Question 30 about modern young people having children

I am a post-80s generation, and I am still very optimistic about raising children.

First of all, we have to admit that it does cost a lot of money to raise a child at the moment, not to mention anything else, we can't let the child not go to school, the child is our hope, to let him get an education, but also to receive higher education, it is best to study abroad, and it is best to have a doctorate or postdoctoral ......This mass of hope alone can weigh us down. But looking back, it boils down to wanting our children to be physically and mentally healthy and grow up to live a good life. First and foremost is health:

Prepare a balanced and nutritious diet for him (her), spend more effort to cultivate his (her) scientific and reasonable living habits, and pay attention to the prevention of diseases, that is to say, "do not cure the disease, cure the disease", "prevent the disease before it happens". The same is true for mental health, where you can spend less money by putting more effort into it.

In terms of education, as parents, we must first do our duty, that is, we must pay attention to family education, and let the school take the main responsibility for the school part, and parents will observe from the side. It is important to spend more time with your children, effective communication is important, and behavioral education is also important......If your child is bullied by his classmates at school and ignored by his teachers, ......So as a parent, you should make your child feel that he is supported, and a sense of security is the premise for the child to straighten his waist at school, and a straight waist is the premise of solid learning......In other words, the cultivation of a sound personality is the foundation of cultural quality.

As the saying goes, everything is difficult at the beginning, and if you do the preparation well, the next thing will be simple.

Preparation, that is, to draw up a financial plan first, first prepare in terms of funds; Then the husband and wife should communicate well and assign their respective responsibilities; Then increase some parenting knowledge, learn from the experience of others, and also increase your own quality ......The next unpredictable thing is the child's test of us, we can only adapt to the situation, and you can't worry about a good result.

How much does it cost to have a child in a month now? Do you know? Milk powder alone costs a few hundred yuan a month, in case there is another illness or something, a month, a child will have to pay thousands of yuan, and he will have to go to kindergarten in the future, which is also a big expense.

Now that we are catching up with the financial crisis, there is a great pressure to survive in all aspects, and if we are still young, two years late, it will not be too late to wait for the economic conditions to improve! There's nothing strange about it, and I think his wife's reaction is normal. You can't have a baby for the sake of having a baby, right?

After all, survival comes first, and your own life is unstable, so what can you use to raise your children? Let the child suffer as well?

Some of those who love children are adopted to prevent old age, and some are for amusement; Some people who don't like to have children can't afford to raise them, and some just don't want to raise children!

How do you live in Beijing for more than 1,000 a month, not to mention that if you have a child, life is really hard, I don't think you can eat, if you get sick, then you have to sleep on the streets, so it's normal to don't have children for the time being.

It's very simple, she just doesn't want the child to take off herself and retreat, she also wants the child to live a good life when he is born, maybe she doesn't want it at all, it's normal to not want children now, no matter how you live, you don't have to have children.

Of course, there are many reasons, the main one is to worry about it. It does not have the backward concept of the previous generation of raising children to prevent old age, and it also weakens the mission of passing on the responsibility of the ancestors. We start from our own feelings and begin to reflect on the parent-child relationship in this society, believing that having children is something that needs to be treated with caution, and we do not want children to grow up in the same environment as they once were.

There is also the problem of housing, we are facing scary housing prices, especially school district housing, and high parenting costs compared to when we were young. If you can't even provide a stable growth environment, and you forcibly give birth to a child, then your life will not be comfortable, and it will be difficult for your child to grow up healthily.

Finally, in terms of time, the country's development has gradually slowed down from the rapid changes of the past. At this time, it is neither like our father's time when there were many opportunities, nor like our grandparents' time when everyone was full of family and country feelings. We recognize our own insignificance, accept our ordinariness, and believe that we do not necessarily have to leave future generations.

Having children becomes an option, not a must, throughout your life. Now with the improvement of material living standards, young people are now comparing others to buy houses and cars, and I must buy a house and a car with a loan, so there is very little money left after paying a mortgage or car loan every month, Alexander, so many young people don't want to have babies. In some areas, the bride price is very high for marriage, resulting in many young people are afraid to get married, they think that after marriage, they have to repay debts and repay mortgages or car loans, so there is not much money left in their hands for a month, and they dare not get married and have babies, so the desire to give birth is getting more and more bottom.

There are also some people who were born in the 90s, many of them are only children, and after marriage, the two young people have to support both parents and even 5 or 6 old people, and the economic conditions are not very good, and they have to support the elderly and raise the young, so there is no desire to have children. In real life, there are also many young people who disregard their own honey adult feelings and do something against the wishes of their parents! Disappointing a lot of adults!

I've been thinking about this question for a long time. I love children, but I certainly wouldn't rush into bringing a child into the world. Just like I longed for marriage, I never doubted the sanctity of marriage, but I was determined to enter into marriage with someone I loved.

I've seen so many unhappy marriages and found that this thing doesn't look like what I fantasized about at all. My cousin, cousin, and cousin are all divorced, and my cousin and cousin still have children. This is a situation that I can't even think of, the divorce of relatives who are a year or two older than me.

In addition to them, I have also met people who are younger than me, but divorced.

With the development of society, people's values and lifestyles are constantly changing. Today's young people are more focused on personal freedom and independence than ever before, and pursue a personalized lifestyle. This is one of the reasons why young people nowadays would rather be single than have more children.

1.Economic pressures.

The current economic situation is becoming more and more volatile, and the cost of living is getting higher and higher. Young people feel a lot of financial pressure when faced with high housing prices, high tuition fees, and high prices. They also take these financial factors into account when considering whether or not to get married and have children.

Because there are many financial costs to getting married and having children, which is a big burden for young people who are under great financial pressure.

2.Lifestyle.

Today's young people pay attention to their own lifestyle and pursue a personalized life. They prefer to choose their preferred lifestyle rather than live according to traditional patterns. This lifestyle may be single, independent, free, rather than the traditional pattern of getting married, having children, being a housewife.

Therefore, they would rather be single than have more children.

3.Job competition.

Today's job market is very competitive, and young people need to constantly improve their abilities and skills in order to stand out from the competition. As a result, young people often need to invest more time and energy in their studies and work to improve their competitiveness. If they get married and have children, they need to allocate more time and energy to take care of the family, which will have a big impact on their career development.

4.The concept of marriage and love.

Nowadays, young people have also changed greatly in their concept of marriage and love. They pay more attention to their own feelings and needs, and are no longer bound by the traditional concept of marriage and love as before. They prefer to choose their preferred partner rather than choose a traditional marriage model.

Therefore, they would rather be single than have more children.

5.Educational concept.

Nowadays, the concept of education is also changing. In the past, the concept of education was patriarchal, believing that boys were the continuation of the family, while girls needed to marry and have children. However, the concept of education has changed a lot, and people are paying more and more attention to women's education and career development.

As a result, young people nowadays are more willing to choose their own career development rather than having children according to the traditional marriage model.

In conclusion, there are many reasons why young people nowadays would rather be single than have more children. They pay attention to personal freedom and independence, pursue a personalized lifestyle, face economic pressure and job competition, and consider their own concepts of marriage and education, so they would rather choose to be single than have more children.

If you have more children, the pressure is too great, especially if you have more children, and education will have to pay a lot.

The main reasons are as follows: First, the economic pressure is greater. With the continuous development of the social economy, the modern cost of living is increasing day by day, especially the consumption expenditure on housing prices, education and medical care, many young people feel that they are too financially burdened to afford the cost of raising children.

In addition, for women, there is more obvious gender discrimination in the workplace, and the rights and interests such as maternity leave and breastfeeding cannot be guaranteed.

Second, there is a lack of family responsibility. In modern society, the voice of the individual in the pursuit of freedom and independence is getting louder and louder. Many young people are more focused on personal development and career pursuits, often paying less attention to and taking on family responsibilities, including child-rearing responsibilities.

Many young people feel that they do not have the means, income and time to take on the responsibilities of their parents, and sometimes they give up childbearing because of changes in the marriage system and family structure, as well as the problematic marriage market.

Third, lifestyle changes. Contemporary young people are also more diversified in culture, entertainment and social methods, and many people prefer to have fun such as gathering friends, traveling, and shopping, and rarely have the time and energy to accompany their children to grow up. Young people want to live a freer, more comfortable and more convenient life, and they don't want to limit their lives to their families.

The above are the main reasons why modern young people do not want to have children, but in fact, with the adjustment of policies and the awakening of the hidden society, the concept of childbearing is slowly changing, and more and more young people have a deeper understanding and thinking about the importance and significance of family and children.

Why young people nowadays are less and less likely to have children can be roughly summarized into the following two points:

First, economic pressures.

For the first time, the study suggests that economics is linked to fertility reduction.

Although nearly a decade has passed since the 2008 financial crisis, economic insecurity is likely to persist, leading young people who want to become fathers to think twice before having children.

Others believe that housing prices and the pressure of survival in first-tier cities have delayed childbearing, and these economic pressures have led millennials to believe that the cost of raising children is too high, and they choose to postpone or even forgo having children in order not to affect their living standards.

The economic pressure is not limited to young people at home, but also to other countries.

An article in The New York Times interviewed a 32-year-old woman who wanted to wait until her career reached a certain stage to have another child. "Once I've had a certain level of success," she says, "I'll start thinking about starting a family." ”

Whatever the reason, millennials' decision to postpone or abandon having children will have a ripple effect on the lives of older generations.

In addition, with the pressure of higher and higher housing prices and the pressure of survival, their basic life is not guaranteed to a certain extent, let alone having children in combination with a family. What's more, the cost of parenting is also high nowadays, unlike in the past, as long as the children were guaranteed to eat and drink, everything was fine, and now children have many extracurricular tutoring classes such as early education classes and talent classes that need to participate, and the cost has increased greatly.

In first-tier cities, whether it is school district housing or the difficulty of children going to school, all parents are troubled, and these problems also make young people decide to solve these troubles fundamentally, so they simply give up having children.

Second, lives are affected.

Raising a child requires a lot of financial and material resources for parents, as well as a certain amount of mental pressure. They don't grow up suddenly with a "whoosh", but they need 300% effort and energy from their parents to cultivate.

Especially for mothers, since pregnancy, her life is almost only a child, before having a child, free time can be Zheng Ku to go out shopping with friends, but after having a child, it will completely "destroy" all social and occupy all your personal time.

Therefore, young people nowadays, when they feel lonely, are more willing to choose to have a pet as an emotional sustenance.

Raising a child is not the same as having a pet, and the decision to give them birth means that young parents have to grow up quickly and bear the pressure of the future for at least a few decades. Until they are ready for all this, young people are more willing to focus on their own lives.

Of course, I believe that the cost of childcare will be reduced, and there will be young people who will feel the joy of childcare and be willing to become qualified parents.