Why doesn t a woman who wants a divorce want her husband to be nice to her parents?

Is it possible that the reason for the divorce is the relationship between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law? In fact, many male friends don't understand after getting married, the wife is also your family, although there is no blood relationship, but you form an independent small family, and the man is not aware of it, or will subconsciously put his spouse on the periphery, thinking that his parents are closer to him This will cause a lot of problems.

She wants to divorce because her heart is no longer with you.

So she will be very resolute, she will not take into account your feelings, she will not think that you are good to her, she will not think that you are good to her family, she will not ......

Since she is like this, it is better not to reluctantly keep it, even if she can keep it, she will be centrifuged.

It seems that you are a man, since you want to divorce, that is a problem between you, if a woman chooses to marry because of the man's attitude towards her parents, and chooses not to divorce, then the man sees the woman as something, reflect on everything, think about it in a different position, consider it for the other party, the thing is very simple, there is no need to divorce, and if you get married, you are responsible, the responsibility is to pay, yes, the old man's filial piety is what should be done, nothing is great, If you use the good of the other party's parents to maintain the behavior that should be good to your wife as a bargaining chip for divorce, you will lose! It's a flaw! In turn, it is the merit, and this sensitive word will not appear, divorce.

Do what you have to do, no matter who your wife is, there will be no such problems. Remember that we are responsible. Because we have a family, we are the hosts!

Marriage is not child's play, it may be that you have not coordinated some aspects in the middle or that you are not satisfied with the attitude of his parents. Anyway, there must be a reason. Marriage is not child's play, and feelings are not child's play. Don't want to get a divorce or something at every turn, they're all adults.

You have to find a way to convince and educate her, don't leave at every turn, what if the next one is the same? Maybe you also had some problems with some methods earlier, and the onset of the disease was incurable, and it was difficult to treat in the advanced stage. Now you have to educate slowly, and the methods must be used well, otherwise she will not listen to you.

But I also want to know if you respect your parents, especially in front of your wife.

My problem is the same as yours, and I'm also very struggling and can't make up my mind.

You do it first and foremost to be good to her parents

The pressure in my heart makes people can't think about it, go out to play for two days, change your mood, and then enter the house.

Think about what you want from the other person, and try to get it.

It's definitely about making yourself very laid-back.

If the other person doesn't really love you, then he will give up.

Personally, I don't think you're going to feel comfortable at all.

Two people can live separately.

Two people can live alone.

One marriage means embarking on a road that does not know the future, although people yearn for whiteheads, but not all of them go to the end, there will always be a lot of accidents in marriage, and many people will go their separate ways for various reasons.

But recently I found that after many women divorce, no matter how hard their lives are, they have not taken refuge in their parents' families, which is very incomprehensible in my opinion, people don't all say that "their mother's family is always the strongest backing for women", and even many parents say the most when their daughters get married is "come back if you are wronged".

Why are more and more women reluctant to go to their parents' families after divorce? There are no more than 3 reasons for this.

2. "After getting married, I became an outsider to my mother-in-law's family and a guest of my mother's family."

Many friends who got married told me that after getting married, they not only became an outsider to their mother-in-law's family, but also hid it from themselves many times, and even unconsciously became a guest of their own family.

Even if you take refuge in your mother's family after divorce, you will not have the feeling of not being married when you stay at home, you will always be a little princess in your mother's house before marriage, but after marriage, you are like a relative who does not come often, you have to speak politely, and you can no longer do what you want, so many women are unwilling to go to their parents' family again.

After a divorce, parents will feel that they have embarrassed them."

How many women's marriages are actually arranged by their parents, marrying a rich man, and being a virtuous wife after marriage, their parents' faces are also bright, and they can always say that their daughter married a good man, but in fact, whether the marriage is happy or not, only they understand it in their hearts.

There are also such parents around, and after the divorce, their daughters feel that their faces are dull and they have no capital to show off, so they will always scold their daughters, who have no interest at all, and they can't even keep their marriage. Maybe this marriage is obviously not your fault, but they just keep their mouths shut about each other and blame your fault.

I don't want my parents to be upset about my divorce."

I once talked about this matter with some friends, and they all said that even after the divorce, they would not go to their parents' home, it is nothing more than that their parents are very old, they have raised themselves for so many years, and they have already started a family, although the marriage fails, they can only carry it by themselves. Therefore, I don't want my parents to worry about my divorce anymore, even if the days ahead will be more bitter, but I will still grit my teeth alone.

3. Marriage is not so easy, there will always be times when two people can't go on together, if you are really divorced, whether to take refuge in your mother's family is actually your own choice.

Because in the hearts of parents, whether you are married or not married, this blood relationship will never be broken, no matter whether you are doing well or not, the door of your mother's house will always be open for you.

Because at this time, you are already an outsider to them, and after the divorce, people often live in their parents' house, which is easy to attract gossip, and there is also the fear that their parents will worry about themselves, after all, they have been raised for so many years, and seeing themselves become a person will only make them upset and affect their mood.

Because modern girls have self-esteem, even after the divorce, life is difficult, they are not willing to take the initiative to seek help from their parents, but they will also yearn for family affection.

A divorced woman is no longer the girl she once was, so she is unwilling to take refuge in her mother's family, and she doesn't want to cause trouble to her mother's family, so it can be said that divorced women are particularly difficult.

Because these women feel that taking refuge in their mother's family in this situation will only make their mother's family feel more uncomfortable, and it will also make people outside laugh at themselves.

No matter how much you read the chicken soup and listen to the more preaching, it will only delay you, and marriage is just life.

The inner part, sometimes don't take it too seriously, more important than it is your physical and mental health, self-esteem and independence! If you really love, you really can't let go, and you really want to redeem it, first of all, you have to be yourself, make a little progress every day, and if you have the conditions to receive professional guidance and help. In the end, you have yourself without him!!

Leave that a matter of course, and if the person sent to rectify it doesn't find the problem, and someone else finds out the problem, your husband's future is likely to be compromised.

Your husband is doing the right thing, you need to understand him more and don't choose divorce.

For this trivial matter, your husband wants to divorce you, and this problem should not be a matter of one or two days.

Otherwise, it is because of this incident that the previous contradictions have been stimulated together.

If it was just in anger, he shouldn't be so impulsive.

If you don't want to get a divorce, just insist, if it's just angry, you won't get divorced if you are angry, if you have made up your mind, it's useless for you to try to keep it.

Then you take the initiative to find him, admit your mistakes first, and don't regret it if you miss it. He thinks you have something to do with your classmates, and now he is jealous, you lower your posture, see the effect first, and then ask if it doesn't work.

It's really a matter of your ill-conceived both.

However, there was a problem, and when I found it, there was a problem.

Expert. If your husband covers up this thing, but there is a rumor that someone else has leaked it, then your husband himself is not guaranteed, how can you do this, so of course she will be sad, if you don't want to divorce, first of all, you must admit your mistakes to him, this is a must do, but also pay attention to some methods, don't ask for reconciliation when the other party can only be angry, this will anger the other party's emotions, if you want to redeem, you can chat with me privately, we communicate in detail.

Then go and make it clear to your husband, two people face to face to talk about the problem and solve it together, this is the best way, or it is okay to discuss it after everyone has calmed down! I hope you can be happy for a lifetime.

Only by figuring out the real cause can we know what to do.

If you say more soft words, you will cry if you can't do it. I can't see my wife crying the most, and I don't have to argue, just let him tell his grievances, you have to communicate, lack of communication.

Hello, I read the post you wrote, as a psychological counselor, I think this shows that you and your husband usually lack effective communication, and after your husband was so-called annoyed by you this time, he threatened to divorce and move out, not because you annoyed him this time to let him do this, but his psychological reaction to a cumulative emotional venting of you. Through this incident that annoyed your husband, it woke up the person in the dream, so that you now feel that you actually love your husband very much, in this sense, this incident is both a bad thing and a good thing, for this reason, I suggest that you temporarily let your husband calm down outside for a few days, but then find your husband to communicate, in the communication to your husband to express that you actually love him in your heart, and can make your husband feel that you are not only sincere, but also can accept your strong love from the psychology. If you need further help, you can come to me.

If he is good in everything, he will not love you, and if he is not good in this aspect, he will not be good. First determine whether he still loves you and whether it is worth you to redeem, and I am trying to see how to redeem it. I wish you happiness.

The first thing to be clear about is whether you love him, if not, then let it go and take this opportunity to break off.

In general, the contradiction between the two of you is the contradiction caused by the asymmetry of tolerance and love, you must know whether he loves you now, it is recommended to test it, find an avoidable reason to see him, but it can't be too insignificant, see if he still cares, act, if you don't care, just divide it, if you love him very much, you can chase it back after splitting.

If he is not determined, then create an opportunity to be alone and make a confession, you can refer to Japanese dramas, Korean dramas, and idol dramas to make him feel that you have changed, dissipate his anger, and dispel this thought. After that, it's easy to do.

Then talk to him.

Say what you think.

You're a good woman, it's a pity you understood the problem too late, but it's okay.

If the relationship is like this, it's okay if you don't get together.

In fact, there is no major problem under the communication as much as possible.

Apologize to your husband and get along well in the future.

Since the daughter is 6 years old, for the sake of the child, the child's growth always needs maternal love, this is a point, I advise you to get her back. The second is that you also think that she is quite knowledgeable and unassertive, so you should communicate with her well, explain to her the harm that divorce will bring to the children and you, and ask her to consider it carefully. Don't let your mom dictate her mind anymore.

After all, whether his marriage is happy or not, the second half of his life. Both parties will make a decision after calm communication.

Tragic.. Such a woman is a tragedy... Wooden way.

There is no way, his mother may be a little unscrupulous, you can talk to her about her heart.

If you and the other person are truly in love, then I think you need to do a good job of your parents' mindsIn my opinion, your parents are typical of discrimination, in our China divorced women are always not good to remarry, most of the reason is because the man's parents do not agree, I think as a man's parents should empathize and think about the situation of the divorced woman at this moment, if your child tells you that he wants to marry the divorced, then your child must really like the woman, as a child's parents why break up the family, why don't you empathize with the woman's situation?

We all know that in our country, it is inevitable that there are many people with old ideas who will look down on divorced women, let alone agree that their children are with such womenBut this is the opposite in foreign countries, those mothers who have been divorced and have children are often the most praised, they feel that this kind of woman is brave, and this kind of woman is the most socially excluded in our country, the most difficult to remarry, this is due to the rigidity of the older generation of thinking in our country, they think that marriage is a way to the end, even if the man makes a mistake and the woman will not say how the divorce is, the woman will only endure and endure.

But seriously, the times have completely changed nowadays, and the number of divorced people is increasing day by dayAlthough I also think that divorce is too common nowadays, their thinking is that they don't like life, why should they live it?I don't think divorced women will be how bad they are, but on the contrary, there are many divorced people around our generation of new women, and I feel that this is a very common thing.

However, it is estimated that for those parents of the older generation, I am afraid they will not be able to figure it out, they don't understand why two people are together so well, why do you want to divorce, why you choose to be together at that time to the end of the choice of divorce!