How are you doing now?

I am not a post-80s, but there are many post-80s around me, some of them are doing well, some are average, and the one closest to me is now a mother of two children, a boy and a girl, just making up a "good" word, but, in fact, her life is a bit bad in my opinion.

She is a person with only a secondary school degree, and after graduation, she has never done a serious job related to her major, she is only a clerk or something, in the countryside, as soon as she doesn't study, she starts to worry about marriage.

She has met many protégés, and once, she was almost engaged, and the man liked her very much, but she was a face control, and she always felt that the man was not good enough for the object of her mind, and then refused.

Later, she went on a blind date, met her current husband, about one meter eight, looks good, opened a computer store, the income is average, and soon got married, at first life was quite good, but not long after marriage, the two began to quarrel, because she is a very beautiful and very beautiful person, spends a lot of money, often goes shopping with her sisters to buy clothes, but her husband's income is not high, there is no way for her to squander like this, she compares the rich sisters who marry well, was unhappy that her husband couldn't buy her a lot of beautiful clothes to eat, drink and have fun, so the two often quarreled.

But because I have a child, so, until now, the two of them are not salty and indifferent, in my opinion, such a life, in fact, is not interesting, but not the parties, who knows.

I, a post-80s generation, am 36 years old this year. The child is 3 years old, my wife works in a public institution, and we usually have parents to help take care of our children, and we live very happily.

However, compared with first-tier cities such as Beijing, Shanghai, Guangzhou and Shenzhen, my life is simply out of an extreme badness.

First of all, our salary is very low, and there is enough money to cover the expenses of our children for a month. Sometimes, for the sake of a child, we have to use our credit cards to keep swiping money, which is sad.

People are the same, and when they come to this world, the post-80s generation is a relatively special group. Once known as the Beat Generation! When the post-80s generation went to school, the state canceled almost all the preferential policies for going to college.

It turns out that when you enter the university, you are a member of the state, and the state allocates jobs, allocates housing and other welfare policies. From us is so close, close things are still happening around.

However, when we go to college, it all becomes self-funded, we are not people from the country, we are people from our parents who have worked hard all our lives! It still costs mom and dad's money! After graduating from university, the kind of job assignment is still so close, and the nearest level is still assigned work and housing.

When it comes to us, we are unemployed after graduating from college. The state does not assign jobs, you can write a letter of recommendation and look for a job yourself. The post-80s generation suddenly became an abandoned baby of the country and society!

However, as the labor pains ended, each of us found a job of our own and began a difficult life journey.

At the moment, I think my job is very good, but the salary is ridiculously low!

People are poor and short-minded, and horses are thin and long-haired! However, the phenomenon of being poor and thinking about change, and change is accessible, also abounds!

It's better to be a little confused, and a little more tired. I remember when I first graduated, I guess I was in a state of being in a state of obscurity all day long. The most frequent word in the diary is the word confusion in capital letters.

I don't know where my feelings are, I don't know where my employment is going, my life seems to have just begun, everything is full of unknowns, and I don't know where I'm going.

Now following the post-80s army into the age of thirty. I have a husband, I have children, and my job is stable. The goal of the car house ticket is also very clear.

The confusion is gone. It is estimated that he is busy like a "mourning" word summarized by Mimon. Every day, the walking dead sell themselves to work for units and families.

Every day, it's like a dog chasing a rabbit, slipping away fast! Slip and slip, and have to carry a lot of things, being slipped like a donkey, blindfolded, and grinding. The post-80s generation is now the main force of the old and the young.

The same is true in the workplace, the salary is not necessarily much higher than that of newcomers, and who makes you know more about the workload, and naturally has to live more.

Time flies, and it has long passed little by little without us noticing. I wanted to grab it, but in the end, I found that the palm of my hand was just empty.

The passage of time has left marks on our faces, and we are no longer young. In a flash, it will be old.

The earliest batch of post-80s generations have seen the door of the 40-year-old, although they are reluctant to approach, but they can only take steps forward step by step.

There is a song "Bensi's 80s" that sings: "Someone called you uncle, people in their thirties, friends of the post-80s, are you okay?" ”

This is also what I want to ask, are you really okay after 80? Do you feel too tired to work day in and day out? Do you feel that family life is too boring? Are you still nostalgic for the past and can't see the future?

You born in the 80s have carried too much, but you have put down too little. So I want to go to the post-80s generation: let go of the past in order to set sail again.

Whether you still don't want to admit it, you should know that you are no longer young, you are no longer a youthful boy and girl, so don't hold on to the past anymore. Let the past be a memory.

The feelings of the green years are pure and beautiful. There is no pressure and no responsibility, if you like it, you will be together, and if you don't love, you will be separated. Everything seems so open-minded and disdainful.

But after the 80s, the years are no more, and your pressure and responsibilities tell you that you don't have to be together if you like it, and you don't have to be separated if you don't love. Although everything is more orderly than ever, it makes you feel less joyful in life.

In fact, it is because you carry too many things on your shoulders, and those things that should be picked up and put down, precisely because you can't let go, have become a burden and shackles on your way forward.

In fact, many things are not beyond our control, wouldn't it be better to accept everything calmly? Let go of what should be put down, and forget what should be forgotten. If you have too much in your heart, you will get tired.

Bensi's post-80s, give yourself a vacation, let go of all unhappiness, let your heart return to zero, and your future voyage will be smoother and smoother.

Those things in your heart will become a stumbling block for you to move forward, you can't afford it, but you want to bear it, slowing down your pace and dragging down your body.

After the 80s, you are no longer an energetic you. Just like the battery of a mobile phone, some people feel insecure when they see less than 50% and want to fully charge. Mobile phones can do this, why don't you want to charge yourself?

The post-80s generation of Bensi, although life is not easy and there is a lot of pressure, they must also learn to give themselves holidays and let themselves easily get on the road again.

The load of people is limited, and when you can no longer bear it, you might as well let go of some and let yourself set sail again, and the road ahead will be broader.

Forty years old is not a watershed in life, it is just a node in life, telling you that this is a new stage, a new beginning.

The post-80s generation of Bensi can let go of the past and set sail again. Let go of the past, and hope lies ahead.

When we were in elementary school, we didn't need money to go to college;When we were going to college, we didn't need money to go to elementary school. When we are not yet able to work, the work is assigned;When we can work, it's hard to find a job.

The post-80s generation is mainly the generation after family planning, who spent a good period of time in their childhood, and their education is higher than that of the previous generation. But the relatively low employment rate and housing prices are the main difficulties faced by this group, as well as the competition with the "post-70s" for girlfriends. They who have just joined the workforce have also become involuntary "moonshiners" due to low income and prices.

This group is also facing the pressure of being about to shoulder the burden of the family, so all kinds of pressures have made the post-80s group gradually mature.

Future developments. The post-80s generation is the driving force of modern society. The post-80s generation has a personality that the previous generation did not have, they are overconfident in the workplace, too strong in goal and achievement orientation, and frequently change jobs;He has a strong sense of equality, is not afraid of leadership authority, and speaks "neither big nor small".

The post-80s generation believes that they have the ability to solve the world's problems. At the same time, some post-80s generations will put their personal goals ahead of the company's goals, and they want the work environment to be challenging, creative, entertaining, and cash-rewarding.

In addition, they are taught from an early age not to be left behind, to pursue freedom and equality, and to be treated fairly with a distance between work and life. If they feel that they have been treated unfairly, they will not hide themselves or even make the decision to change jobs.

They are all post-80s, and they will feel powerless.

I remember hearing a quote that made a lot of sense about how people mature three times, the first time when they feel they can do anythingThe second time is when I feel that I am not able to do it, and the third time is when I feel that I am not strong but I will still try my best. I think it's quite right, in fact, now we have felt that some people have decided not to accept us for some things, and gradually understand that everything has its own natural development law, as if there is a fixed number in the dark.

You feel old, which just means that you have matured and transformed again. You know that the 30-year-old on the football field is a veteran, so our body and our mentality should also change and continue to grow, which is called keeping pace with the times.

Standing at thirty, when it comes to the age of establishment, you have to start a family and a career, and you have to bear a lot of responsibilities and pressures independently, but in fact, we have not completely come out of the state of children, so you will naturally feel tired. Especially in China, our parents give us a lot of support and help, especially psychologically, so all this is normal.

What we can do is to adjust our mentality, keep pace with the times, properly empty ourselves, conform to the destiny of heaven, and move forward with hard work and pride.

A few years ago, I felt old, and now I feel more and more like this, although I often feel that there is still that hard work, but sometimes it is really more than enough and not enough, on the Internet and the 80s buddies are called each other by old bones, it seems that I am not the only one who thinks so. Now when I enter a subway station and a business building, most of them are post-90s, and I feel that I am about to become an antique, and I am helpless.

The post-80s generation is said to be old, so what to do with the post-70s and post-60s, maybe you have experienced something, so the mentality is a little pessimistic and depressed, you can only see the rainbow after the wind and rain, there is no hurdle that cannot be passed, just think like this.

No matter what age you are, as long as you have a good attitude, your heart will not grow old with age, on the contrary, if you have a bad mentality, the 90s will look old.

Not old, as long as the mentality is not old, even if it is a post-6o generation, it is not old.

I am also a post-80s generation, and I deeply feel that I am old! Hey, for the sake of the same post-80s, give it one.

A matter of your own mentality.

The post-70s generation hasn't spoken yet, what is old.

The mentality is not old, and the post-60s generation is not old.

It's all the post-00s era now.

Well, I think the post-90s generation is getting old.

If you don't have money, you're old, but if you have money, you're young.

Not old, but 90,00 sunshine example!

Even junior high school was occupied by the post-00s, do you say you're old?

This is determined by the mentality, and the post-00s are also very old if the mentality is not good.

Aging of living organisms is unavoidable. After 80, it should be in the prime of life according to time. The son said, thirty and standing. It's time to show yourself.

The post-80s generation is still young, how can they be old.

Post-80s, what kind of word is it?

For the post-80s, at this age, we are not afraid of falling, we are not afraid of making mistakes, and the most afraid thing is that we are already old without doing anything.

Our generation has witnessed China's reform and opening up, the process of reform and opening up, and the take-off of China's economy.

But it seems that in the past few years, we can't wait to say that we are running four, running four, we have walked through this society horizontally, vertically, lying on our stomachs, lying down, in various difficult postures, and the arrogance and pride disguised in our blood after the 80s, including what can be changed and what cannot be changed, have been deeply buried in the bottom of our hearts.

Once full of love to pursue their dreams and ideals, have disappeared, and now, facing the reality of their own never thought of before, raising children and supporting the elderly, car loans, mortgages, credit cards, sad sadness, life is really sad, happy or painful, only time is changing, people are changing, the world is also changing, the same kind of aging, you are also born in the 80s, what do you feel now?