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Then communicate more with your parents. You have to say what you think about something, and you have to make a lot of sense about it. Even if your parents dig into the horns, you will analyze every word he says and find a point of refutation.
Then the parents can recognize their own problems, but they don't want to admit it, and you have to break the matter that he doesn't want to admit.
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Even if you have different ideas, you can't go toe-to-toe, after all, they are your parents, and they should learn to empathize and try to communicate and solve problems.
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If you have different opinions, keep your own opinions, don't argue with them, because fighting over and over will not lead to a result, you just follow a certain method, so that you can do your thing, and wait until there is a result, and then let them see it.
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Parents like to drill and have poor comprehension. It is directly related to the personality of the parents and the cultural level. This situation needs to be properly understood.
After all, it is the parents who raise themselves. So, be patient too. The relationship will be a little more harmonious.
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Sometimes I feel that my parents are probably not able to understand them, or their personality is like this, and they prefer to impose their ideas on others, at this time, calm down, don't quarrel with them, refer to their opinions, and at the same time be able to be assertive!
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Although the personality of your parents is like this, your parents' love for you is unchanged, and you must understand this, as long as you understand this, you may be able to communicate with them well.
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In other words, we must understand that our parents love us, regardless of their personality. We also have to understand them sometimes, communicate with them well, and they will be willing to change.
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You can put yourself in the shoes of a bystander, explain the pros and cons of the matter, and the possible consequences of being stubborn, and help them with your own actions.
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Since your parents like to drill the horns, it is useless for you to communicate with him, as long as you do it right, do it in your own way.
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Not aligning with your parents' values can lead to conflict and discomfort, but that doesn't mean you have to give up on your ideas and beliefs altogether. Here are some suggestions to help you deal with this situation:
1.Respect each other's values: Although you may disagree with your parents' values, you should respect their ideas and try to communicate with them so that they know what you think. This avoids conflict and unnecessary quarrels.
2.Look for common ground: Although you and your parents may have different values, you may also have some things in common. Try to find these common ground, so that you have more topics to talk about.
3.Try to communicate and compromise: Have a deep communication with your parents and tell them how you feel and think, but also try to understand their thoughts. In some cases, you may need to compromise, but also make sure your rights are respected.
4.Find supporters: If you have other people you trust, such as friends or relatives, ask them for support and advice. They may be able to give you some valuable advice and assistance.
5.Maintain yourself: Whether or not you align with your parents' values, you are still an individual. Don't give up your beliefs and values because of what others think, and maintain your ability to think and make decisions independently.
The most important thing is to remember that your life is your own, and you need to make decisions based on your values and goals. The disagreement between you and your parents doesn't mean you have to give up on yourself, on the contrary, it can be an opportunity to grow.
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When parents have different views from their own, you can try the following ways to deal with it:
1.Respect your parents' point of view: Respecting your parents' point of view is the first step in dealing with disagreements. Try to understand their ideas and positions, and don't refute or criticize them easily.
2.Express your thoughts: Expressing your thoughts is key to dealing with disagreements. Try to express your views in a calm manner and give your parents plenty of time and space to understand and accept their ideas.
3.Seeking compromise: Seeking compromise is an important way to deal with disagreements. Try to find a compromise that is acceptable to both parties to achieve an outcome acceptable to both parties.
4.Seek help from a third party: If you and your parents can't reach a consensus, consider seeking help from a third party, such as the advice and advice of a relative, friend, or professional.
5.Accept the decision of the parents: If you can't reach a consensus in the end, you can consider accepting the parents' decision. Although you may not be satisfied, respecting your parents' decisions is an important factor in maintaining family harmony.
In general, dealing with issues where parents and oneself have different perspectives requires a combination of factors such as respect, understanding, expression, compromise and acceptance. Through the above methods, differences can be better handled and family harmony can be maintained.
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Although I have always done things with the belief that my parents will not harm you, I must have my own ideas and ideas about everything, and I still have to make my own decisions in my life so that I will not regret it
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In daily life, there is occasionally a generation gap between the elders and the young.
When there are different opinions about clothing, fashion, etc., how should we deal with such a situation?
Express your opinions in a way that young people will accept.
Due to age differences and different concepts, it is very normal for elders to have different views on dress than young people. The social climate is now more open than in the past, and young people are advocating themselves and enjoying the freedom of dressing, and the elderly should try to slowly accept this change in attitude.
However, there are formal and solemn occasions where participants are still required to dress appropriately. "As an elder, you can be a little more tactful when expressing your opinions.
For example, you can point out 'The clothes you wore last time looked better.''or 'What kind of clothes do you look better in?''and try not to stress too much that 'the clothes are not good now.''。Convey your views in a way that is more acceptable to young people.
The two generations need to understand each other.
Each era will leave a unique imprint, the elders and the younger generations have different growth experiences, and there will naturally be differences in concepts, so young people should try to understand the ideas of their elders, and if they are attending formal gatherings, or in the presence of other relatives and elders, they should try to maintain a proper dress;
If it's a more intimate, casual gathering, it's okay to dress stylishly.
If an elder points out a dress problem in a formal setting, the young person can apologize to the elder and admit that he or she was negligent.
If it is a private and casual occasion, the young person can explain a little that he does not disrespect his elders, but that he treats them as close people, so he chooses clothes that he feels comfortable with.
The elders should learn to accept the new thinking of the young people, and the younger generations should also try to understand the ideas of the elders, and understand each other in order to maintain family harmony.
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If you find that your parents' concepts are very different before you are independent or growing up, the best thing is to be able to communicate calmly, but the probability of this situation is too small, and the ideological level and communication skills of children and parents are relatively high, and most of the time the two parties can not understand each other. In this case, from the perspective of energy consumption and solution effect, I think children should choose to avoid confrontation with their parents.
Before going to college, few parents really think about their children's concepts, because subconsciously, children do not have an independent personality and are not qualified to talk to them. We just need to be a well-read child in front of our parents, and there will not be much contradiction. Keep a journal of what you think in your heart, or communicate with friends.
In fact, reading books is a good way to refine the mind, and many things can be seen thoroughly, so you will not be so impetuous.
When we go to college, we can join the conversation with our parents, tell our parents what we think in an equal and respectful manner, from small things to big things, the process should not be too fast, and we should give parents enough time to buffer.
Later, we may have worked and had our own financial foundation, and our parents are getting older, at this time we can easily become the dominant party in the dialogue with our parents, and even due to the pressure of middle age, we will disdain to communicate with our parents.
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Communicate well with your parents, sometimes disagreements are inevitable, it's just a moment of incomprehension, as long as the way of communication is right, there is no problem that can stump you.
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I am an adult in my thirties with my own independent mind, but I live with my parents. When I was a child, I didn't know about some things, and I was willing to listen to whatever my parents told me. But now that I'm an adult and have some social experiences, my parents and I have different views on some things.
Many times, when something happens, or even when we are all speaking out about some situations from the perspective of outsiders, my parents and I will have different opinions, and those things will not even involve our own vital interests. They state their reasons, and I say that I have different opinions, and everyone has their own opinions. They actually wanted me to say right away that I was wrong, and that he was right.
But it's normal for different people to have different opinions about the same thing. Every time I calmly talk about the back, they think I'm ignoring it, and then they get angry. In fact, I think that many things are the reason of A and B, and it is not necessarily whether one side is definitely right or definitely wrong.
For example, walking, the road is spacious, but the car is easy to get stuck in traffic, and the small road is narrow, and the reason is bumpy, but it will never be stuck in traffic. Do you think it's better to have a big road or a small road? I would like to ask my adult friends, what do you do when you and your parents have different views and cannot accept each other's views?
It is against his will to say, "I was wrong, you are right?" "Or just keep silent?
Or can you give me a suggestion on what I should do?
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I think if you can move out and live alone, it's better to move out, and if you can't move out, then try to communicate with them and try to make them understand your ideas and respect your ideas.
I just moved out and lived alone very early because I had some disagreements with my parents, because I found that the probability of effective communication with my parents was very low, most of them were you who said a lot of your heartfelt words, they couldn't listen to a word, and still insisted on their own views and you, if they really want to understand us, then there will not be a lot of contradictions.
The reason why I chose to live alone is to reduce conflicts with them, and on the other hand, I can do my own things and live according to my liking.
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