Tell me why it feels like it s getting harder and harder to find a partner.

Because the current society is developing, and the requirements for finding a partner will become higher and higher, if you don't reach the object, the other party will not choose you, anyway, the world is not the only one who is bad.

Because of beauty, because of beauty, women are more confident, and their requirements are naturally higher, because of beauty, men's vision is higher, and women are generally not eye-catching.

It may be that with the development of society, people's horizons are getting higher and higher, so it is becoming more and more difficult to find a partner, and then they will feel that they can always find something that meets their requirements.

From the perspective of gender structure, the male population is 704.14 million, the female population is 670.48 million, and there will be 30 million Chinese men who are singles, especially in rural areas.

Because the standard of living has improved now, and the economic ability is getting better and better, there are many girls, and I hope that the object is a relatively good person, if there is no excellence, it will not choose you.

That's a good question. The point is that the woman has more requirements. It's that there are more bride prices now, and ordinary people can't afford it.

I feel that the reason why people are getting earlier and earlier is that people are less and less likely to communicate and discuss things with others.

Because now with the development of society, the requirements for finding a partner are getting higher and higher, and the conditions are becoming more and more difficult, so people are more and more concerned.

The eye is high and the hand is low, and his own vision is higher than his own conditions, of course, he is single.

Because now everyone's vision is getting higher and higher, and their vision is getting higher and higher, and they all hope that their other half will be very good, so it is becoming more and more difficult to find a partner.

Nowadays, many people have seriously distorted three views!

Because it is no longer necessary for life, there is no need to settle.

Because everyone is more strict with their partner, and it's not sure if you can meet a better or more suitable one in the next minute.

As they grow older, many young generations come to the time of marriage, and at this time, the elders of the family will begin to arrange the introduction of blind dates, but the success rate is always not high, why is this? This is a question that needs to be answered from two directions: one is the problem from the direction of the introducer, and the other is the problem from the person being introduced.

One. Introducer's question.

1.This problem is also the problem of the elders, and it is very direct that most of the elders do not have a clear understanding of the real interests of the younger generations when they introduce them to the younger generations, but only match them according to the very superficial one, family conditions and personal income, in fact, most people lack understanding of the two parties he wants to introduce.

2.In addition, many elders are not seriously introduced, but spontaneously, and when they talk about gossip with relatives, neighbors and even colleagues, they arrange blind dates as they wish. You must know that even professional matchmakers may not do a good job in blind date introduction, and they are introduced at will, of course, the success rate is not high.

3.There is another point, sometimes the blind date introduced by the elders may be deliberately arranged to fail. In order to get married to their children, many elders have also put a lot of thought into the blind date.

In the conventional practice, I will deliberately find a few people who are not suitable or have lower conditions than the child's vision, let the child feel a round of frustration first, and then arrange them

2. Questions from the person being introduced.

The young men and women who are introduced to the blind date actually have some problems themselves. Many people are singled because they have problems, or even problems with the opposite sex. Of course, there are many people whose own conditions are not very good, and they do not recognize their own situation, and they have too high requirements for others, and they can't look down on them everywhere.

In addition to the above two points, it is also very important that many young people are more exclusive to blind dates, and many still have expectations for themselves to find a partner, of course, there are also people who do not want to get off the list, and they will not succeed if they are forcibly arranged. Of course, putting aside these problems, it is not easy to find a partner by itself, otherwise everyone will not always say that fate is rare. The blind date is actually a quick match of marriage, and when you fall in love, you will often find that there is no match and you will be separated and replaced, not to mention that marriage is a more prudent life event?

The blind date itself is a quick marriage match, and it is naturally inappropriate, so it is normal to fail often. 

There are various reasons why it has become difficult, but the following points I think have the greatest impact, especially for boys:

2.Smaller social circles: After work, people often socialize with colleagues and clients rather than with peers or friends. This can lead to a smaller social circle and difficulty meeting new potential partners.

3.Stress and anxiety: Work stress and scarcity can affect people's emotional state and abilities, making it difficult for them to establish and maintain healthy relationships.

4.Different priorities: Work and career development can become important priorities in people's lives, which can lead people to put romantic relationships on the back burner.

5.Different expectations: After work, people may have higher expectations about romantic relationships, such as finding a more stable and mature partner, which can make finding a romantic relationship more difficult.

If someone tells you that your mate selection standard is very low and very simple, as long as you have feelings and get along, then you must not believe it, because there are too many hidden requirements behind the feeling and compatibility, in fact, you can just think about it, including appearance, knowledge, family, conditions, career, three views, etc. For example, I heard from a matchmaker some time ago. A girl approached her to introduce a partner, and she asked if she had any requirements, and the girl said no, just get along.

As a result, the matchmaker found a person who was okay in all aspects, but after two or three days, he was denied by the girl, the reason was that he didn't feel it, because the other party's height was shorter, and it didn't meet her preset of her life partner. Introduce her to another one with good external conditions, and after a week, she denied it on the grounds that the two of them couldn't get along, because there was no common language. So when you always go to someone with such standards, you must believe that in this world, no one can live up to all your presuppositions about him.

It seems that it is indeed the minimum and simplest standard, but in fact, it is the most demanding and complex requirement, because there are not so many suitable people. As He Jiong said: "If you suddenly meet a person who is perfectly compatible with you, and he is particularly accommodating and considerate of you, you must be careful, there is no such person in this world, don't believe in fairy tales so much!"

There is no perfect fit, and two people who are absolutely compatible can only accept each other with an inclusive heart. Ask yourself what you like and what you can accept, and then determine your own direction from it, and when choosing a partner, as long as that person has the advantages you need, and the disadvantages are also within your acceptable range. If you want to skip the run-in process directly, and you can't get out of the ideal world immersed in the ideal world, you can only pounce again and again, and keep going alone.

In addition, if someone says that he doesn't have any criteria for choosing a mate, then you must stay away from this person who rushes into the socks, because he doesn't even know what he likes and wants, and how do you meet his requirements, so no matter who he chooses, he will eventually feel that he is becoming more and more lonely, exploring in different lovers, but no relationship can develop for a long time. When it comes to finding an object, people can't directly skip their own needs, otherwise where will they have the ability to act and where can they be motivated? You have to figure out what you want first, and then determine what you want, and make sure that your will will never be influenced by others.

Why is it becoming more and more difficult for single men and women to find a partner now? Say an answer that I recently heard from Sanji: "Single men and women, the fundamental reason why they can't find a partner, their own conditions are not good, and then ask for a lot of them, in layman's terms, it is a high eye, a mountain looking at a mountain."

Yes.

This is a completely unknown and unavailable process. The difficulty is that true love is hard to find, and it is hard to find it. It is difficult to meet a person who loves each other in the vast sea of people, and people who love and appreciate each other are really hard to find.

The difficulty is in the long road, you don't know who the other half of your life is, can you find it in **? The difficulty is that everyone has a different personality, with a different outlook on life and values, sometimes when you meet a person, you have affection for her, she may not be interested in you. Sometimes someone loves you, cares about you, and longs to come into your world, entrust you with a lifetime and rely on each other for a lifetime, and you may not have a soft spot for her and are willing to spend it together.

The difficulty is that when they meet someone who likes each other, they may still face the test of recovering from mountains and rivers, and both parties must have enough ability to manage this relationship well before it can achieve positive results.

In today's society, there are more and more things to consider when choosing a partner and choosing a good partner, and there are many people who choose not to marry, which will also lead to difficulties in finding a partner. So I will analyze the following points, the first is the limited range of choices: in modern society, people's social circles are getting smaller and smaller, and most of the people in the social circle already have a fixed partner, resulting in a limited range of choices.

Asymmetry in the marriage market: In the marriage market, there is an asymmetry in the number and demand of men and women, some women may encounter the problem of "leftover women", while some men may face the problem of "leftover men".

Mismatch of values: When choosing a partner, there may be differences in the values, hobbies, life plans and other factors of the two parties, making it difficult to find the perfect partner.

Social pressures: In some cultures, older singles may face social pressures that can make them feel anxious and uneasy, which in turn can affect their mindset to find a partner.

Changes in communication styles: With the change of social interactions, traditional ways of understanding and interacting have become ineffective, and some people may not be accustomed to or will not use modern social tools, making it difficult to communicate and engage effectively with potential partners.

In conclusion, the reasons for the difficulty of finding a partner are complex, some factors can be mitigated by actively changing one's attitudes and behaviors, and some need to be addressed by changing the social and cultural environment. It is recommended that in the process of finding a partner, keep an open mind, adhere to your own principles and values, try different ways and occasions to improve your social skills and charm.