What should I do if something bad about me is told by others?

The first step should be to be calm. Since it has been said by others, then it is a kind of advanced and enlightened to share this matter with the people around you as a kind of self-deprecation.

First, what you think is bad may not be so bad in the eyes of others. One thing has a kaleidoscopic feeling in the cognition of different people, which is also the essential characteristic of each person different from others, people's cultural background, cognitive ability, understanding difference, and the difference in the original family will lead to a different understanding of one thing. In other words, only one percent of the people who know about what they think is bad.

Second, when someone else says it, it's your attitude. At this time, there is no need to be timid and retreat, the whole world knows that the impact of this incident on your whole life is only determined by your attitude towards yourself. Now that others know about it, they face it calmly, which is also responsible for themselves, and it shows a resolute position and principles.

Even if you are wrong, then admit your mistake, and this kind of recognition is also a responsibility.

Third, knowing that you are not good can continue to exaggerate and spread it by yourself. Changing the way we treat this matter is not defensive but aggressive, and this kind of offense is self-deprecating humor. Humor here is great wisdom and the most crucial factor in interpersonal problems.

The treatment of things that are not good for oneself in life is generally divided into hiding and accepting calmly. To hide is to hide in your heart and silently bear all the negative emotions brought by this matter, and in order to hide this thing, you will constantly avoid more things, and finally lead to being unable to bear it. Calmly means that no matter how big the problem is, manifest it, let the people around you know, and take the initiative to ridicule your own behavior with them, throw out the unhappiness in your heart and scatter it to everyone, and at the same time give a smile to yourself, which makes your heart always in a state of peace.

In dealing with this kind of thing, the choice of offense and defense lies in whether it is beneficial to oneself in the long run, and defense is obviously a short-term effect, and its effect is often aimed at oneself, so that oneself is in a passive state of mind for a long time. The offensive will be completely changed, and the problems that have been left behind will be fundamentally solved. So no matter what angle you look at this matter from, no matter who says it, no matter who says it, the benefits outweigh the disadvantages.

See if you can accept the initiative at this moment.

Everyone has shortcomings, and it's really embarrassing to be talked about by others.

There are disadvantages for everyone, and it's better to swim to go on your own. Correction, or having the courage to say it, is better for others to know than to be told first. If you are not afraid of shortcomings, you are afraid of not correcting them, as long as there are shortcomings, you have the courage to face them and actively correct them.

I think many people will admire you, and when one day you correct your shortcomings, many strange eyes will not look at you with colored glasses, and they will admire you in their hearts.

I also have shortcomings, everyone has shortcomings, and my shortcomings should be to be overly cautious, to be overly careful.

In this case, I think everyone will have some bad things, but if it is said by others, it must be very embarrassing, you can communicate with him, and then, when you are said and listened, others will definitely think what you are like, so in this case, you can influence through your usual behavior, or let others change their opinions. Because there are many things that others must be unintentional or deliberate, so you don't want to make friends with this kind of person, or don't let him know about things.

If something bad about yourself is said by someone else, you can warn the leaker because he violated your personal privacy, ask him to apologize to you, and if there is a next time, you can choose to go through the legal process.

If it has been said, then admit it generously, saying that it is indeed your own problem or your own mistakes, etc., and generously admit your mistakes, but will not cause embarrassment, and others will look down on you because of this, and secondly, this kind of friend who leaks his friend's privacy should stay away from him, and don't contact him in the future, because I don't know when he will betray you.

You can choose to escape from this environment, or you can choose to face the reality that everyone already knows your secret, in fact, everyone has some bad things that they want to hide, if you choose to face it, many people can still understand you very well, and they won't say too much.

Since some things have happened, they can only be undertaken. Since it has been said by others, it is also a good thing. At least you don't have to keep it in your heart. It will always pass. Let the time pass! Do well now and in the future. The past cannot be changed.

You can only accept it silently, and then pay attention to improvement in the future to avoid such a bad thing again.

After all, don't run away if you make a mistake, take a lesson so that there will be no more such a situation in the future, in fact, there is nothing.

Hello, since it has been spoken, you can only face it bravely, everyone has done something wrong, just have the courage to correct it, and don't pay attention to the gossip of others.

Be brave at this time, don't be afraid, it's no big deal. Because there is no way to change this fact, it is better to be generous and ignore it, and the rumors will be self-defeating.

If you have done something bad yourself, but it has been said by others, then, first of all, this person is not your real friend, so you will have less contact with him in the future, since you know that you are doing something wrong, even if it is known by others, if you need to explain, then explain, if you don't need it, let it cool down slowly, just through this matter, you can see that person clearly.

What to do if your bad things are said by others, sometimes some of our secrets or private things don't tell others at will, because others are not obliged to help you keep these secrets, no matter what you tell him these things are good or bad, in the eyes of others, these things can be said casually, now you can't let others not say these things about you, then you have to remember for a long time not to tell others everything, especially some friends or girlfriends and the like, After all, if they turn their faces with you and they will tell you bad things, just keep some privacy and secrets in their hearts

Since it is a bad thing, that person should be more serious to deal with it, if someone says it and accidentally hurts you, you can let the other party look at the occasion or stop in moderation. After all, it's better to make your own decisions and handle everyone's affairs.

You can communicate with others in time to make the other person spread still, such behavior is disrespectful, and it also damages your own image, and makes the other party apologize.

Don't care too much about other people's opinions, things have already been said, just keep a certain distance from the person who is talking, and don't easily tell others about your own things in the future.

1.Get stronger. Everyone's ability to express themselves is limited, and they can't fully express the meaning in their hearts, and it is the norm for words to not reach their meanings.

In addition, everyone's cultural and educational background is different, their worldview and values are inconsistent, and their interpretation of your language and behavior is also different, so it is normal to be misinterpreted.

There are big and small misunderstandings everywhere, how can anyone fully understand you?

It doesn't matter if you are misinterpreted, improve your spiritual quality, have no quarrel with the world, and make your heart stronger.

People don't know and are not ashamed, and they are not gentlemen?

Improve self-cultivation, move closer to the "gentleman", and be unaware of people.

2.Avoid. Summer insects can't speak of ice, well frogs can't speak of the sea, and ordinary people can't speak of the sea.

If you can't talk, you can talk less, not a type of person, communicate less.

The mouth is open, and the tongue is moving.

Some people can only find nothing to be angry when chatting with him.

3.Numbness. What are the ways to deal with psychological problems such as fear of heights?

Go to high places more often, and when you get used to it, you won't be afraid.

So, create more opportunities for others to misunderstand you.

For example, in what is it to write.

At first, he defended himself.

Write and pay attention: say one sentence, round ten sentences.

Right now? Already completely numb.

The words are also absolute, and the person who picks the words is just blacked out.

One more taunt before blocking it.

So much so that now I don't care about these words at all, let alone affect my mood.

So. Get stronger.

Avoid. Numbness.

Just pick one of these three methods.

If you have done something bad in the past and is told by others, then you must also face it calmly, learn a lesson, and make yourself more perfect, so that others will not make irresponsible comments about you.

You can call the police and submit the ****** collected from this person slandering you to ** as evidence, and if there are direct witnesses, you should also ask them to explain and confirm to **. The use of legal means must be based on conclusive evidence. You can't take it for granted or hearsay, if things are actually happening, there is no way, and for factual things, it is also legal for people to pass them on.

It is of course very embarrassing to have done something bad and then expose it to others, and we should admit it generously in the face of this situation, and then sincerely reflect on our mistakes.

Tell him not to make a big publicity, and if he has done an impact on his reputation, he can be held legally responsible, and he must apologize to himself.

When someone else says something bad about yourself, first of all, you will feel very anxious, and you will be very nervous, worried that it will cause bad effects, but what has happened, I don't think you should be too anxious, you have to face it calmly, maybe sometimes you are very calm, and others can't take advantage of it, and you won't continue to spread such words.

Since you have said it, then bravely admit it, in fact, you also know that paper can't hold the fire, and one day something like this will happen, and everyone will talk about it for a few days, so there is no need to always keep it in your heart.

If something bad about yourself is said by others, you must be sad, angry, and angry. If you are a victim of this matter, you can also try to solve it, and you have to face it bravely, and others will not say anything about you. After all, people will have bad things, and you can correct what you do wrong.

When a lot of my bad past is ** out, I must be very embarrassed, of course, if you have the conditions, you can cover it up, or ask the other party not to continue to promote.

Instead of worrying about others saying it, it is better to face it calmly, change it if you have it, and encourage it if you don't.

If someone else says something bad about yourself, it depends on the severity of the matter, just saying that others will have a bad impression of you when they hear it, and it won't have a big impact, the main thing is that your mental endurance can bear the past and it's okay, then this is said by others to be said by your friend, you have to tell him that you can't do it in the future.

I experienced bullying in elementary school. At that time, I was too introverted, but I actually thought that as long as I reported to the teacher every time, the matter would be stopped.

A lot of people you don't know will hurt you and hate you, don't say they don't believe it, you say I won't reply here, people you don't know have basically no relationship with you, and they don't know everything about you, how can they hurt you? Are you very good, make others red, but if you are really good, people who don't know you will not know, they will not be jealous and hate you, if you are very good and become a public figure, and others know you, I am afraid that most people are scolding you and want to know you, there is no need to hurt you. You may really have delusions of victimization.

Then you try to stay away from these people, in fact, there are some things that don't need to be explained to others, others have done things that hurt you, you can record them, find out the evidence, if they are strong, then you choose to escape, think about it, is it your own imagination, if it is true, it is really scary, it is best to leave your current living environment, away from those who hurt you.

Starlight doesn't ask passers-by, time pays off. Probably the places I haven't been to are called far away, and the people who haven't gotten them are compared.

More memorable. The good days bring you joy, and the dark days bring you experiences. Don't have regrets for any day in your life. May you be able to carry the good and the bad, you can distinguish between a person and a dog, you can be sensitive but don't be hypocritical, nothing is worth your life.

Call the police, in fact, you are not strong enough, otherwise you will not be so easily bullied.

When you get along with others, as long as the other party does not harm your heart, you should be content and should not have more extravagance. Sometimes we are sad, thinking that those who were originally close to us should treat us better, and after the heart is cold, we think that they probably did not harm me at all, but there is a natural indifference between people, so we should still retain and appreciate this pure and harmless emotion.

Many of the past, if you keep it in your heart, you will never let go. Those who have imprinted our lives, we remember them for a lifetime, but we can't suffer for them for a lifetime, and we still need a new life. In fact, life has to be lived like a madman in order to forget the bumps that life gives us.

No matter how scarred and dilapidated we are on the surface, we are still valuable, and this value is inherently shouted to tear down the silver, and no one can take it away. There is no one but yourself who can devalue you. We can't change what has happened, but we can change how it affects us.

Don't let the past ruin our ability to enjoy the good things in front of us.

There are too many uncertainties about the road we want to take, a word of exhortation from others, a flash of thought from ourselves, and occasional gains and losses, all of which are always changing the direction of our destiny. The world is unpredictable, there is no need to be too obsessed with things, no one can take anything away, and why Zheng Yan will be entangled in a certain person, a certain time, and a certain thing. Only when you see it and figure it out, can you follow the fate, be casual, and be the royal Kai as you like, not impatient, not sad or happy, not salty and not light.

If someone throws a stone at you, don't throw it back, keep it as the cornerstone of your building.