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Why can't you get married, what's wrong with rural people, although rural people may have no culture and no background, but some of them are simple and beautiful, I really don't know why you ask such a question, but I think there must be a reason why you ask this kind of question, either you look down on rural people from your heart, you feel that they are vulgar and uneducated and you don't want to marry rural people, or you are afraid of the opposition of the two families, and you are afraid that life after marriage is full of unhappiness.
In fact, let me tell you, rural people can definitely marry, because no matter what kind of status a person digs into his ancestors, his family must be rural, don't look down on rural people. There is also the fact that you yourself look at rural people as terrible, you think they are uneducated, and you are afraid that you will be as conflicted as in the TV series, but I want to tell you that all the facts are absolutely not the case, if you like a rural person, you must be with him at all costs. <>
With the development of modern times, the quality of rural people has been improved, and the life you think will never appear, I think rural people can marry, because they have a spirit of hardship. Don't be afraid that your marriage after marriage will involve too much, if you give up your love because of those unnecessary worries, you will be really sad. In my opinion, there is really no difference between rural people and urban people, I think the only difference between people is whether their hearts are pure and beautiful.
Don't judge yourself by these things that others have defined, it doesn't make sense at all. If you love that person enough and that person is good enough to you, don't think about whether he is a rural person, because it's really boring, if you really like that person, stay with him! Don't care if he's a rural person or not, as long as you don't regret it.
If you're bound by those things, you're really too much.
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If you love, marry if you don't, don't marry if you don't love. The decision word of whether you marry or not should be love or not, not whether you are a rural person or not.
In our general cognition, we think that rural people have no money and are rustic, but we should see the simplicity, kindness and practicality of rural people. The reason why you have such a problem, I guess a large part of the factor you consider is family conditions, in fact, family conditions should only be part of our marriage, not necessarily to say that the family conditions are good or that people in the city will be happy when you get married, the key is to see how much you love each other and how much the other party loves you.
Compared with city dwellers, rural people are more simple. Rural people have been mainly farmers all their lives, they don't have so many hearts, their lives are relatively simple, and their social circles are relatively simple, so they don't have so much intrigue, what they want to say, what they say, unlike people in big cities because they are often in the environment of transfer of interests, so they are more urban, there are words in the words, and you have to make you think hard to figure it out, and it is very tiring to communicate.
Compared with city people, rural people know how to cherish more. Farmers want a harmonious family all their lives, they don't have so much desire for money, and they know how to cherish what they get. Planting crops for a long time, they understand more about the hard work and harvest, the hardships of labor and the difficulty of getting the final results, which is a quality that is imperceptibly internalized in their hearts, so they will cherish their marriage very much.
Even if you are a rural person, you can go out and work hard, and you can fight for the future together. Rural people should not be a label, but should be a simple, honest symbol, you have to be discerning, see if the other party really loves you, don't think too much about the rest.
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In fact, the choice of marriage partner has little to do with whether it is a rural person, and the reason why many people will be prejudiced against rural people is because the probability of rural people really having strange things will be larger than those in cities. The main reason is that there are backward concepts in many remote villages, as well as strange family habits, which make many girls very annoying. <>
In fact, there are normal people in rural areas, and one of my former college classmates had a male student from the countryside. I think he's one of the better types of boys in the class. That boy is quite good at hardship because of the poor conditions at home, and he is usually frugal.
But the important thing is that he does not feel inferior because he is a rural person, and he has special respect for girls! I won't behave like a special pick, don't be greedy for others' cheapness, thank others for their efforts, and know how to reciprocate. A lot of the girls in our class love him!
My impression of him is really good, so I think whether to marry a rural person or not depends on his character.
But some rural people are indeed very scary, and the most common thing is the idea of preference for sons. I found that many people in rural areas seem to have children before they are of legal age, and then get married early. If you don't give birth to a boy, you vow not to give up, and there are a bunch of children in the family who can't afford to raise them, abound.
If you marry this kind of family, then the future will really be bitter, if you give birth to a boy, then everyone will be happy, and if you don't give birth to a boy, you will be unlucky. endure the white eyes of the family, and continue to have children.
So whether it is a rural person or not, the most important thing is character and three views! There are good people in the countryside and bad people in the city, so the most important thing is to keep your eyes open.
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The words of the ancestors: there is a certain truth in the family, the important thing is that both parties have a good living background since childhood, and the family background is comparable, and some rural children have very good living conditions since they were young, which is better than those born in working-class families in the city! Therefore, no one has the intention of despising rural people, it may only be for individual situations, some rural children are not very good from a young age, so it is not their fault that they create a world view and a different outlook on life from urban children.
In fact, I understand everyone's meaning, and there is no discrimination against farmers at all, but these problems do exist. It is not easy to train a college student in the countryside, and of course, it is understandable to rely on this person who has passed the examination and expect him to lead the whole family out of poverty. The important thing is the concept of hobbies and hobbies, these are indeed cultivated from childhood, when we enjoy the entertainment in the city, they are originally playing in the mud at home, so when it comes to the usual cultural life, entertainment and pastime, it is indeed impossible to talk about it, the way of life is different, the living habits are different, and the interests and hobbies are naturally different, this is not discrimination is a fact.
The idea of preference for sons over daughters in rural areas is indeed very serious, and they must give birth to a son before they give up, and the idea of raising children to prevent old age is still very deep-rooted, and if they do not have a son, they will be ridiculed and bullied.
My husband is a college student from the countryside, but my husband bought his own house. In other cases, as you said, we don't have children yet, but my husband's parents absolutely want boys, and my husband said that it doesn't matter, sons and daughters are the same. When their family came to propose, my mother told his parents that I liked my daughter, and his father was not happy at the time, but it doesn't matter, I have been with my husband, as long as my husband is not like that, it is nothing.
It has nothing to do with his parents liking their son, it's my husband and I's child. We're in the city, not in the country. Ha ha!
There are so many rational requirements in marriage, and we feel that happiness is enough. As for conflicts and unhappiness, every marriage depends on how they deal with it. After all, deciding to get married is just thinking about it.
Overall, character determines fate!
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According to what you say, is there no discrimination between rural people and urban people? Born in the countryside, do you think you are noble and great? Many people say that they hate rich people, but in fact they are jealous of rich people, and if they can't eat grapes, they say that grapes are sour, and if they think the city is not good, they obediently stay in the countryside, and if they think the city is not good, I want to ask you why you want to go to university, why you work in the city, why you don't stay in the countryside and engage in your glorious and noble labor for the rest of your life.
I don't target all rural people" only for those individual farmers who are angry and young, all day long to hate rich people, dissatisfied with society, instead of cursing the darkness, let yourself shine, think about the purpose of your survival and hard work, don't you feel like you're slapping yourself, hate the city, don't work hard to let children or the next generation work hard to go to the city to develop, don't come to the city to buy a house, don't come to the city to work, hate the rich, just be poor.
In fact, there is nothing wrong with us being born in the city as you are born in the countryside, we do not mean to look down on rural people, if we look down on the old, we will not choose to spend our lives with such people. But is it great to be born in the countryside? Rural people can be exalted as heroic sons and daughters.
Why do you expect people to be so perfect? Which one do you have? Do you dare to say that you don't have a prejudice against people in the city, I like the simplicity of rural people, and I have also stayed in the countryside for a while, I am friends with my brothers and sisters there, and I will not target all rural people, but only discriminate against urban people individually, the more they resist because of their inferiority complex in their hearts, if you are not the kind of individual rural people like angry youth, there is no need to fight here.
What happened to me is a living example, except that I was not married, we broke up, the promise he made to me when he was good with me before is now he promised to another woman, I believe in him, give him the first time, you know what he said when he broke up, don't look down on the working people, sweat is not salty, the land is not dirty, don't underestimate a penny, you might as well earn it yourself, don't be ashamed of your desires, enjoy it so sadly. Who will come and save me? I can only be firm in my belief that everything will be fine.
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Legal Analysis: 1. No.
2. You are only moving from one place to another, and the nature of the urban hukou cannot change with the migration.
3. If you move over, you will still have an urban hukou, and your hukou cannot be the same as your husband's hukou, it is two, you are an urban resident, and he is a rural hukou.
4. However, non-agricultural households that marry into rural areas can move their urban hukou into rural hukou because of marriage.
5. With the marriage certificate of both husband and wife, issue a certificate to your local village committee that you agree to move into the household registration due to marriage, and then apply for a "permit to move out" at the public security police station where your husband is stationed, and then return to the police station of your original residence to handle the household registration and move out, and then return to the police station where your husband is stationed to enter the household, you can become a rural household registration.
Legal basis: Article 10 of the Regulations of the People's Republic of China on Household Registration Article 10 When a citizen moves out of the jurisdiction of his or her household registration, he or the head of the household shall report to the household registration authority before moving out, obtain the migration certificate, and cancel the household registration.
Citizens moving from rural areas to urban areas must apply to the household registration authorities of their permanent residence for moving out with a certificate of employment from the urban labor department, a certificate of admission to a school, or a certificate of permission to move in from the urban household registration authority.
Citizens moving to border areas must be approved by the public security organs of the county, city, or municipal district of their habitual residence."
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Category: Annoyances >> in love.
The starting point of the landlord is good, and the ideas are also clear! I also believe that it is the writer's own experience!
However, I don't see your boyfriend's ignorance in the text at all! Therefore, you say don't marry a rural person, it seems that the logic doesn't make sense!
Of course, most of the elders in the countryside are indeed ignorant and ignorant, and only based on their own so-called experience, at least they will make their children unhappy, and at worst they will ruin their children's happiness!
Especially for daughters: they don't let their daughters find or marry boys from other provinces or far away, the reason is that they are afraid that their daughters will suffer and they can't take care of themselves! In fact, many decisions in life come from yourself, and you should trust your own vision.
The girl is naturally docile and does not dare to resist adults, and finally brings great pain to her later life. However, many people think that some rural parents care about their children in this way, but they don't know that they are planning for themselves, because their daughters are naturally filial and have a layer of fear that no one will take care of them when they are old!
The landlord's boyfriend is a man, and he should have his own intention to make his own decisions, otherwise, he listens to his parents in everything, is filial on the surface, but in fact has no opinions, and is extremely dependent. If all the young people in the countryside are like this, it is still advisable not to marry in the countryside, but now not all young people are!
I think that no one can interfere in matters related to money (financial management), marriage, and work, because this is a very relevant matter for the future of my life, and the experience of my elders can be heard, but what I think is wrong, no matter how stubborn the elders are, no matter how they are forced, they must not be shaken!
Whoever obstructs them on these three points is his own enemy!
Analysis: That's great, I'm deeply affected by it, hehe, support.
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It is difficult for unmarried young men in rural areas to marry wives, and the economic level in rural areas is even more backward than in urban areas. If you stay in the countryside for the rest of your life, you will not get better development. Nowadays, women are becoming more and more sober, and many women will stay in the bright cities.
If you can find a place in the city where you can put down roots, the chances of going back again are very low. <>
There is a serious imbalance in the ratio of men to women, which is directly related to the patriarchal attitudes of the older generation. Men who remain in the countryside are now divided into two categories, one of which is that they have a relatively low level of education. If the family has an acre and a third of land, coupled with the industrious nature, it is not a problem to meet the needs of the four seasons of the year.
However, because he was too Buddhist, he did not realize that the competition in society was extremely fierce, so he found that it was unimaginable to complete the major events of his life. It is extremely difficult for this kind of man to find a woman with the same conditions as himself. Many women want to change their destiny by getting married, and even regard marriage as their second life, so most of them will go up.
Some aspiring young people return to the countryside after graduating from university, hoping to make a better life for the local residents with their own efforts. However, many women are reluctant to accompany men to endure hardships, because everyone wants to be the main one and needs to take into account the family and economic situation of the offspring. Although this kind of problem is very worrying for parents, it is still very difficult for men to work hard.
Many urban girls grow up in the expectations of their parents, providing a better educational foundation for their children. In the eyes of women in this part, it is natural not to see the existence of rural men, but only to find people with the same educational experience and background, so as to be able to provide better genes. Marrying a rural person has to endure a lot of hardships.
These bitter women have not eaten at all and will not be blinded by love. Even if you agree, your parents and people around you will hinder you.
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