on Zhihu that immediately caught my attention: What happened to those who married people they didn't like?

1.It's not good to marry the person you love the most: many people think that they are married to the love of their lives before they get married, but often the life after marriage is not as good as when they are in love.

This is a worse state.

2.Marry the person you love the most and live well: Marriage is a joint operation of two people, it is not just a matter of spending the first and second months, you and I are enough to drink water, it requires the joint efforts and tolerance of two people.

3.It's good not to marry the person you like: the reason why the word "good" is used may be because there may be regrets in the bottom of my heart, and I didn't spend the rest of my life with the person I love the most, but slowly, I married the person I didn't love very much, but I was very cared for, pampered and cared for, people are emotional animals after all, and happiness sometimes comes slowly.

4.It's bad to not marry someone you like very much: getting married in a hurry, not being responsible for yourself, and finally, the days didn't last long, I couldn't stand it, and I ...... divorce

In fact, if these are to be regarded as the normal state of marriage, do you have any ideas about how to choose the other half of the future imitation of Qiqi? I would like to give you some pertinent advice, I hope it will be helpful to you:

1. Love is the foundation of marriage, try to marry someone who loves each other.

2. Don't fall in love with someone who didn't come out of the previous relationship.

3. Especially for boys, if the other party is not the type you like, I hope that you can be really good for her, and I would rather you abandon it ruthlessly than compromise, and it will hurt each other if you really enter into marriage.

4. Love is unfair, don't think that if you do well enough, you will definitely win the other party's heart.

Most people's lives are ordinary, and their partners are often not the young men and fair ladies they met when they were seventeen or eighteen.

Counting our previous generation and even the previous generation, most of the beginnings of their marriages are blind dates, which are more equivalent to encounters and companionships that begin for the sake of life and the integrity of life. It is not denied that there is true love among them, but we have to admit that it is more because they want to start a family, and the person who holds hands with them may not like it, but in the end they still come together.

Marriage is the spice of life, not a necessity, because if it were, many of the relationships that were combined on blind dates would have broken down long ago.

When it comes to people who like me and people I like, if I had to choose, I would choose the former. Of course, there will definitely be a feeling of regret, but how can anyone's life be perfect, and they must always accept the helplessness in life. Whether you like a high model or not, when you choose to marry him, the person you like is a thing of the past after all, and living your current life is what we should do in the world.

People are not plants and trees, who can be ruthless. If you are fortunate enough to be in a union with someone who likes you but doesn't, at least it doesn't end too badly, they will try to get into your heart and become someone you can rely on to talk to, and stay with you like a wedding vow for the rest of the day.

When you are with someone you don't like, it may be difficult to accept or even resist at first, but I believe that people will have a shining point. Maybe the previous judgment of others was too one-sided.

In "Ordinary World", Tian Runye didn't like to move forward at first, and once resisted getting close to her, but as time passed, she also changed her opinion, and in the end the two lived happily.

In short, give each other a chance, maybe the current insensibility just comes from not understanding, as time goes by, you are all running in each other's lives, gradually, I believe you can become the most dependent and trusting person for each other, so that life is very nice!