The troubles of the general undergraduates, ask for help

Are you sure you're going to be a scholar or a scientist in the future?

If you don't have that ideal, you have to choose to go to graduate school, it seems that there are the following reasons: one is to find an excuse to avoid entering society, needless to say, personal ability is lacking, and you don't even have the courage to face society, what else to say?

The second is to obtain a higher degree of education, but in the actual work, work experience and personal ability seem to be more important than learning, with the qualification of an undergraduate student plus social training, to become a useful talent, enough, if you want to further your studies, in your own field of work targeted charging, far more practical.

Brothers. After a person steps into society.

He won't "do" as he thought he would

At the same time, it will not be "no" as he originally thought

Let go of the baggage. Fill your body with confidence.

Prepare for the worst.

Go to the city you want to go to.

Society doesn't just look at academic qualifications.

I believe that soon you will have your own world.

Until then. Let's go back to your question today.

It's just going to feel like you've really grown up.

In fact. The difficulties are really temporary.

Just stick to it. Just work hard.

We will succeed.

Trust me. I'm an example of that.

Don't be too high-minded, it's hard to find a good job, but you can definitely find a general job, and then grow up slowly in a social university.

Indeed, agree with pythonharbin

The things you need to use at work are very comprehensive, and they are different from the things you need at school.

Academic qualifications are not very important.

Relationships, personal effort, opportunity or luck are all more important than academic qualifications.

If you study well, you will be admitted to graduate school, and if you study, you will generally find a job.

Exam for the civil service. Officials don't need any professional knowledge.

Instead of asking here, you should do it, and the road is your own way, not someone else pointed it out to you.

In today's society, the only way out is to take the graduate school examination.

Go with the flow, everybody.

Definitely one thing, trust me :

Be bold!

It is recommended that you go to your girlfriend's house to do civil engineering for the following reasons:

1. Now China is a society that depends entirely on who has money and connections, and everything else has to come second, isn't it?

2. How is your relationship with your girlfriend!? Is it serious, has a solid love, and is it considered as a marriage partner!? If so, one of you will eventually give up one side of life, and the conditions of her family are relatively superior, and you can save many years of struggle. Why not!?

3. On the other hand, if she is with you in Kunming, will she be able to find a suitable job? Are you getting married and buying a house? Does your job position have a lot of room for appreciation in salary?

And will your economy be able to meet your needs in the next 5 years!? Being able to pay off the mortgage, car loan, wedding, etc...

4. The advantages of your girlfriend's family are obvious to you, a family-style civil engineering business, and a civil servant. What does this mean?

The above is a personal opinion, which only represents the personal wisdom of a person who has regretted it for many years and firmly believes that he can do anything! In fact, it is "there are people outside of man, and there is heaven outside of heaven." The variables are so big, and China's relationship network is so complex", I really couldn't have foreseen it back then!

Hello friend, I think you may have some anxiety and fear, I personally suggest that you better go to a professional for consultation, or find a professional psychology book on Dangdang or Tmall to see if it is helpful for you.

The most fundamental reason is that we know too little about this "heart".

In my opinion, people were originally born on this earth with a pure and divine energy, but in the course of their lives, they were gradually polluted by the education of various fears, gradually forgetting the source of their own life energy, forgetting their inner voice, and becoming farther and farther away from the "true self". The energy of pure joy has been turned into negative energy such as "fear, compulsion, anxiety, depression" and so on under the long-term suppression of education, which slowly accumulate in our body and in our unconscious mind.

Deep down in the hearts of most of us, due to the irrational "fear" education and uneasy upbringing from childhood to adulthood, there is a mechanism buried deep in the heart, which only accepts the experiences (feelings) that the heart thinks are good and comfortable, and rejects the experiences that are considered ugly and painful by the perceptual process. Extreme states of mind caused by this mechanism, such as catastrophic thinking, obsessive-compulsive opposing ideas, fearful conditioning, suffering from gains and losses, rejection of suffering, etc. And in systematic spiritual healing, we have to prevent them from rising.

This is done not because they are bad, but because they are compulsory, because they take over our minds in their entirety, completely seize the attention of individual consciousness, they make individual thoughts spin in small circles, and let us wrap ourselves layer by layer, and the original "free heart" seems to be hypnotized by them, as if it is mischievous, so that we are forcibly separated from the vivid and lively present... Therefore, it is time for us to face them bravely, and it is time for our hearts to find backThe way to "home", and it is best to find it close to home. The heart is the main cause and forerunner of action; Act with a suppressed mind, and pain will follow, like a chariot following a horse; When the phase is guided by a focused mind, happiness will follow, like a shadow. Excerpt from "Out of the Storm of Anxiety".

The book also shares 15 ways to balance various emotions, you can practice it yourself, good luck

What's wrong now, 211 is still hard to find, what major?