The marriage rate of the first love is less than 1, why do the first love break up in the end?

First love is very beautiful in the minds of many people, because the sweetness of first love is very impressive. Many people's dream is to marry their first love and accompany them to old age. However, in fact, from a realistic point of view, there are very few people in this world who are married to their first love.

According to surveys, only about 1 percent of people will marry their first love. In the face of such data, many people are very curious, why is the marriage rate of first love so low? So the marriage rate about first love is less than 1%, why do first loves break up in the end?

Here's what I think:

First, the two people in their first love are immature.

In fact, many people's first love is probably in their teens, and when we are teenagers, we may still be in high school, and we may have just entered college. At that time, we were very vague about our feelings, and we were not very clear about our state in the relationship, and we were very vague when we were in love. Therefore, because the two are not so mature in their relationship, it is very likely that the two will break up.

Second, the time from first love to marriage is very long.

In fact, even according to the speed of getting married after graduating from college, if a person falls in love from high school or college, from first love to marriage, everyone will probably have to wait for a long time, and the probability of getting married after graduating from college is also extremely low. Therefore, if you want to marry your first love, you have to wait at least many years, and if it is long, the probability of marriage will be much lower.

3. I hope everyone can find their most suitable other half.

Many people don't like to be lonely, and everyone wants to find someone who can accompany them. I hope that each of us can find the right other half of ourselves, whether it is out, second love, third love, as long as it is suitable for yourself, it is the best.

This is because although first love is very beautiful, when we get along with the opposite sex, there will be a lot of wrong views, and it will also cause a lot of misunderstandings. They don't even pay attention to the other person's feelings. So most of the first love will eventually break up.

Because I think the first love is very beautiful, and the ideas are very simple, but when I get to society, everyone's thoughts will become much deeper, so I think that the first love is not suitable for me, so I will break up.

Because the first love is beautiful, but in the face of reality, the first love can't withstand the blow, so the final result will be a breakup.

First love, as the name suggests, is everyone's first relationship, everyone is rusty with this aspect of feelings, starting from 0, due to everyone's different family status, the three views will be different, two people together, will collide, some people can understand each other, hand in hand for a lifetime, some are smoothed out by one relationship after another, and finally find the "most suitable" other half. Don't try to grow up with a boy, and neither do girls. In my opinion, first love is the foreshadowing and growth of the next relationship.

I guess it's the price of ignorance. At the beginning of love, I met the most beautiful him, I didn't understand anything at that time, I just thought that the two of us were happy, but being happy at that time does not mean that I will always be happy. With age.

Everyone's needs are different, when you don't know how to love, you already have a lover, you want to maintain this love, but you don't know how to maintain it, and in the end it is often self-defeating, this is the price of love, the price of growth, the price of youth, this is also the most beautiful, the purest, really let ** even forget to return to the feelings.

Because of the situation I knew at the time, the nature was not particularly mature, and when I reached a certain age, I understood the importance of materiality, and I also understood that both parties had different views on things, personalities, and the future, and the three views gradually disagreed, so in the end, the two were not suitable to choose to leave each other.

Because everyone's life trajectory is too far away. Lovers in the early years are still in an unformed state, whether it is thoughts, experiences or even social class. At that time, the co-production was likely to be phased.

With the passage of time, it slowly forms its own rhythm, and when the rhythm is out of harmony, it is natural to separate.

First love is ignorant and unknown, most of the boys and girls in the first love are in adolescence, it is the time of rebellion and immaturity, so they are not very mature, and the conflicts that occur will not be well resolved, which eventually leads to a breakup.

This is because when two people are together, they are in the period of love ignorance, and they do not have a deep understanding of love, so after getting along for a while, they find that the other party is not their own dish.

Because everyone didn't have a clear goal for their relationship when they first fell in love, they couldn't get together in the end.

I think I was too young when I first fell in love, I didn't understand anything, and I broke up when I understood it.

Because first love is generally inexperienced, I don't know how to manage relationships.

The reason why the first love will break up is because when they meet their first love, they are relatively young and don't know how to protect love. Most of the first love happens on campus, and breaking up after graduation is too common, and there are many people who do not advocate falling in love in college. The relationship between people is difficult to control, and if you want to marry your first love, you must learn to persevere, don't give up on each other, and work together on both sides.

A person's efforts will only make the relationship go their separate ways, and going both ways is the foundation of the relationship, so let's find out in detail!

First, why do first loves basically break up?

The first love will break up, mainly because the age is young and ignorant, and everyone loves each other with their best efforts when they first love. This kind of good is often very fragile, and there is no economic foundation to support it, and when everyone has a stable job, they are relatively independent in their thinking. Some people are more rational and will choose to break up after knowing that the two have no future.

Other people will work hard to persevere, but this part of the people who insist will have to give up after a period of hard work. Most of the feelings are lost to reality, and I met the best person at the best age, but I don't have the ability to protect it.

Second, how to marry your first love?

If you want to marry your first love, you must be consistent, the other party will go, you will go, and end the long-distance relationship as soon as possible. A long-distance relationship will make two people break up directly, and when you feel lonely, the same is true for the other person, long-distance relationships are very hard and one of the main reasons for breaking up. After two people are together, it is not that they can be happy by eating and drinking together, but that they are working hard for life, and the two of them determine a work goal and work hard for it.

In the process of hard work, you can gain a lot, and the other party becomes your soul mate. The two will get married after they have been in love for a long time, and don't always weigh the pros and cons when getting married, love each other unconditionally, and they will marry their first love.

In short, the person who marries his first love is a winner in life. People who don't have to go through several relationships and want to be happy forever after just one relationship are usually not emotionally hurt.

The time of first love is generally very early, and there is no emotional experience, but this is also maybe, if both parties cherish this relationship, operate together, never lose that feeling, and make progress together, there will be a happy ending in the end.

Write. Angela Liu

Psychological Counselor|Practitioner of Body, Mind and Spirit, Talent, Destiny Open, Appointment Appointment, Attend Lectures.

The younger you are when your first love is ruined, the easier it is to break up. Because the younger you are, the stronger your growth and the more uncertain you are.

From first love to marriage, from campus to wedding dress, it is not easy. This requires the pace of growth, future choices, and life direction of the two people to be basically consistent. If any of these conditions are missing, there is a high probability that they will break up.

But we need to note that breaking up does not equal failure, and marriage does not equal success. These are two different things entirely.

To be exact, there are no failed romances. Everything we go through is meaningful. Even if you break up, you will definitely be able to learn some lessons from it.

For the vast majority of people, breaking up is a must-pass exam in life. Very good for personal growth.

Breaking up is a very valuable life experience. Even if it hurts to the heart, after the pain, there will definitely be gains. If the understanding is high enough, the whole person will be reborn. This is the great meaning of the breakup for us.

So, I hope everyone is brave to love and don't be afraid to break up. Break up when it's time to divide the lead, don't hesitate, drag it out for several years.

Always go with the present and go with the heart. When you are together, you can enjoy the process, and at the same time don't be too attached to the result.

First love often appears before the demolition of the student age, or when you just enter the social annihilation judgment, at this time our three views and the plan for life and the future have not yet taken shape, and they are very unstable, and they will be affected by various factors. The values and life plans of both parties are easy to grow with each other, and as the relationship becomes longer, there will be a misalignment, and it will be difficult for the two to go on.