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Friends, it is inevitable that husbands and wives quarrel, but why do friends or husbands and wives always quarrel? The reason is that we care about each other's feelings! There will inevitably be an awkward quarrel between husband and wife, and it is strange if there is no awkward couple.

The wife should become her husband's idle helper, share worries with her husband, and do her own thing, and husband and wife should learn to be humble, you can have a family meeting with him.

Do you think you need romance in your life? Wrong, what husband and wife have is not only romance, but also affection. Tell you a little story:

There is a couple who live a very dull life, but the wife thinks that the husband has no interest, does not know how to be romantic, decided to divorce, the husband said, if it rains tonight, we should not break up, at night, the wife heard the sound of rain dripping on the windowsill, she looked out, there was no cloud in the sky, went upstairs to see, it was the husband spoonful of dripping water... How does it feel? Friends, our world doesn't just need romance!

Can't you forget your ex-boyfriend? Before you go to bed, think about who you can't live without the most, or leave for a while, and think about who you need the most? Also, your husband loves you too, but you do something wrong, is it time to stop?

Friend, do what I say!

People are the best who can't get it.

I just got married, there was a transition period, and I was always noisy when I first got married, so it's okay to take it slowly, don't worry.

Since you married him, it means that you still love him very much, so love your husband well, don't think about others anymore, little girl!

It's a process, it's a good pull.

When you don't have time to think about what happiness is, you're not far from it.

Cherish the present! ～

Marriage is not the same as patting. After entering a marriage, there is one more person in each other's lives, and it is inevitable that there will be friction, which is a normal phenomenon. After the run-in period, you will find that you are lucky to marry a good husband. Because he doesn't understand romance, rigid men are very down-to-earth and single-minded.

I see you're mentally ill. Really, since you can't forget your ex-boyfriend's goodness, what kind of marriage are you married, are you blind, or are you trying to get your current husband's money?

Because you love him so much. Honestly, be lenient with him. But not too wide. It's good to be suitable. After a long time, everyone will get to know each other.

Or maybe you talk about the problems between you after sex. I think it will have a good effect.

Note: Don't think I'm saying anything nasty. This is advice. It's good to believe. It's okay if you don't want to believe it.

You're too young to say anything else.

If you can't change it, he'll change yourself."

You just got married and still need a run-in period. If you're wrong again, it's ridiculous to take out your ex-boyfriend and compare it with your husband just after you got married.

Be more tolerant, never compare him with other men, and don't think about divorce, just forbear

It's similar to my situation, but I don't know what to do.

It is normal for husband and wife to quarrel, and it depends on what two people quarrel about. If you and your husband are always quarreling over trivial matters, then it is recommended that you solve these things with your husband, and then look at your husband's attitude after they are resolved. If the husband has always been indifferent, then it is recommended that you tell your husband about the seriousness of the matter.

The most annoying thing is that one party in the process of quarreling doesn't care about this matter, if this is really the case, then there is no need for this relationship to last.

In the process of getting along with two people, the quarrel itself is a relatively normal quarrel, and it is also to promote the relationship between the two people. After two people have a quarrel, if they can really recognize each other's problems, then such a quarrel is also meaningful, but there are some couples, after they have a quarrel, they will not solve the problem at all, but do not care about the matter.

Do I think it's necessary to stick to this marriage? In fact, it mainly depends on your husband's attitude, if his attitude is very good, then you can persevere. But if the husband's attitude is very bad, then it is recommended that everyone should not insist, because it is pointless to persevere.

We always say that it is better to demolish ten temples than to destroy a marriage, but there is no need to persist in some marriages, and if they still hold on, they will make themselves feel even more uncomfortable.

A small quarrel is pleasant, a big quarrel hurts the body, and it will also hurt the feelings between two people, so this is also a matter for everyone to judge. There are many couples, although they have been arguing, but they like each other very much, so after a quarrel, both parties will apologize to each other after they calm down. The man can choose to apologize to the woman and let the woman dissipate her anger, which can also effectively alleviate the relationship between the two people.

Personally, I think that there is no need to maintain this kind of marriage, and the three views of the two people are different, because some trivial quarrels will sooner or later consume the feelings of the two people.

Personally, I think it is still necessary to maintain it, because quarrels are quarrels, and every couple will quarrel, as long as there are no problems of principle, they must be maintained.

Personally, I don't think there is any need to continue such a marriage, because two people don't know how to understand, respect, trust, and tolerate each other in their daily lives, and such a relationship can only get weaker and weaker, and may even divorce.

Hello subject, I feel your confusion and troubles from your narration, and the miscommunication brings you many troubles in life.

1. Problem analysis

1.Your daughter-in-law always quarrels with you, which shows two things: one is that she cares a lot about the relationship with you; The second is that some of her inner needs are not being met. Quarreling is the way she chooses to communicate with you, and judging from your messages, the two of you are communicating ineffectively.

2."I've been married for four years, and I've always had a problem, losing my temper over a little thing. "Marriage is an important moment in both of your lives, the role identity has changed, and then the birth of the child, the family life has been enriched with content, and the identity has also increased.

The daughter-in-law is added by the girl before marriage, the daughter of the parents adds the status of the wife, the daughter-in-law, and the mother after the birth of the child, each of which has its own social significance, and bears its own responsibilities in the family, and you also give multiple identities.

3.If you can't skillfully switch between identities, you will become entangled, resulting in many unmet needs, and then there will be emotional fluctuations, such as the "tantrum over a little thing" you see, when the emotions accumulate to a certain extent, there is a quarrel, and the emotions of the two people have been rolled together.

2. Learn to listen, tolerate and understand

Quarrels are often easily controlled by emotions, and it is emotions that are vented, and the real needs of the heart are drowned. So arguing is not the preferred strategy for solving problems. Listening is the foundation of effective communication.

Listening not only listens to each other but also listens to yourself, listens to each other's language, tone, body movements convey the information, correctly means the content of the expression, if you are not sure, you should check the information in time, and at the same time try to express your own meaning in a language that the other party can understand.

Home is a place of love, with love, understanding, tolerance to interact with the daughter-in-law, the daughter-in-law's love needs are met, the home is much warmer. I recommend that you read Nonviolent Communication.

This book, easy to understand.

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Every family has a difficult scripture, I hope the subject can solve the problem as soon as possible and be happy every day!

If your wife often loses her temper with you, you must coax her, don't argue with her, go out in time when she is angry, avoid her, and of course you usually have to do more housework to make your wife happy.

There must be a change of identity between two people. Learn to be tolerant of each other, understand each other, and listen to each other. Understand the correct meaning of it, and if you don't understand it in time, then say your feelings accurately and clearly.

Summary. Hello, I'm glad to answer for you, just got married for more than a month, and your husband often quarrels, then you should talk to your husband calmly, see what the reason for your quarrel is, according to the reason for the quarrel, come up with a way to deal with it, and solve the problem.

I have just been married for more than a month, and I often quarrel with my husband.

Hello, I'm glad to answer for you, just got married for more than a month, and your husband often quarrels, then you should talk to your husband calmly, see what the reason for your quarrel is, according to the reason for the quarrel, come up with a way to deal with it, and solve the problem.

You have been married for more than a month and often quarreled, then you should analyze the reasons, make the right judgment, and change yourself appropriately for each other, that is, everyone should reflect on themselves, see what they are wrong, belong to their own problems, and they should change themselves, so that they can solve the problem and be harmonious in the future.

He is more arrogant and arrogant, as soon as he says that he is not, he loses his temper, often listens to fucking words, and acts when he quarrels.

Do you mean that when you quarrel, he still beats you?

Every time I quarreled, I mentioned how many things he bought for me, how many things he had done for me, and said that I had never bought anything for him and had done things for him.

You husband, he's too calculating.

As soon as he pinched my chin, I resisted, and he controlled me and didn't let me move.

You say he has a short temper and listens to fucking a lot, and you didn't know these questions before?

I also had a little understanding before I got married, and considering that I was older, I married him.

Your husband's questions are really not good!

So what are your thoughts right now?

I wanted to separate, but he didn't want to.

He doesn't want to separate, so he should change this kind of problem, if this continues, how do you get along with her?

He's more machismo.

He's more machismo, that's why he always wants to suppress you.

It's really difficult to get along with such a man, or you will listen to him for everything, such a man doesn't like you to nag, you can only resolve him with warmth.

Poor couples mourn everything, and they will encounter a lot of difficulties after getting marriedThere are many trivial things in life, and it is inevitable that there will be quarrels over some trivial things. are all ordinary people, quarreling is a very normal thing, and it is also a kind of emotional catharsis. When there is a quarrel because of trivial matters in life, it is necessary to solve the matter together, and do not escalate the quarrel, which will affect the relationship.

A couple wants to enter the marriage hall because they love each other, and the two get married, and after the honeymoon period, the next days are the time to test each other. Life can't always be sweet and sweet, and there are some trivial things in life, because two people are young and vigorous, and the economic conditions of two people are affected, so two people will quarrel because of these trivial things in life. These are some of the things that ordinary couples have to go through, it is impossible for two people not to quarrel, it is normal to quarrel, but it is abnormal to quarrel without fighting.

Because two people quarrel, it means that two people still want to communicate, if two people don't quarrel, they don't want to communicate, and the relationship between two people is fading little by little.

They are all ordinary people, and it is inevitable that there will be quarrels over trivial matters in life, and it is very normal for ordinary people to live the most difficult life, and they will worry about money if they have no money, so it is a normal situation to quarrel. Husbands and wives live their lives, quarrels and quarrels, this is a common thing, almost every family will happen to such a thing, there is no need to be too entangled in whether quarrels because of trivial things in life will affect the relationship. I believe that fate is your fate, and you won't lose it if you quarrel, it's not your fate, you won't lose it if you don't quarrel, life is fate when you meet in the world, you have to live a good life, you can't quarrel if you don't quarrel.

In ordinary days, it is inevitable to quarrel over trivial matters in life, but after a quarrel, you must think about how to deal with it correctly. If it's because of some trivial things, there's no need to continue to get angry, just go down the stairs. Family and talent are prosperous, don't continue to quarrel because of trivial matters in life, and finally cause two people to drift away.

Husbands and wives should respect and love each other, and there is a solution to all the trivial things in life, and two people should discuss with each other and solve problems together.

After getting married, there is no such thing as a couple who don't quarrel over trivial matters. The purpose of quarrels is not to create contradictions, but to merge through each quarrel, and to sublimate feelings by resolving contradictions. So, the key is how you compromise with each other after a fight.

Definitely, teeth and tongue have to fight, and besides, people, it is normal for people to inevitably get angry and quarrel when they encounter troubles.

I will definitely quarrel with my husband because of some trivial things in life, but it is not very common, after all, how can there be a marriage that does not cause trouble, does not quarrel, and is plain, so how can it be called marriage? It's impossible not to quarrel for the rest of your life, so this is normal, but it's good to understand, tolerate each other, and solve the problem.

Yes, it should be a headache to live a trivial matter, and it is reasonable to vent your emotions appropriately.