Where is the poison of the educational chicken soup that parents love?

There is no harm if there is no comparison, and the most toxic thing is that you always compare the strengths of other children with the shortcomings of your own children.

In daily life, parents always like to use some poisonous chicken soup to educate their children. Whose children have good grades, whose children are well-behaved and obedient, whose children eat more, and even whose children get up early, anyway, in the mouths of their own parents, their own children are always not as good as other people's children.

There is no good or bad thing about children, but the evaluation of parents will make children feel that they are not good. For children, everything they do is just an attempt in the process of exploring the world, if they taste the sweetness in the attempt, they may continue in the future, and if they suffer hardship, they may correct it in the future, but this is not a reason for parents to compare their children with this as a basis.

Perhaps in a child's world, the earnest teachings of parents are like a warm current that can warm children and make them grow. The comparative education of parents is like pouring rain, although it can also make children grow, but it may leave a shadow on the children if they are really too late, and even have some inferiority.

Every family has a different way of educating them, but they should all have enough respect for their children. Children actually have a lot of self-esteem, and when you reprimand or even hit your child in public, your child's self-esteem is suffering a serious bruise. When you constantly compare your child's shortcomings with the strengths of other people's children in your home education, your child will feel that he is worthless.

Maybe this kind of parenting method will make the child correct some bad habits in a short time, but in the long run, the child's heart will become very sensitive and vulnerable.

Every pair of parents wants their children to grow up healthy and happy, but whether to give their children a strict education method or a relaxed education method, every family is making a choice. Just either way, don't compare your child to others, your child is the most special one, you have to believe that.

I hope that my children can grow up healthily, and I will pay attention to giving my children enough respect and self-encouragement in my future life.

Personally, I think it's right for parents to educate their children with chicken soup. It's just that many parents regard chicken soup as the truth and ignore the importance of practice. Although chicken soup is good, without the support of practice, chicken soup may also become poison.

Those "chicken soups" are what parents think we should do, without considering whether we want to do it or not, ignoring our own wishes. Such "chicken soup" will only make the relationship between parents and children worse and worse.

Educational chicken soup is not suitable for every family, parents should choose education according to their own family situation, do not blindly follow chicken soup education, to find a suitable home.

As parents, you need to build empathy with your children, so that you can better educate your children, and you will love to watch educational chicken soup.

Because parents always have preconceived ideas about educating their children. Basically, they are imposing their own ideas on the children. So this led to the chicken soup becoming poisonous chicken soup. As a result, they will not achieve the effect they want.

Poisonous Chicken Soup 1: Happy Education.

Many parents always feel that cultural education should be happier, but their children are always bent over by learning and training, so they gradually call for "happy education" and "give children a good childhood". However, if parents blindly follow the trend to win "happy education" for their babies, will it be good? Now this social work is under so much pressure, if the child has been living in the "honey badger", it has not been a good thing for her, and when she enters the workplace in the future, she will not be able to endure hardships and tiredness, and it will be difficult for her to survive in society.

Poisonous Chicken Soup 2: Unleash the child's nature.

I believe that many parents have heard the words "release the child's nature", I think this is not wrong in itself, in the baby's teaching activities, parents do want to preserve the child's nature, such as the innate desire to explore and practice. However, some parents will overinterpret it, thinking that the release of nature is equivalent to spoiling the child, whether it is good or bad, and neglecting to control it, so that the child will easily develop many bad habits, but it will not be good for his future development.

Poisonous Chicken Soup 3: Diplomas are of little use.

When their children's academic performance is not good, some parents will say to their babies, "It's okay, some people haven't even finished primary school, and they don't grow up to be their own bosses." "Parents who believe that these words abound, and they will feel that the diploma is not very useful, and in short, they can find a job after that. However, in this society now, a diploma is a must-have in many jobs, and a diploma represents a person's learning ability, so parents cannot use such words to deceive their children, so that he is the king to study seriously.

Poisonous Chicken Soup 4: Blindly focus on incentives.

In order to make their children more motivated to learn and train, some parents use praise to motivate them. However, praise the child also needs to have a degree, moderate praise can give the baby confidence, if it is excessive, it will outweigh the loss, it is very easy for the baby to cultivate a proud and complacent mentality. In addition, children have been in the praise of their parents, and they will lose their pride after a long time, so parents need to pay attention to and moderately "pick the door" of their praise.

The first type of education should be strict with children, so that children can not feel that their parents are not majestic; In the second kind of education, children cannot lose at the starting line, and they must give them the best education and materials.

Poisonous Chicken Soup 1: Happy Education: It will cause children to be unable to endure hardships and tiredness in the future, and it will be difficult for them to survive in society.

Poisonous Chicken Soup 2: Release the child's nature: Releasing the nature is equivalent to spoiling the child, whether it is good or bad, it is not restricted, then the child is easy to develop a lot of bad habits, but it is not good for his future development.

Poisonous chicken soup 3: Education has little effect: Education is a stepping stone in many jobs.

Poisonous Chicken Soup 4: Blindly emphasizing encouragement: Excessive encouragement is easy for the baby to develop a sense of pride and arrogance.

For example, parents must take their children to training classes, or to develop an interest in their children, or to start from the starting line.

The topic of education has always been a hot topic of great concern to the whole society. With the improvement of the economy, parents are also seeking a balance between education and life, rather than blindly forcing their children to study. This change is naturally pleasing because it is not only the progress of a family, but also the progress of society as a whole.

We need to be wary that with the convenience of information sharing, there is also a large amount of information asymmetry, which can lead to misunderstandings and delay children's development. Many educational ideas in the West collided violently with the old China in the East. The best of the best is absorbed by us, and we also need to selectively avoid many cultural dross.

Many parents feel that the educational environment abroad seems to be more lively than that at home, and education without stress should be happy. In developed countries such as Europe and the United States, there is a common knowledge, that is, it is easy to enter the school, but it is difficult to graduate. This is because in a seemingly pleasant learning atmosphere, teachers are more demanding of their students.

If they blindly pursue happy education, they can only fall behind in the increasingly fierce competition.

Of all the poisonous chicken soups, education is the best. Many friends put on the list of people who do not have higher education but can become successful people in society, so they conclude that academic qualifications are useless. So does this conclusion really stand up to scrutiny?

As we all know, celebrities such as Jack Ma, Ma Huateng, and Jobs on the world's wealth list are all graduates of world-famous universities. They can only create their own way in complex times. It can only be the sigh of the survivor's deviation and should not be the target of many ordinary people.

In Western educational philosophy, it is very important to unleash the child's nature and seek the child's self-development. However, after several twists and turns, when they come to China, many parents omit the latter sentence and only feel that releasing their children's nature is the most important thing. But releasing nature does not mean spoiling children, not restricting the norms of children's daily behavior, so that there are naturally good and bad, if not restrained, it is easy to develop bad habits and trap children's lives.

A lenient education means that children should not be too strict with their grades, rather than disregarding them. Liberal education can give children freedom within a certain limit, so that children can self-adjust and relieve pressure in the intense study. However, overindulgence not only leads to the failure of children's performance, but also may affect the establishment of children's three views, which is not conducive to children's future development.

Appropriate encouragement can help children improve their enthusiasm for learning, but overemphasizing encouragement is not only easy to mislead children, but also leads to children's inability to accept criticism, and the cultivation of this kind of character is not conducive to children's growth. Therefore, the right combination of criticism and encouragement can help children grow up healthily.

When parents read the article, they should also keep their eyes open, have their own judgment, and don't follow the trend of the public too much, so as to avoid these "poisonous chicken soup" pit the future of their children.

Parents should correctly understand that their children's education should not be affected by other ways, after all, children's growth is the most important.

Parents should choose the right chicken soup for their children to instill. Some flashy things for children must be avoided. As a parent, you must have a keen eye.

1. Releasing nature seems to be an advanced educational concept, but it is actually an indulgence for children. 2. Chinese children are doing homework in the classroom, but foreign children are learning in a "playful" way. Being in a relaxed environment for a long time will cause children to give up halfway through their studies and have no motivation.

3. Parents must not tell their children with a small probability event, and it doesn't matter if they don't go to college. 4. Children need praise and encouragement. And it means that good children are praised, and parents can't praise everything.

Parents must be wary of these 4 kinds of poisonous hail good chicken soup, the first is too much indulgence in children; And then there are no regulations either; And I feel that it doesn't matter if my child can't go to college; Encourage the child too much, and think that the child is doing everything right.

Children should be cultivated from an early age, their ability to discriminate, their personality development, communicate more, and guide their children to think positively.

I think that in the face of some bad things, it is better not to give children contact, and to choose high-quality things for children.

Parents should be restrained in loving their children, and they should not spoil their children, and parents must look at problems from the perspective of their children.

The family has long loved children, not to spoil them. It doesn't have to be all of your child's needs. It is to help children grow up, and Peixin has nurtured their character and qualities, so that they have the ability to face life independently.

Parents should encourage their children more, and then let their children face difficulties more. In this way, children can be educated.

You should set a correct concept for your child, and at the same time, you should set a good example and demonstration for your child, and don't do some bad habits or bad things in front of your child.

We should let the child grow up happily, and when the child is still relatively young, don't always stare at his learning state, but release his nature and let them have a good childhood.

Let your child develop her own interests and hobbies, and don't be too constrained and don't hinder your child's dreams.