I m more afraid of long term relationships, why would anyone be afraid to associate with me?

I am also a more introverted person, I like to read books by myself, think a lot, and talk a lot. It's certainly not a good topic to talk to friends every day, but I can talk a little bit every day, because I come every day to know about some problems, and I can always see something new. I also went to Zhihu to go shopping, and the knowledge of this ** is very professional.

Every morning when I have time, I use my mobile phone to watch Phoenix News. So when you talk to me, I usually talk about what I have watched today or in the past few days, although there is not much nutrition, but this is also a chat, nonsense. It doesn't need to be too high a value.

If words are like gold, then it's good not to speak, and it's more insightful to say once a few days.

On the other hand, you lack a sense of accomplishment, right? Recently, I made a detailed plan for something that you will feel very accomplished after you have done it. After reading a book, memorizing an English book, going to work outside for a month and so on. If you have a sense of accomplishment and self-confidence, you will not be afraid of friends.

Well, your problem is that you are afraid of interacting with people deeply. I don't know how to get involved in depth. I feel tired of finding topics because you don't know what topics other people are interested in. I'm also not interested in other people's chats.

If you don't think there's anything wrong with that, then accept it. Introverted, with few words, there is no right or wrong.

If you don't like yourself and want to change, then you need to learn to interact with people. That is, to improve emotional intelligence. In addition, you say that it is hypocritical to chat with people and find topics. When you have this idea, it is natural to resist in your dealings with people.

I am a social phobia counselor. I've had social phobia before. Maybe I can give you some help.

People's hearts are diverse, each has its own scheming, whether it is daily life, or workplace competition, although there is no harm to others, but the heart of defense is still reasonable, so that mutual suspicion, the mentality of deception is generated, and it is good to compete with each other, and it is not excluded that you fight for me, and the situation of malicious harm.

The key is to tolerate and communicate with each other, but reluctantly, not everyone is like-minded, regardless of the gains and losses of interests, the mentality is a little flat, their own life and things are low-key, flexible adjustment of mentality, way of thinking and treatment skills, struggle is necessary, otherwise bread and love are not guaranteed, gradually improve and enhance the competitive strength, always remind yourself to be calm and composed, do your best, opportunities will always appear, as for the trust of others, get along well or not, not subjective thoughts can change, so, Everything is fateful, not just divided, waiting for like-minded people to appear.