After a divorce, how many people feel that their current position is inferior to their ex?

I won't talk about divorce first, let's talk about the situation after the breakup, after all, I am still young and have not been involved in marriage. I know a friend who is not very reliable, he went to school in a different place, and he thought that he would quickly break up his previous girlfriend, and then go to college to find a better girlfriend than her, he did this, and after arriving at college, he began to look for it, and found that there was no one he liked, and there was no one who liked him, he regretted it every day, and began to complain every day that it was good not to break up at the beginning, and there was no one better than her at this end, and then he inked with his roommate about him and his object. He went back to his girlfriend and, unexpectedly, was together again.

But if his girlfriend had known the reason, it might not have turned out to be like this.

I think a sentence is very right, what you can't get is always the best, how many people don't know how to cherish after being together, and how good they find out after breaking up are ex. Then everyone you meet after that compares to your ex.

But to be honest, after the divorce. It's irresponsible to have this kind of thought, since you're already sorry for your ex-wife, and you've made your own choice, don't be sorry for this wife anymore, otherwise when you lose it, you still regret it, so why bother, you regret it all your life, and you have brought harm to others again and again. Marriage is not a family, you don't want to play a game, you have to take on the responsibility of a family, if you have children, you also have to bear the responsibility of a parent.

In fact, it's not that your current position is not good enough, but that you don't accept her kindness to you, and you won't find out that you're blinded by your own careful thinking. If you really love her, you won't feel this way, don't wait until you lose it to know how to keep it, the road is your own way, what you need in marriage is sincerity, don't use scum to run through it.

I think people who think like this are not good at discovering the good in others, no matter who they are with, they will think about the good of others, because when they face their current situation, they will always be angry and disgusted, so they will think like this.

No, that relationship fails, and if you reconcile, you'll have a scar.

Since it's separated, forget about him Don't make comparisons People have strengths and weaknesses.

No one is perfect, no matter who you are with, treat others well, otherwise it will be unfair to others.

In the end, nothing was gained.

There are several reasons for this:

One, what you get always feels worse than what you don't get. It's the same with people. The current one is temporarily owned, and the ex, whether he has been married or not, in short, he does not own it now, and has lost it.

Something that has been lost, always feels precious.

Second, with the growth of age and experience, the thickness of feelings is gradually retreating. The current is not as good as the ex, and the ex is not as good as the first love.

That's when you always compare your current with your ex, you haven't completely forgotten about your ex, and you will see the shadow of your ex in some things more or less.

This is human nature, people are unnatural to compare through the district, often take the current shortcomings to compare the previous advantages, this is also the weakness of human nature!

Dizzy, brother, the eyes can't stand it, so let's do it, how to choose is actually up to you, it's better to ask people than to ask your own heart, the temperament and character of the two people, advantages, disadvantages, write it down for comparison, if the person with more advantages is definitely suitable for you, as for the appearance, I don't think there will be some pursuit if I am not young, as for getting married and living almost on the line, there is no mountain luck branch to be too serious, if it is to tease me to choose, I would rather choose the current than the predecessor, how long have you been getting along, troubled, separated, Who knows what happened before turning back, these have to be understood, why did they separate at the beginning of the quiet file these are the problems, so I don't want to repeat it, I chose the current one because the current one is no less than the predecessor, and the new one is better than the old one

There is such a saying, once Wushan was not a cloud, the ex has become your habit, and the current has not completely entered your heart.

I think so too, because what you are doing now, you will always compare it with your ex, and it turns out that your ex is still good to you.

Generally, people who have an ex will compare the current with the ex, if this is the case, then you can tell him that you say that I don't have your money, but now it's only before the two of us are together, if you think I'm not good, I can change it, but you don't always compare me with your ex, because after all, the two of you will be separated because of contradictions, if the two of you are very good and suitable, you will not be separated, and there will be no rent, just talk about it.

Of course, he chose to let Pai Ku choose to cut off contact with his ex. Anyway, the ex is already in the past, and his regret is his business, what does it matter to the girl? In my opinion, since the girl has chosen to start a new relationship with someone else, then the most basic thing is that the girl is responsible for her current relationship and this relationship.

If she hasn't let go of her ex yet, then why should she start dating someone else? Anyway, I especially look down on girls who vacillate between their ex and their current one, after all, this is a very irresponsible manifestation of feelings. If you can't let go of the other party after the breakup, then go to save the other party, why trample on other people's feelings?

If you let go of the other party, everything about your ex has nothing to do with you. It's good to get together and disperse after breaking up, and we shouldn't have any entanglements with our exes. So I don't think there's a choice at all, since I've started my life again, then don't be nostalgic for the past.

Hello, dear, it may be because you can't let go of your ex or you don't have the same deep relationship with the current as your predecessor, don't just remember the past, but grasp the present.

She compares the benefits of her predecessor to the disadvantages of her current one. So not content.

One day husband and wife hundred days. For many divorced couples, the meaning of this sentence can be best understood. However, after some couples divorce, they will treat each other as "enemies" and will not interact with each other again.

In fact, I think that no matter what, after all, I have loved and had good happiness. Even if you are divorced, you shouldn't have come to this point. There is no need to go this far.

Of course, after the divorce, we all need to go about our lives. And most people prefer "each is well".

It is true that if there is no need for each other to continue to intersect in the future, then it is also a good choice for each other to be well. But most couples, can't do that. After many couples divorce, it is impossible not to connect because of the bond of children.

It can be seen that how to get along with your ex after divorce is also a problem that needs to be solved.

How will you live after the divorce? To some extent, it has a lot to do with your choices and efforts.

In this process, many divorced couples may encounter such a problem. That is, what should you do when the other person is having a bad time?

Before discussing this issue, let me share with you a reader's story.

A friend shared with me the story of how he helped his ex-wife, Nakamae Cong.

After he divorced his ex-wife, his son followed his ex-wife. He regretted the divorce for half a year, so he chose to remarry and sell Sakura. I'm having a good time.

But his ex-wife, alone with a child, is indeed a little tight this day. Although at the time of the divorce, he divided most of his property among his ex-wife. But after all, they are just an ordinary family and do not have much property.

And it is also their own fault that they have come to the step of divorce. He has made a little success in his career, and as a result, he is a little arrogant. At this time, betrayed the family.

Although in the end he did not remarry that woman, but chose another woman to remarry. But he has a lot of responsibility for getting to this point in his marriage.

Maybe it's also out of guilt. After the divorce, he has actually been taking care of his ex-wife. His ex-wife doesn't have much power. I have a job to support myself and my children. But as the overhead increases, it's a bit overwhelming.

Compared with his ex-wife's, his own life is better off.

In this case, he chose to help his ex-wife. Actually, it's not helpful. In addition to thinking about his own son, he may also have a bit of a charm that wants to make up for it.

But for whatever purpose, he chose to help.

I think there will be contacts, because we have a common child, although we divorced him, but the child is still a common child, and the child cannot be allowed to lose his mother's love or father's love because of the divorce, which is unfair to the child and is not conducive to his growth, I feel that I will ask for custody of the child after the divorce, so that the child can live with me, but it will also let the ex visit the child on time, and the child will get along with him.

Divorce is a matter of two people, I think after the divorce, there should be contacts between me and my ex, but the contacts are mostly related to the children, because the healthy growth of the child is inseparable from the care of the parents, after the divorce, the child can not let the child cut off contact with the ex, so that the child will have a lack of father's love, which is not conducive to his healthy growth, although he pays child support on time, but the spiritual support is also extremely important, so I will contact the ex to let him get along with the child, so that the child gets the care he deserves.

I think there will be contacts between the divorce and the ex, artificial divorce is two people who are not in harmony or have incompatible personalities, there is no deep hatred, even if they can't be husband and wife, they will not become enemies, although divorced, they can get along as ordinary friends, because after all, they have lived together for so many years, have a common circle of friends, and have common children, if they do not interact at all, it is unrealistic. Besides, there are not many unsightly things about divorce now, it is a matter between two people, you can get along generously, and there is no need to worry too much.

I think that after the divorce, although there is a certain amount of contact with the ex, there will be too many contacts, limited to necessary friend gatherings or things related to the children, and will not contact him too often, especially after I re-establish a family with my ex, I will reduce the contact with my ex, which is conducive to the stability and unity of the two reorganized families, and will not cause unnecessary misunderstandings In addition, when I need to contact my ex, I will inform my husband in advance and obtain his consent. I may also ask my husband to accompany me to contact my ex so that he can feel my trust in him, which is fairer to my current husband and will not cause family conflicts because of contact with my ex.

If we have children between the two of us, I will have some contact; Otherwise, I will disconnect completely and everyone will be fine after the divorce.

Actually, I don't have a relationship because I want to start a new life.

No, since two people have been separated, there is no need to interact with each other, unless two people have children in common, which is unavoidable.

Every time people start a relationship, they will hope that he is the right person, but sometimes the relationship is not so smooth sailing, two people may encounter a lot of problems with the model, and the relationship between two people may even be exhausted by life, and finally the two people will naturally break up, but those traces of two people together prove that the two people have been together.

I still have an old wallet and a sticker from a photo I took with my ex when I was in love in college, and I'm going to buy a box to lock it up and put it in a dusty corner somewhere, and I won't open it, and I don't want my current one to see it. If I swap roles with the current Hidden Locust, I won't feel comfortable watching it.

But a fire burns all the memories, to be honest, I'm really reluctant, because after the divorce, there are not many ** and memories of the divorce. I remember that when we divorced, the child was three years old, and we only took a family photo once, and it was the only one. **There are us, there are children, and there are both parents.

The adults inside were laughing, except for the children who were crying.

The phone has been changed several times, ** less and less, and the photo with the ex is long gone. Sometimes I want to leave these family photos, as well as the previous **, to the child, keep them, and let him see them when he grows up, his parents also loved each other before, not now, but there were problems with getting along later, so they had to separate.

And I have been single for 6 years, and if I meet the right person, I may also enter the next relationship.

It's impossible to worry about the divorce in a short period of time, and whether you will regret it in the future is a let's talk about it.