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FriendJudging from your description, I think the two of you are really not suitable for love, not suitable for being together, and it can also be said that the two of you are destined. During the relationship, there was a small quarrel for three days, a big quarrel in January, and he didn't let you when they quarreled, can you still have such a boyfriend? Can you still get along with him?

I think the answer is absolutely not, as the saying goes, there is no grass in the world, why hang yourself on a tree without fate? There are many good boys in the world, I advise you to break up with him as soon as possible, put your mind down, and look for someone who belongs to you, I wish you success! A person who is willing to accompany you and can give you his heart is loving you.

Talking to you, it's not that I'm lonely, but I'm worried that you'll be lonely; Coaxing you to be happy, not because you have nothing to do, but because I am afraid that you will be sad. Cherish a person who is good to you, because: if you lose it, you won't come back, and if you miss it, it's hard to have it again!

If there is a person in life who can be thought, remembered, liked, and cherished, it is a beautiful thing and a precious feeling. Although it can't help you wipe away your tears, it can give you intimate comfort; Although you can't be the person around you, you can give you real love, and the happiest thing in life is that someone understands that you love you and doesn't deceive you!!

No couple has absolutely the same personality and preferences, and two people together must rely on slow running-in, mutual humility, mutual tolerance, mutual understanding, and mutual respect in order to have a better relationship.

The Tao is different, why bother to live together!

One point must be clearly pointed out here, that is, the boy you like, although the personality is different from yours, is very good, at least from your point of view, very attractive, so it will give birth to the idea of chasing backwards, based on which there are several methods to choose from.

First, try to be as good as you are. If you want to know where to work hard, you might as well find the superiority of the other party first. For example, this boy is very good at studying or playing basketball.

Then you can work hard in related aspects, of course, in terms of sports, you can choose a dance that is more suitable for girls, if the boy has a habit of morning exercise, you can also pretend to meet Lu Wang by chance, and create an opportunity for the two to talk. This is because when a person is doing something they like, they will be very happy to meet someone who has the same hobby, and they will also have a lot to say to each other.

Second, if the guy is more introverted and you are more extroverted, then you don't need to change at all. This is because introverted boys are more boring, he is more eager for changes in life, and your extroverted personality is the highlight that attracts him. Of course, in life, you should also try to create some opportunities, such as finding some problems that you don't know, asking the other party for advice, and remember not to find those questions that are too simple, others will see it.

That will only show that you are not smart enough, and even the other party will see your intentions and become estranged.

Thirdly, if he is an extrovert and you are an introvert, then it will be a bit difficult for you to chase him. This is because extroverted guys are usually very popular with girls, and he has more topics in common with girls who are also extroverted, so you only have two options, the first is to change your introverted habits, become cheerful, and show yourself more in front of him. Another option is to wait silently and see what kind of attitude he has towards the girls around him, and if he is not interested in the girls around him, then you can try to confess to him.

You should understand his preferences, and then improve your charm, and slowly pursue him in communication with him.

I think you can express your love to the other person and release your sincerity, and I think the other person will agree to your pursuit when they feel affirmed.

Whenever you encounter something, you must take into account the feelings of the other party, and often prepare some surprises for the other party, and often prepare some gifts for the other party, and often prepare some delicious meals for the other party.

When two people first fall in love, they must be attracted by each other's strengths. Sometimes you fall in love quickly. In fact, I don't know much about the object of love.

But that doesn't stop the two of themHeat up, and in the process of falling in love, deepen their understanding of each other, and discover each other's other advantages, which is also in loveOne of the fun。But some girls will be more worried that in the process of getting along with two people, they find that their hobbies are not the same as their boyfriends, what should they do when they encounter such a situation? In fact, this kind of problem is very easy to solve, and I can provide a solution from two aspects.

In short, two people can attract each other into a relationship, for sure, because both parties have the sparkle that the other likes. Don't delete all the differences just because two people have established an intimate relationship, but understand each other and penetrate each other, so that both people are growing and can promote the development of two people's feelings in the future.

You can take the initiative to make some changes for each other, so that two people can get along well in life, and you will also feel that two people are particularly suitable, and you should take turns to bow your head and take turns to change.

Two people can sit down and talk, you change a little for him, he changes a little for you, and a long run-in will make your preferences the same.

At this time, two people should accommodate each other, understand each other, and can find a common topic for two people, so that they can also live well.

1.When two people can be together, love is definitely more important.

If my boyfriend's interests are different, I'm willing to follow his interests. 3.As long as two couples are willing to accommodate each other and run in with each other, there is no need to separate.

I have a lot of friends around me, their interests and hobbies are not exactly the same, for example, I have a friend, her boyfriend is a professor of history, this professor is particularly interested in history, but my girl friend only likes shopping, the two of them are still very happy together, I think as long as two people are willing to run in, willing to accommodate each other, there is no need to separate.

All in all, I think that if I find that my interests and hobbies are completely different from my boyfriend, I will definitely be willing to be with him, on the other hand, the fate of two people is more important, in addition to the different interests and hobbies of the two people, it is not a big deal, many people are still very happy together, as long as they are willing to run in with each other, these are not problems.

I am still willing to be with him, on the one hand, because interests can be cultivated, and on the other hand, because there are more complementary interests between men and women, rather than having exactly the same interests.

I don't want to, because two people don't have the same interests and hobbies, they will not have a common language, and they won't be happy together, and there is no need to change their interests and hobbies for the sake of a person, so they will be unhappy.

Unwilling. Because the interests and hobbies are completely different, it means that the things that two people do together cannot be synchronized, and there is no common language together.

I am willing to be with him, provided that he is also willing to be with me, two people who love each other may not have common interests and hobbies, do not dislike each other, and play their own games, which is also good.

1. Cultivating common interests and hobbiesIt is a painful thing for both parties in a relationship to not have a common language, and perhaps such a situation will not be a problem when you are in love. But with the confirmation of the relationship, love becomes a long-term companionship, and then a common hobby is needed to maintain the hard-won love.

2. Understand each other's interests and hobbies, and both parties in a relationship may have completely different interests and hobbies. Even if you can develop common interests, in order to make the relationship between the two parties better, you need to spend a certain amount of time to understand each other's interests and hobbies more deeply.

3. Give both parties enough personal space Even if they are in a relationship, each of them is still a member of other social relationships. In order for everyone's social attributes to be well displayed in front of everyone, they need to have enough private space.

Even if you are a lover, they can't just belong to you. They need to have plenty of personal space to take care of their own personal affairs. In love, girls need to cultivate the same interests as each other, but also give each other enough private space.

In this way, your relationship can go further and longer.

The interests and hobbies are different, but two people can find other things in common, each maintain their own interests and hobbies, and do not interfere with each other, so that they will not have too many differences when they get along.

Understand and support each other's decisions, and when there is a conflict, don't have a cold war, and be more tolerant and considerate of each other.

In life, we care about each other, take care of each other, fully understand each other's thoughts, and put ourselves in each other's shoes. We must learn to empathize in order to go long-term.

Two people should get along with each other with common hobbies, common language, and common topics, so that there will not be too many differences, and then the emotional foundation should be better and better.

Tolerate each other's shortcomings and try to magnify each other's strengths so that there are not too many differences.

In this way, two people must learn to care about each other and protect each other's psychological feelings, so that there will not be so many contradictions.

Only when two people change some of their things for each other and compromise to get along will they not have too many differences.

Then when you get along with each other, learn more about each other's hobbies, and try to like them or look at them correctly.

The personality of the subject is complementary, and some other hobbies, habits, etc. should be similar.

If the personalities are too similar in the relationship, it is like your own doppelganger, and there is nothing to dig into. It's going to be boring. And if it is too complementary, it will cause contradictions in communication, and there is a lot of thinking that it is not a person who is all the way.

To sum up the above, it is necessary to combine these two personality traits. In order to deepen the relationship, there must be a motivation to understand the other person, and complementary personalities lead to mastery in one aspect and ignorance in another. In this way, both parties have the feeling of being better than the other, and the psychology can be balanced.

But this is not enough, so there are still some similarities between the two sides. Strengthen the psychological balance on the basis of complementarity, so that when there is a contradiction in the complementary aspect, the similarity can be resolved.

The most important point is that a woman's advantage is quite effective, and if played well, it can conquer almost all men. It is also a good idea to make proper use of the unique strengths of women.

Complementary, similar, and everything feels like one idea.

It's not interesting to remember that someone said, "If you have two opinions, if it's always the same, there's one person in it that's superfluous and complementary, and can alert you when you're making mistakes."

And the similar ones may look at the problem the same as you, and the complementary ones that can't help you find mistakes will feel new and interesting.

I think there are two reasons for this.

On the one hand, it is determined by the characteristics of your own personality. People's personalities are also divided into scenes, and they are also related to mood. When you interact with people with different personalities, you will react differently depending on your environment and personality.

On the other hand, love is not the same as friendship. It is said that the IQ of a person in love is 0, which is enough to show that being in love can make people show completely different behaviors from their own personality. If you dig deeper, it will also be related to the secretion of hormones.

Many girls in love want to be loved by their boyfriends, and it is normal to play around and play petty. That's what makes a girl cute. But in front of friends, everyone is more rational and can better reflect their original personality traits.

In short, the richer a girl's personality is, the more varied she is, the more attractive she is. Reflect your excellent and lovely side, whether it is friends or lovers will like you.

If it's a personality incompatibility, then don't be together. When two people are together, it is still very troublesome if their personalities are not compatible. They will quarrel non-stop, and they will think about things in different ways. In short, all kinds of problems. So let's break up. Otherwise, it won't be long.

There is a saying that goes like this. The so-called love is called complementary personalities when you are in love, and incompatible personalities when you don't love. And if you actually find out that your personalities are incompatible, it means that your relationship is about to break up.

And you've always felt that your personalities aren't compatible. This idea of yours took root in your heart. Even if you're married, you'll still have that thought.

And this idea will become stronger and stronger, and in the end it will really be incompatible.

So you must think it through yourself. People with incompatible personalities, why are you together? Will it be happy?

I've seen too many people who insist on being together even though they know they don't have the right personality. The end result is a happy breakup, so there's really no need to stick to something that shouldn't be insisted on.

No one's personality is the same. And what we're looking for is the person who matches us. It's the kind of person who gets along as the saying goes.

Only when we are compatible with people can we be truly happy. When two people are together, they are together, and if their personalities are not compatible, how can you become one?

Cacti and balloons are never suitable. So the cactus has to find its own desert. Balloons have to look for their own cotton. Only in this way can it last longer. Each other will be happier.

Is it really possible to be happy with someone with a different personality? The answer is no. So it's better to give up as soon as possible. Give each other more time to find a better fit.