What should we do if our children are easily scared? Please, 3Q

The upstairs child will be very scared and timid after hearing some sounds, which may be related to the child's auditory sensitivity. It is recommended that parents give their children auditory integration training, which can improve children's auditory sensitivity. Promote the normal filtering of the child's hearing, and of course the child has this phenomenon for more than this reason.

There may be some other reasons, such as: tactile sensitivity, and being frightened in some sound environments; Parents can do more tactile exercises for their children at home, such as: combing hair, towel wiping, soft brushing, etc.; It should also be accompanied by some light ** or nursery rhymes that are acceptable to children, so that children can gradually accept it.

Scared kids? I believe there will be no reason!! What we need to find out is our own problems, and at the same time, we want to ask if we have done a relevant diagnosis for our children.

Maybe it's not that the child is afraid, it's likely that it's something else, and we can't just look at the surface of the problem. It is still necessary to give the child a more comprehensive diagnosis**.

This is the sharing of family education and love in family education.

First of all, we need to know why children are afraid. Find the problem and overcome it with him! The premise is that we have to accept the child's fearful emotions, let him feel that we are protecting him, and with a sense of security, the child may try to touch the things he is afraid of.

We can take the child by the hand and say goodbye to him"It's okay, there's mom here"

When my son was young, because I was alone, he lived in a small mountain village, the transportation was inconvenient, the information was relatively closed, the population was sparse, and the only things I could see every day were mountains, small rivers, chickens, cats, dogs, and pigs! Although life is very happy, but because of less contact with people, the courage is particularly small, to kindergarten, teachers, classmates will blush when he is called, in school unless the teacher takes the initiative to call him, otherwise he never plays with children, see people, unless it is a particularly close relative, will call! Otherwise, ignore it!

Later, I talked to my son for a long time about this question, and asked him why do you ignore people? Don't play with children in kindergarten? Why do you never take the initiative in the classroom to ask the teacher's questions?

He said:"Staring at Mom, I'm scared! "Since then, I often take my child to play in crowded places, and let him shout when I see someone, and gradually become more courageous, and I am not afraid to call people!

He never takes the initiative to ask questions in class, because the teacher is not very good at teaching knowledge in class, and he is afraid that if he makes a mistake, others will laugh at him! After the knowledge reason, every night after school, I will help him re-review all the knowledge he has learned during the day, so that after the knowledge is solid, he is willing to take the initiative to ask the teacher's questions every day! With the improvement of his grades, the students are more and more willing to play with him, and after gradually gaining self-confidence, they also love to go to school and play with children!

1. Parents should lower their posture, listen patiently and understand their psychology.

2. Parents should help their children recognize and understand different emotional responses, and they can do fear imitation games with them face-to-face to enhance their ability to express their feelings and feelings in words. At the same time, parents can help them adjust their emotions and vent their negative effects in an appropriate way. When there is fear, parents should stay by their side in time and soothe their emotions in an appropriate way, such as stroking their heads and patting their backs, so that they can feel safe to the greatest extent.

At the same time, when they have brave behavior, they must be praised in time, and at the same time they should be motivated, so as to increase their self-confidence and gradually eliminate their fear.

3. Parents can try to be more courageous in front of them, or tell inspirational stories and read inspirational articles, which can also help the model to eliminate fear.

Children's timidity, fear, and loneliness cause them to be reluctant to make friends with other children, let alone go to unfamiliar environments, and such abnormal behaviors are called withdrawal behaviors. The formation of withdrawal behavior in children is related to the following factors.

1.The basis of temperament: some children are born with the temperament characteristics of withdrawal, they appear to be afraid and evasive when they first see strangers, new things or new environments, but in fact they still need to interact with people, accept new things and new environments, but enthusiasm starts slowly and requires a long time to adapt.

If there is a lack of encouragement or even blame, the child's gradually formed inner desire will be easily suppressed and form a withdrawal behavior.

2.Parenting style: Some children are too spoiled at home, any requirements are unconditionally met, excessive self-centeredness, poor self-care ability, once into the collective environment is at a loss, especially when the behavior is restricted, criticized by teachers, ridiculed by children, easy to have fear, unwilling to go to kindergarten or school, unwilling to socialize.

Some parents have always been too strict with their children, often blaming their children, lacking self-confidence from an early age, and are prone to withdrawal.

3.Family environment: Some children are affected by their parents' withdrawn personality, lack of contact with the outside world since childhood, have poor adaptability, and do not know how to interact with others.

Some parents often quarrel, fight, and divorce in front of their children, and the conflicts between parents and even make their children angry, making children frightened from an early age, becoming timid, afraid, and withdrawn.

4.Frustration in communication: Some children do not withdraw from the original environment, but after entering a new environment, they cannot be treated fairly due to their own defects (such as obesity, stuttering, etc.) or other reasons (such as going to other places or abroad, language barriers), resulting in a blow to their fragile self-esteem, so they form a withdrawn personality and behavior.

Some unexpected events will also cause Xiaozuo to be hit strongly and cause temporary withdrawal, such as the sudden death of a loved one, his own accident, etc. If you can give him moral support in time, it will be passed quickly, otherwise it will also affect his personality in the future.

Parents should analyze the reasons for their children's timidity

My child is also a little similar, but not as powerful as your child, I am afraid that he will grow up with a strange temper, and now when he encounters his anger and timidity, I can only smile at him, and then say something reasonable, although he himself felt that he understood at the time, but I know that he will be like this again after a day or wait, I really have no other way. He was too strict and fierce to him, and he was afraid that there would be a shadow in the future.

Give him something to eat,,, hug him.