Long term non contact with people, 5. Long term non contact with people,

It's nothing, isn't it just a bunch of people? There is everything, pigs, dogs, just treat them as those, don't be too extreme, just live naturally.

In fact, you don't have "self-confidence". If you want to deal with people, you have to be confident.

Find your own reasons. Look at yourself as ** Something is wrong.

In fact, I can realize that this is not good, and it can be remedied. It's okay to spend more time with familiar friends. After a long time, work or some very ordinary friends will not be so difficult for you to get along with.

You don't have to think so much about work. Just do your part. Maintain a good and healthy mindset.

To be a social worker, I help others and help myself with one stone.

You hurry up and come out to contact with people outside, you are not isolated from the world, you always have to get along with others, and you will get used to it after slowly contacting and contacting, naturally.

Don't you know how to surf the internet? Prove that you can still do it, and then change the way you speak, and then talk to some acquaintances, and then talk a lot, and you will meet, I used to be like this, I didn't dare to talk to people. Later, when I went online a lot, I tried to talk to some acquaintances, and we would meet after chatting.

It's much better now, and it's become much more cheerful!

I haven't had much contact with society anymore, in fact, I think it's good to be alone, but that's just a fantasy that's not practical at all, and it will get better slowly.

How so? Unless there is a mental problem.

Try to get out of the place where you live.

Practice at home first, shout out loudly, and after you are proficient, you won't be afraid to talk to people again.

Find a job that contacts people.

First of all, you have to connect with your heart, and talking to you in the mirror is the best way.

Everything goes with the flow.

I'm in this situation right now, doing my own thing at home every day, rarely in contact with the outside, and sometimes I feel disconnected from society.

Of course, this is due to my work, and I don't have any contact with the outside world, but I have experienced this situation and state of mind, and I think I still have some opinions on this thing.

First: lonelinessMan has always been a social animal, but also a sensual creature. What we do is very, very much influenced by emotional factors, and this phenomenon can be highlighted vividly in our daily life.

Loneliness is a very terrifying feeling, the steely soldiers of our army, they are not afraid of bloodshed and sacrifice on the battlefield, they are not afraid of charging ahead, cutting generals and capturing the flag.

But they were very afraid of a special punishment"Confinement".

The so-called confinement means locking it in a small room. The small room was dark, the fingers could not be reached, and no sound could be heard.

Many soldiers couldn't stand it after they entered, and there was a saying in the armyI'd rather be confined for 30 boards than for a day.

Therefore, after a person has been out of touch with society for a long time, the emergence of loneliness is inevitable, and this is also the biggest challenge to human beings.

Second, the essential meaning of the two words "being eliminated from society" is actually no different.

If a person has not been in contact with the outside world for a long time, according to the rapid development and changes of the presentThis person will quickly feel disconnected from society, new things he simply could not accept.

This phenomenon can also be seen in our daily lifeThe most intuitive manifestation is the elderly.

Many elderly people don't know how to use smartphones, don't order takeout, don't buy train tickets, and don't even take high-speed rail planes.

If this is the time to restore their youthful bodies and have to come out to work, then they are exceptedThere will be no livelihood other than farming in the countryside and doing some hard work.

This kind of thing is the same for young people, don't believe you find a place to stay for a few years and try? For example, those who have just been released from prison, even if they can study and watch the news in prison, they still inevitably feel eliminated from society after they come out.

Third: It is said that there are three realms in lifeLook at the mountains are mountains, and see the water is water; Look at the mountains are not mountains, and look at the water is not water; Look at the mountain is still a mountain, look at the water is still water.

And what I call a master belongs to the third realm.

It's not that they weren't born, it's not that they weren't stained with red dust, but they have already entered the world first, and then reached the realm of being born, in a relatively simple word, they have reached the realm of returning to the basics.

For this kind of people, their thinking is always extremely advanced, even if some new technology products, they can't use it, but it has no impact on their lives.

Because some things in the world are already pediatric for them, but there are not many such masters even in the world.

As for the seclusion that many people are keen on now, it is actually just a change of placeEscapismThat's it, this kind of person is justCowardsNothing more.

People are social beings who need to be in contact with others and society, and cannot be without interacting with others for a long time.

They can become aloof, withdrawn, and autistic. Because if you don't interact with people for a long time, you will lose your most basic social skills, and even lose your emotions.

You will become very depressed, and your personality will become very introverted, and most importantly, you will become very alone.

I think it will become very autistic, and it is easy to have extreme thoughts, and it will seriously derail from society.

A person who does not interact with people for a long time will become less and less confident, unwilling to go out, and feel derailed from society.

We have such a person here, who has lived most of his life and would rather sleep at home than go out for a walk!

To tell you real people, we have such a person over there, who is in his 60s this year, most of his life has passed, and his greatest pleasure is to stay at home and sleep, watch TV, and play with his mobile phone.

This person really doesn't have any friends, and the people who come and go are mainly relatives at home, and he doesn't even have much contact with neighbors. Not only himself, but also his children and grandchildren.

After dinner in the evening, it was not yet dark, so the family was not allowed to go out, and they all went upstairs to sleep. It doesn't matter if you can't sleep, whatever you do, you just aren't allowed to go out. And he can't get used to seeing other people's homes go out at night.

For example, when people go for a walk after dinner at night, go to square dance, or take their children to play, he can't look at it well, and says, "It's dark, and I'm still running out, and I'm full!" ”

His family generally does not invite guests at home, unless it is unavoidable, such as the marriage of a child and the full moon of a grandson. When there is a guest at home, he will not serve the table if he can, and often hides at the door of the pot, lighting the fire alone, which is pleasant and comfortable.

This is the habit of this person, who does not like to socialize with people and rarely goes out and about. Seeing this, do you think that this person has a good temper? Then you are wrong, although he has very little communication with outsiders, but in front of his family, he is a complete emperor, commanding everyone, and if anyone does not listen to him, he will be nagged to death.

Once, during the Chinese New Year, his son came back from work, and then went to play cards with his friends in his hometown. The friends who haven't seen each other all year round play together, and it's normal for people to talk about their feelings, but they play late at night. And guess what, the man locked the door, didn't leave it for his son, and forbade anyone to open it.

His son came home in the middle of the night and found that the door would not open, so he called upstairs. It took more than half an hour to open the door. This is not over, and it took more than half an hour to scold his son before it was over. Pity this big man in his 30s, he has no temper at all in front of his old man!

Not only the son, but also the wife also scolded, what rice is cooked too much, the vegetables are salty, in short, as long as it is not pleasing to the eye, it is a word"Endless nagging! ”

Later, his daughter gave birth, and the old woman went to take care of her daughter's confinement. I thought that I could get away from the old man for a while, but who would have thought that the old man could play 20 ** a day, which is not an exaggeration at all. What to talk about, it's all trivial.

For example, I turned the ground halfway today, and then turned it again in the afternoon;

For example, I bought meat at noon today and fried shredded meat;

For example, ask if you can't find the salt at home and put it in **;

For example, the dress that I wore for a long time was put a**;

For example, today's TV is very good;

In short, it's just a trivial thing that is not worth mentioning, and there is almost nothing serious. The old woman is also very helpless, although she doesn't want to listen to these nonsense, but she doesn't dare not accept **. Don't say you won't pick it up, even if it's a little late, you have to be asked why it's so slow.

I want to ask everyone, if you have such a person in your life or in your family, can you stand it?

1.Don't like to talk.

People who are really not good to associate with are generally people who don't like to talk, and we didn't criticize people who don't like to talk. It's just that in the normal process of communication, a person who doesn't like to talk will give people a certain sense of distance, so that everyone does not dare to approach him. In fact, these people are just personality problems, mainly if you take the initiative to chat with him, he is still willing to communicate with you.

But here's the problem, people's first impression is often very important, and others will think that you are actively alienating them, so even if they have a hundred thousand urgent things, they will not think of asking you for help.

So in others, if you don't like to talk, you are labeled as a bad person. It wasn't your intention, but now that you're so close to each other, opening your heart and letting others into your world makes you feel happier. A person's personality is inseparable from his growth background, and perhaps he has experienced some pain, which is why he is so cautious in front of everyone.

If a company has such people, we should be more tolerant and take the initiative to communicate with them, and I believe that everyone will get along more happily.

2.Seriously. Most of the people who are really difficult to get along with like to be more serious, and when someone says a little word, he feels that others are talking about him, and he argues with reason, which makes everyone unhappy.

Most people who are easy to be more serious only admit that they are dead and have been living in their own world, and he doesn't care about other people's emotions, but as long as he is in a good mood, he doesn't consider anything else, and such people sometimes live very selfishly. A lot of people don't want to deal with this kind of person, and here's why. Such a person even has very few friends, which shows that his interpersonal relationship is average.

3.Valuing profits.

People who really don't get along well attach great importance to their own interests. Because when this kind of person does things, he will only care about his own vested interests, and will not take into account the interests of others at all. I don't like to associate with such people, but I've really met this kind of person.

My college roommate was like that, since she came to our dorm, she didn't go with us every time, and it felt like we owed her. The most infuriating thing is that in order to get a scholarship place in the class, I went to the counselor to complain and forcibly canceled the place of my other roommate. I think it's better for this kind of person to live by himself.

First, the nature of our work is different and we do not have a common language. Since there is no common language, there is nothing to talk about when you stay together, and you won't talk to avoid embarrassment.

Second, if you haven't had contact before, you don't know the details, and you don't dare to make deep friends, especially if you have lived for a long time, you have more or less suffered losses and been angry, and if you want to stop happening, everyone thinks that reducing communication has become the best way.

People are reluctant to contact people because they are disappointed, because they are mature, because they see many things that are not very clear to them as they grow older and more experienced. I know the trade-offs, and I know the sub-priorities in life. For various reasons, of course, it is not excluded that some people are developed and look down on others.

Human beings are social animals, and they are naturally willing to associate with everyone, so the reason why they quiet themselves. It's all for a reason. Actually, when I really quieted down, I found that it was not bad.

It's your delusion. The relationship between people is still very good. The reason why you don't want to see people anymore is because everyone has their own hobbies.

Most of the time addicted to the internet. So much so that the family friendship has faded. That's all.

Those who are indulged in love, those who are desperate for love, are still struggling to pursue their love. They still want to engage with each other.

Nowadays, social interests are becoming more and more important, and feelings are becoming more and more indifferent, and people are more and more like to be alone, and are unwilling to contact more and more people.

Some people are more introverted. In fact, everyone still likes to make friends and share their joys, sorrows and sorrows with friends.

The first is busy making money, the second is guarded, and the third is that there are many programs for self-entertainment.

Because people are under a lot of pressure and busy with work now.

The wheat chaff and heart are separated.

Reluctance to contact people is a manifestation of introversion, generally speaking, as long as it is not too introverted, it is not a big problem, and introverts do not even have a friend, then it is serious, and they have to see a psychiatrist.

There are several meanings of the words that I personally understand:

One is that I don't want to have physical contact with people and refuse some ** contact.

The second is that I don't want to socialize with people, maybe I have social phobia, or I am introverted and homely.

One is that I don't want to have physical contact with people and refuse some ** contact.

The second is that I don't want to socialize with people, maybe I have social phobia, or I am introverted and homely.