How to build a good relationship with a child in junior high school

Children at this age are childish but feel that they have grown up, which is more difficult to manage.

1。No matter how introverted children will have their little preferences, in fact, you can understand their preferences first, (but instead of desperately asking them "what do you like" and "do you have anything you want", etc., maybe they will feel annoying to their parents when they hear it), although parents are busy with work, it is sometimes not easy to carefully understand their preferences. For example, the boy likes basketball very much, likes Jordan, and can buy him a beautiful basketball at the right time; My daughter likes to listen to Jay Chou's songs, so I can buy her a new CD or something.

Sometimes what they need is just to go and have some fun. With appropriate rewards, sometimes they will feel very happy to be close to their parents again.

2。I understand that many children don't want or even like their parents to sit down and talk face-to-face in a very formal way, and it gives me a sense of disgust at the time (at least as I felt when I was a child). Sometimes it's time to develop a sense of humor to deal with your child and make jokes (not jokes) about their preferences

3,。Children don't want their parents to always compare themselves with other people's children, so it's good to be appropriate, or they're very disgusted.

4。If you want to make use of your mother's strengths, it will be effective to cook something delicious for them.

Generally, junior high school children are rebellious students, so we should respect students, try to grasp the psychological characteristics to communicate, we need to be gentle, and children need to listen hard to talk to themselves.

Care more about your children, understand them, accompany them, make your relationship with your children closer, and let your children have no generation gap with you, so that you can communicate well.

You should think about the problem from the child's point of view, communicate with the child more, put yourself in their shoes, don't always quarrel with them, and give them some reason.

1. Ask the teacher about your child's social performance.

Schooling has a huge advantage: students learn to acquire social skills from their daily interactions with their peers. For some of these children, the main pressure that school puts on them has nothing to do with schoolwork.

Because, in the eyes of parents, children who are almost perfect, may not be welcomed by everyone in various performances in school. In school, some classmates are very popular, and everyone is willing to associate with him; Some classmates have unsatisfactory interpersonal relationships, and no one wants to associate with him. Moreover, although some students have not blushed or quarreled with anyone, they rarely pay attention to them, as if they do not exist.

In middle school, children may encounter all kinds of interpersonal problems, but they don't want to talk too much about their social life at home, and the teacher's observations and insights can provide some inspiration for parents.

2. With specific questions and concerns.

The hardest question for teachers is, "How is my child doing in class?" "Because we have limited time to communicate, the teacher just wants to know right away what you are focusing on the child. Parents may wish to ask:

Are you serious in class? Does Naihashi speak? Distracted? Engaging in small moves?

How is your relationship with your classmates?

Are you willing to help others?

Do you care about the class body?

What should I do if my child is reluctant to sort out the wrong question book?

<>1. Speak less, communicate with the early silver middle school, and talk less, because he will block you and can't listen.

2. Listen to the wheelstool correctly. When your child is talking to you, stop what you are doing, listen carefully to him, don't interrupt, and make sure there is no misunderstanding.

3. Ask correctly. If the child tells you a lie, it must be that you are not capable of listening to the truth. People are all seeking advantages and avoiding disadvantages, and if you tell the truth, you will be unlucky, who will tell the truth.

The attitude of the question was to help him, not to interrogate him. Disarm his psychological defenses. Keep it secret for him, no matter what is said.

4. Be empathetic in chatting. Why do some children prefer to talk to others rather than to their parents? There must be something wrong with the way the parents speak.

When chatting with anyone, as soon as you open your mouth, you must express your understanding and empathy for the other person's emotions, rather than analyzing right and wrong. Everyone has the ability to solve problems on their own, as long as you empathize with him and give him strength.