What are the customs of choosing a wedding day for a rural girl when she gets married?

People often say that there are different winds for a hundred miles, and different customs for thousands of miles, so the customs and habits of each region are different, and the customs about weddings are also diverse, but no matter how they change, how to say it. All the ceremonies are meant to express the joy and happiness of the newlyweds.

1. Blind date. <>

This is the beginning of marriage between a man and a woman. In the past, under the feudal etiquette of "men and women are not kissed", young men and women could not interact freely when they were unmarried. And now through the introduction of the matchmaker (in ancient times, now called "introducer"), the woman goes to the man's house to have a look, (there are also men who go to the woman's house, but Xiaojian) can basically be settled (to put it bluntly, it is two people to meet, how the two feel, and it is settled).

The introducer not only plays the role of "threading the needle", but also has the function of a marriage witness, which is completely necessary not only in the past but also today.

2. Engagement. <>

The key etiquette in the wedding is also an effective measure taken by both men and women for fear of the other party's abortion of the marriage, and its function is equivalent to the current "marriage certificate". In the past, when I got engaged, I said that the success of the marriage in my life was only 90%, and now the etiquette of engagement is that the man determines a good day (of course, you have to ask the person who will see the day to take a look) to inform the introducer and the woman's family to say, in addition, the man's family began to prepare to set the money and "Bao Gong" (now it is a pound of sugar and red dates) and human meat (how small the human meat and "Bao Gong" are to introduce people to ask the woman's parents), and the man's family should invite the man's relatives and village leaders, and the man's family will set up a banquet on the day of the engagement.

3. Prepare for marriage. <>

The man builds a new house and decorates the interior, and the woman buys a dowry. The dowry is divided into full marriage and half marriage. The whole marryer has four sets of boxes and clothes, which means prosperity in the four seasons; Half-married is divided into two sets, symbolizing pairs.

Most of the middle-sized families are fully married, and the majority of the rural households are half-married. The rich have a super dowry, and they are extremely luxurious. One or two days before the auspicious day, the man prepares a big gift and sends it to the woman's home, which contains large meat, chickens, geese, clothes, etc.

4. Marry. <>

The time of greeting is in the early morning or early morning, and when greeting the marry, the man prepares a sedan chair to the woman's house to pick up the kiss.

5. Marriage. <>

The bridegroom and bride worship heaven and earth first, then their ancestors, then their parents, and then they worship each other. At the end of the prayer, the bridegroom takes off the bridal cloth. Then set up the table and feast the guests. At the banquet, the bride and groom should toast each guest one by one in a certain order such as closeness and seniority.

6. Noisy room. <>

It usually takes place on the night of the wedding, and some last for several days. When the room is noisy, "there is no old and young for three days", and the elders, peers, junior relatives and friends and guests are allowed to play, and there are no taboos. Young people are the most active in making trouble, and there are more bizarre puzzles and games for newcomers to complete and make people laugh, so as to play tricks on newcomers, and newcomers are not allowed to refuse without special reasons.

It is necessary to calculate in advance, and to choose some better days, to choose some more representative days, to choose more in line with the eight characters of the birthday, but also to choose auspicious days of the zodiac.

To choose an auspicious day for marriage, the main thing is to choose the woman, mainly when choosing the girl's birthday, and then go to choose the date. Avoid some special death days, and avoid unlucky days. To select a leap year, a leap month, a leap day.

It is better for newlyweds to choose Runnian Runyue, and Chinese attach more importance to the selection of auspicious days for marriage, and they also pay great attention to the saying of "Runyue" and "Runnian". Choose an auspicious day for marriage, preferably in a year with a run-moon, because there are good signs.

Although the format and process of weddings are now gradually westernized, that is, the man wears a suit and a bow tie, and the woman wears a white gauze skirt and holds a gift flower, and finally the two take the oath to kiss and exchange rings in the presence of the priest.

However, there are still some traditional marriage customs and etiquette in today's Chinese land, and today, the author will talk to you about the traditional marriage customs reported by ethnic minorities.

Marriage, because of the different cultural customs in each place, there will naturally be regional differences in marriage customs, so the marriage customs in the countryside are compared with the city, and some interesting rural marriage customs are worth seeing.

1. Eat happy noodles.

After the groom arrives at the bride's house, the bride's parents will sit with the groom for a while, and then the bride's sister and sister-in-law will appear on the stage, and begin to answer the red envelope and agree on the price of the noodles, which is generally negotiated in advance. When the wedding noodles begin, the groom should eat them quickly, and the bride's family will quickly grab them. The implication is to win the rich, so the two parties will try their best to grab the happy face.

Under normal circumstances, the groom can only eat one bite, and the noodles are robbed.

2. Door opening fee.

After eating the noodles, the groom came to the bride's door, and the bride did not open the door, so he had to take a red envelope to open the door. Of course, these red envelopes are all requested by the bride's family.

3. Door lock fee.

When the groom enters the house, the bride's parents have already locked the door, and if they want to marry the bride back, they have to pay the door lock fee, not give red envelopes, and do not open the door. Some smart grooms will arrange for someone to hold the door in advance and not let it be locked.

Fourth, three cannons.

When the groom has almost taken out the red envelope, the bride should get on the sedan chair, but the groom must put enough three cannons, and the firecrackers are longer than the other, so that the bride can get on the sedan chair.

Fifth, there is no turning back.

When you come back, you can't take the road you used to marry, which means that the husband and wife don't go back.

Sixth, grab the red quilt after the hole room.

On the night of the cave room, the bride and groom will rush to grab the only red quilt, and whoever grabs it means that the family will have the final say.

Actually, I don't know much about the concept of marriage, but since one of my classmates got married, I have understood a little bit. Actually, I'm still in school, and everyone is already covering their limbs and getting married. In recent days, looking at some strange customs in the countryside on Weibo because of marriage, the newlyweds are a little unhappy, not only that, but there are also some unsmiling **, which is circulating everywhere, what pot bottom is black and the bride has a ...... faceSo let's talk about the customs of our hometown!

My hometown is in a rural area in Shanxi Province, we must choose the day together before we get married, this day is also particular, generally called half immortal, anyway, it is a person who knows how to tell the hexagram to choose, and finally the parents of both sides set an auspicious day of the zodiac, because the people there are more people believe in these, after all, the countryside is more particular, and these are left by the predecessors, everyone has passed on for many years. After talking about choosing a date, let's talk about pre-wedding preparations. The marriage on our side is set up by the man's family, and the woman also sets up the banquet.

After lunch, the newlyweds will send relatives and friends, and finally when all the things are packed up, the newlyweds can play in the cave room in the evening.

This hasn't been played yet, the next day called back to the door, and then the woman's side has to set up a banquet, the same process as the man, the following will not be narrated, the most important thing is that the bride and groom should rush home before the sun sets. After all, it's a marriage

Go daughter, spill out the water, you have to go back to your own house. Anyway, I just think that the countryside has to pay a lot of attention to it.

Marriage customs in rural China vary slightly depending on region and ethnicity, but typically include the following:

Proposal: The man or his relatives go to the woman's home to propose marriage, expressing their intention to marry the woman. The woman's family usually arranges tea and asks the man to kowtow to the woman's parents to show their sincerity.

Engagement: The man gives the bride price and dowry to the woman's family and signs a marriage contract. The bride price includes items such as silver, silk, and ornaments, while the bride price includes foods such as pigs, chickens, and fish.

Wedding: On the wedding day, the man brings his parents and relatives and friends to the woman's home to pick up the bride, and a series of wedding ceremonies are carried out during the process of picking up the bride.

Wedding: The wedding will be held at the man's home or the home of both parents, including passing through the door, serving tea, handing over a glass of wine, visiting the church, etc. At the wedding, the couple wears a traditional wedding dress and gown and accepts blessings and gifts from the guests.

Toast: The couple and both parents should toast the guests to express their gratitude and blessings.

Post-marriage gifts: After marriage, the man's family will give gifts to the woman's family to express gratitude and respect.

These are some of the common rural marriage customs, but the details and rituals may vary slightly depending on the region and ethnicity.

My hometown is a rural village full of rustic atmosphere, and the marriage customs here are very interesting and impressive.

Here are a few of the marriage customs I've introduced::

1.The "hole room" before the wedding

In my hometown, the pre-wedding "cave room" is a very interesting custom, which is usually done in the bride's house, where the groom and his best man need to enter the bride's bedroom in various interesting ways, such as climbing the window, climbing over the wall, etc. Once in the bedroom, the groomsmen will hide the bride and let the groom look for her. During this process, the groomsmen will constantly create all kinds of jokes and pranks to make the groom feel embarrassed and funny.

Finally, after the groom finds the bride, they will go out together and start the formal wedding ceremony just early.

2.Wedding car procession.

In my hometown, the wedding car procession at the time of marriage is also a very interesting custom.

The bride and groom will sit in a luxurious wedding car, while the other vehicles will follow. These vehicles are usually very beautifully decorated, such as with streamers, garlands, balloons, and so on. During the driving of the convoy, the people on the bus will constantly set off fireworks and firecrackers, creating a very lively atmosphere.

Sometimes, the motorcade will stop and let the bride and groom get off the bus and dance with passers-by, which is very funny.

3."Grab red envelopes" at weddings

In my hometown, "grabbing red envelopes" when getting married is also a very interesting custom.

At the wedding, the bride and groom will put some red envelopes on the table, and the guests of the wedding banquet can go and grab these red envelopes. In this process, everyone will scramble to grab the red envelope, and sometimes there will be some funny scenes. Finally, those who grab the red envelopes will get some small gifts, such as candy, small toys, and so on.

4."Drinking a glass of wine" at the wedding

In my hometown, it is also a very interesting custom to "drink a cup of wine and make a megabird" when getting married.

At weddings, the bride and groom each pick up a glass of wine, then exchange glasses and drink each other's wine. During this process, the bride and groom usually drink very happily, and the other guests will also drink, creating a very lively atmosphere.

Overall, the marriage customs in my hometown are very interesting and impressive.

Marriage in the North is like this! When the parents of both parties meet and confirm this family business, the man's parents should give the prospective daughter-in-law hardware (generally referred to jewelry) and 10,000 and 10,000 means one out of a hundred. Then I started to prepare the things needed for the wedding, but at this time, the bride price had to be prepared in advance and sent to the house, but on the day of the wedding, there was still a bride price, but it was just an empty box, so it only played a formality process.

On this day, the man's parents will prepare jujubes, peanuts, longan, and lotus seeds in the house, which means that you will have a precious child early. After the bride took her to the man's house, she began to bow down to her parents. After the worship, greet relatives and friends, and then pick up the bride to the woman's side, and then pick up the house at night, followed by the hole room, which is the adults will let their children play in the new house, one is to set off the atmosphere, and the other is to imply that the family will add Ding as soon as possible.

In our southern countryside, this is the most mainstream! At the beginning of the wedding day, that is, at 0:00, the man's family needs to light an oil lamp for life, and then the groom goes out to pick up the bride, and the lamp cannot be extinguished until this day has passed. Southerners pay attention to the hour, so at 12 o'clock, firecrackers are set off, brides are welcomed, banquets are held, and bride prices are given (at this time, there is a bride price with real objects).

At this time, the most senior elder in the man's family will sit in the middle of the hall, the groom and the bride's family will sit on the left and right, and the bride and groom will toast from top to bottom. Then there is the haunted house, which is basically the same as the northern custom.

Therefore, the marriage customs in the northern and southern rural areas have their own merits! But don't forget, you need family harmony after marriage!