I don t know if I have a mental problem

Hehehe, you're not sick, that's for sure.

Then help you analyze your psychological state, 1. You can be sure that you are a person with low self-esteem; 2. At the same time, you are more sensitive; When these two emotions accumulate in a relationship that you expect to be good, you will have a strong sense of uneasiness, accompanied by some anxiety. Her every move will affect your emotions because you care, but subconsciously you tell yourself that she doesn't love you and you can't give her happiness, which in turn will bring you strong negative emotions. These emotions are normal, just a typical state of expectation but not daring.

Here are a few things you can try:

1. Try to tell her your feelings for her, talk openly and honestly as a friend, if she strongly expresses rejection of you, or denies your emotions, then try to be friends with her, sometimes watching the person you love get happiness will actually be happy. However, don't have any expectations about this relationship and tell yourself that you are ordinary or good friends.

2. Be quiet and try to ask yourself from the inside whether you like this person or just the feeling of being with or talking to this person. If you really like this person, I think you might as well let go of your worries, because if you like her, you will have the confidence to get this person's heart and create a good result for your future; If you just like the feeling of being with her, hehehe, then it only means that you lack a person in your life who can bring you this feeling, then let go and look for it, this person is not necessarily her, why torture yourself for someone who knows that she doesn't love you and not look for a good life?!

Relax yourself, everyone will have some irrational emotions in the relationship, but when you understand a lot of things, you have to be brave enough to give yourself a decision. Some things don't change all at once, but if you're determined, it's only a matter of time.

The criterion for judging psychological problems is that they affect normal life.

How can a love affair be psychologically problematic. What you said about being together will not end well, and not returning happiness must not be a simple statement. Many people often say this in the love of different places, identity differences, and family relationships, they see far away, responsibilities, obligations, and their feelings are taken into account.

In the end, it turned out that what he was doing was wrong, and because he couldn't stop, he thought he was sick and compulsive.

But this is just general paranoia, we can't find a new relationship to replace it, we can't face the decisive break between the hurting parties, and we can't give up all life in pursuit of a little love.

Things will go on and on, but your role can change from a sufferer to an observer: a lot of people suffer because they focus on their own feelings, "I'll be happy for the day." If you want to let go of yourself, just observe yourself and the other person in your diary, from description, to commentary, and only when you look back after a while can you see your own emotional journey, not the missing feelings.

It's a self-aware view, and one of the principles of counselling is that "only you can save yourself" and we offer you the means to liberate and control yourself.

I believe that there will be someone waiting for you in the near future, and strive to record the happy fragments of life, so as not to hurt the next person because of the flawed love.