Why are so many people reluctant to get married now?

Nowadays, so many people, especially young people, are reluctant to get married, and based on my own experience and the analysis of the situation I know, there are mainly the following reasons.

1. It is difficult to find someone you like.

Generally speaking, the more educated men and women are, the less they are married, not because they feel that marriage is not important, but because they feel that marriage is very important. Therefore, they have more thoughts and requirements for choosing a partner, not just looking for a partner to live with.

2. The financial ability is too poor to support a marriage.

Generally this situation is indeed not a minority, many people, especially recent graduates, have not reached the level of economic satisfaction to the extent that they can't give women and families the life they want, if they get married, from the bride price to the house, the car is a lot of expenses, for people who can't even take care of their own lives, it is really difficult.

3. Marriage means the beginning of trouble.

Nowadays, young people are used to being single and free, and getting married means that you need to have a lot of things to deal with, such as working on the main board for the wedding, buying household appliances, etc. In addition to this, it is also necessary to get pregnant and take care of children, and to deal with the other party's kinship, which is also the reason why many people do not like to get married.

4. Some of the past injuries cannot extricate themselves.

Some people don't want to get married because of serious injuries in the past, such as: family imbalance, childhood trauma, past emotional damage, which can lead to people not wanting to get married.

Many young people think that getting married and having children is not the ultimate meaning of life, and this should be the aspect that people who don't want to get married think about the most. What they think is not that they are old enough to get married, but that if both of them are busy with work and have no time to take care of the family, or if one party is busy with family work, and the other party just comes home from work to eat and sleep and complain, and the children grow up in an environment without sound love, can this be considered a good marriage? Rather than being tortured like this, it is better to live a relaxed and chic life alone.

First: Feelings account for more and more of the marriage factor, and we expect love to be eternal, but love always flows.

I used to think that if I didn't meet the person I love to marry, I would still be single, and even if I did, I still thought so. If I choose to enter marriage, the proportion of feelings must be the most important. Many people around me are like this, not because they are old, but because they have met the right person to marry them.

My friend Lan Yue is still alone in her thirties, she said, if I just found someone to marry, I would have been married a long time ago, but the problem is that marriage is not like this, that person is with you for a lifetime, and the two of you are living, of course, you have to pay attention to the emotional factor, without feelings, what do two people marry.

"Human feelings are fluid, and this marriage requires absolute loyalty from both of you, and this thing itself creates contradictions. ”

This has also led to some people becoming "unmarried", that is, they only fall in love and do not get married, because they are afraid of being tied to marriage for a lifetime, they know that they love someone cannot be eternal, and they are also very afraid of marriage.

Second: the extension of the average life expectancy of people, the old and the young, the burden of a family is too heavy.

Li Yinhe believes that in the ancient traditional society, it has always been thirty or forty years old, you have just got married, and then you have just given birth to a child and two children, and the children have not grown up, and the parents have passed away, so it is not easy to contradict the marriage system. But now the pressure of life is too great, which will cause many people to feel that the burden of marriage is very heavy, and it is good to live alone.

Third: Women have the ability to earn money independently, and after having an independent income, they have one more choice, and they have no absolute reason to get married.

Why have there been more and more older leftover women in cities in recent years? Are they really unwanted? No! More of them actively choose to be single, anyway, they can earn money to support themselves, why should they succumb to low-quality marriages?

We have to admit thatNowadays, more and more independent women can choose whether to get married or not, they can afford to support themselves, and they have the ability to choose whether to settle or not.

With an independent income, women have one more choice, and now they have no absolute reason to get married.

Fourth: The cost of divorce is too high, so why bother in the first place.

Marriage costs money, divorce of course also costs money, many people can't stand it financially, feel that the loss is too great, emotional torture, so why bother in the first place.

I do emotional work, and I have come into contact with some divorced people, and the reason why they are reluctant to step into marriage again is because of emotional fear of injury, and there are also financial reasons, and they really don't want to spend a lot of money anymore.

In the past, it was necessary to have children when you got married, but now there are some Dink families who choose not to have children, since they can choose not to have children, why should they get married? This has also led many people to have the option of being single. Nowadays, more people pay more attention to their own lives, and they pay attention to their own lifestyle and choose to be single.

Now there are many people who are reluctant to get married.

There are many reasons for this.

First of all, there are more men and fewer women, and naturally there are many men who can't find a marriage partner, and they have no choice but to be single.

Then there is the pressure, many people do not have the conditions to get married, and they are not able to get married.

Still others are too demanding and have high expectations.

Too tall to get married.

Others are too busy earning money and working to get married.

There are also people who like the feeling of being single, who don't care about what they want to do, and don't want to get married.

As a result, more and more people are not married.

I believe that there are many people who know that love is very happy and very beautiful. It is precisely because love is so happy and beautiful that we see many people wishing for themselves. To be able to have a beautiful love.

Especially when they meet someone they like very much, many of them will be more positive and more active, and they will care about each other and take care of each other very carefully, because they hope that through their own care and care, they can be with the person they like.

But we see that not all of them are able to be with the people they like. And we also see that there are a lot of young people now, they are not married, and they don't want to be in a relationship, so some people want to know why many people don't want to get married now.

First of all, because there are a lot of young people now, and they are not that good yet. Even they don't even have a stable job, we all know that if you don't even have a stable job, then it is very difficult to want love, so many young people are very serious and hard-working. Work hard because they hope that they can make themselves better, and only then can they find someone they like.

We're seeing that for more people, the reason why they're not getting married is because there are a lot of girls now. They are very realistic, especially in love, they will ask too much and too much for boys, they demand that boys have good jobs and good families. Not only that, but they also require the boys to care for and take care of the girls with their hearts all the time.

As long as the boy is a little bit bad, then for a lot of girls. And they would not be able to make peace.

So we see. Nowadays, there are many people, especially young people, who do not fall in love and do not get married. But in fact, for them, they also know that love is a happy marriage.

So we hope that first of all, as girls, they should still come back. Back to the essence of love. Because love is the mutual care and love of two people.

And as boys, we want them to be more active and hardworking, because only when boys are more active and hard-working, can men be allowed to do so. Boys are more excellent, and only in this way can boys find a suitable person for themselves. In the end, boys and girls can be better.

Only in this way can we have a better and happier marriage.

Nowadays, many people have been single and reluctant to get married, and the possible reasons are also different from person to person. The main reason why I have been single is that I don't want to take on the responsibilities and obligations after marriage. Falling in love is a very easy thing, as long as you like each other, you don't have to worry too much about external factors.

And marriage is not, marriage means that you have to work hard for your family, you have to run for firewood, rice, oil, salt, and grandson, so many people will be afraid of marriage, and the solution:

First, don't be overly afraid or resistant to marriage. The reason why many older single young people are reluctant to get married is mainly because they are full of resistance to marriage. Especially when they see that many couples are not happy in their marriages at all, they are even more afraid of marriage.

However, you should not deny the meaning and value of marriage just because someone else's marriage is unhappy. In other words, you don't want to completely reject marriage from the beginning, you might as well face a relationship with an open heart.

Second, marriage should be built on the basis of genuine love for each other. Regardless of whether you are in a relationship with the intention of getting married, you have to take the relationship seriously. Marriage is based on genuine love for each other, which is not in conflict or contradiction with love.

In other words, your love will not be diluted by marriage. Marriage also needs love as a support. Many marriages break down mainly because they didn't love each other from the beginning.

The third is that marriage is a matter of course, and there is no need to force it. In any case, marriage is a matter of course, and there is no need to force it. Whether you insist on unmarried love or fall in love with the intention of getting married, you have to be comfortable with the coming and going of a relationship.

Love is the eternal theme of human beings, and it is also a beautiful and noble emotion. Entering marriage from love involves the lives of two people, and will produce a third life, a new life, which makes marriage more social and gives rise to responsibility for society and family.

Love is not a person's private matter, it is related to the moral outlook and stability and unity of society. Love is the unity of spirit and flesh, which not only contains physical attraction and desire satisfaction, but also has higher psychological needs, emotional attachment, spiritual resonance, and spiritual enjoyment. With the development of society, as well as the increase of social responsibility and the progress of science and technology, people's desire for love, marriage and childbirth is getting lower and lower.

1. Young people are under great economic pressureFor most men, the economy must be the premise for young people to enter a marriage, and it is also the basis for building a new family. Therefore, they hope to work hard for their careers when they are young, and only when they have a certain economic foundation will they dare to propose to the woman they love. Of course, in addition to this reason, many men need to have a house of their own and a car, and if they do not have these material conditions, they do not have enough confidence to propose to the woman they love, so it is very financially stressful for young men.

Especially in some places where the bride price is more important, many men often worry about the bride price money, and even after marriage, they will continue to worry about the family's livelihood. Putting aside the cost of the wedding for the time being, after marriage, not only will they worry about the miscellaneous trivialities of firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea, but also after they have children, milk powder money and various expenses of early education classes will also follow. If you can't prepare for all the unknowns in the future before marriage, then you will feel a headache for the word "money" after marriage, so this pressure will make men keep retreating, not daring to talk about "love" easily, let alone easily entering marriage.

2. Modern women's thinking is very independent Today's women's thinking is becoming more and more independent, completely different from the young girls of the previous era, when women hoped to change their lives by marrying a good man and starting a good marriage. And today's women choose to become the person they want to be in this era, and begin to work hard for their careers and dreams, they no longer "love brains", and no longer rely on marriage to spend their lives. In other words, women nowadays are very "Buddhist", and even in the face of constant urging from their parents and relatives to marry, they still maintain their persistence.

If you can't meet someone who loves each other and is suitable, then you'd rather be single than choose to spend the rest of your life with someone you don't love and aren't suitable. And they have enough ability to support themselves and give themselves all the good things, even one person will be particularly happy, so more and more young women are beginning to reject marriage.

3. Marriage without meeting the right lover is a major event in life, and only by finding the person who is really suitable for yourself can you feel the taste of happiness on the next journey. Therefore, the reason why many young people have not been married is that they have not yet met their lover, but when they meet the person they really like and are suitable, they naturally want to enter the palace of marriage with each other. If you just get married for the sake of getting married, then you will never feel lucky again in this life when you meet someone you don't like.

So even if you spend a little more time, try to find someone you really like to spend the rest of your life with. This is also what many young people think in the hearts of today, so they don't want to get married more and more, and they don't want to meet the blind date introduced to them by their parents and relatives, because they just want to marry someone they really like in their limited life.