How can you tell the difference between disobedience and schadenfreude?

If it's your true friend and someone who is really good to you, it's probably a bad word. If it's an ordinary relationship, then he may be behind the heart. Whether it is loyal or disobedient or schadenfreude, you can see it from the details.

Maliciously hurting people: In public, you will be embarrassed and unable to get off the stage. Advice against the ear:

Affirm what you do right, and point out what you don't do privately. I have seen a kind of wicked person who is "used to you" whether you are doing right or wrong. If you don't do it right, he will also follow you, cultivate your shortcomings, and let it magnify.

Until one day when he was discovered by himself, it was too late.

In fact, for those who are not willing to help you, they are often gloating, so this is easy to distinguish.

Observe his words and deeds. Look at what the other person says a lot, and then see if the person's actions are consistent with their words. It's what we often call walking the talk. How the person behaves when he is proud, and how he behaves with others and his words and deeds. Performance when frustrated.

Hypocrites have no view of the truth, no firm beliefs. There are two views on people, one set in front of the face, and one set behind the scenes, just like the grass on the wall or duckweed on the water. It is someone who cannot be trusted and reused.

Real people, with the truth and the truth, have firm beliefs, clear concepts, whether they are good or good, whether they are bad or bad, do not hide them, do not blame, dare to do things, their will is unswerving, and their minds remain the same. Like the green pines on the high mountains and the rocks on the top of the mountains, they are trustworthy people who should be reused.

Hypocrisy and real people are still very easy to distinguish, as long as they have worked together, they will see people's hearts for a long time, and they know who is what kind of person they are, but they don't see through it and everyone is a good friend. Saying one thing and doing another, doing one thing to others, and doing one thing to oneself is one of the most typical manifestations of hypocrites. Vanity is worshipping, saying some false and empty words, supporting one's face, and covering up one's shortcomings in some aspects.

From some of the usual contacts to observe who is really good to you, who is hypocritical, although it may not be possible to distinguish very accurately, but at least from the way of life can be observed some feelings The more appropriate life is, the more her nature will be revealed.

In fact, it is difficult to have absolute truth in this world, and we cannot say so, it should be said that truth is always changing. Sometimes the person who loves you is sincere, but sometimes it is hypocritical, when he is angry with you, he still has to smile at you, that is hypocrisy. But friend, if he doesn't care about you, he doesn't have you in his eyes at all, or it seems extravagant.

Some people hate to be pretentious, but they feel very comfortable listening to it. And some people speak very straightforwardly, and they will feel unpleasant after listening to it! , On the surface, hypocritical people are very cute, but in fact, this kind of person is annoying, especially the kind of person who doesn't say anything, which is even more annoying.

Hypocrites will eventually reveal the true face of Lushan.

I think it depends on the tone of a person's voice, as well as their demeanor and the way they look at him.

Looking at the tone and expression of their voices, it is easy to see that people who are really good for you will be very anxious.

Advice against the ear Explanation of the word.

Interpretation. 忠言反耳 zhōngyán-nì ěrgood advice jars on the ear] Faithful advice sounds uncomfortable.

Chinese dictionary. Sincere and upright advice is often harsh and not easily accepted. "Confucius's Family Sayings, Volume 4, Volume 6":

Good medicine is good for the mouth and good for the sick, and good advice is good for the ears and good for the deeds. "Yuan History Volume 168 Biography of Xu Guozhen": Summoning Guozhen into the eyes, the ancestor said:

If you don't listen to you, you will be in trouble. Said to him: The bitter mouth of good medicine is known, and the loyalty is against the ear and the wish to pay attention to it?

The Great Joy of the Ancestors. He also gives advice against the ear.

Near the good medicine bitter mouth.

How do you understand the disobedience of advice?

忠言反耳 zhōng yán nì ěr

synonyms: good medicine bitter mouth, flat theory.

Antonyms: sweet words, flowery words.

Usage: subject-predicate; as a predicate, object, clause; It is often used in combination with good medicine and bitter mouth.

Explanation: Bad ear: not pleasing to the ear. Righteous counsel may sound unpleasant, but it can help to correct shortcomings.

Source: Sima Qian of the Western Han Dynasty "Historical Records: Liuhou Family": "And loyalty is good for deeds, and good medicine is good for disease."

Reverse ear: not pleasing to the ear, not listening.

Faithful counsel sounds uncomfortable.

In reality, advice against the ear is not necessarily conducive to action, because advice against the ear often makes people resistant, and it is more difficult to achieve the goal of correcting shortcomings and mistakes. If the same advice can be expressed in a pleasant way, it will have the effect of doing more with less.

When you go to school, your parents tell you to study hard, and you are in the rebellious period of youth, so you will be loyal to your ears at this time;

After starting a family, your family advises you to drink less and sleep more, but if you like to stay up late, it will also be contrary to your words;

If someone else says something that is beneficial to the listener and thinks about the listener, but the listener feels very annoying and can't listen to it, it is a disobedience.

Advice against the ear: Righteous counsel may not sound good to the ear, but it can help to correct the shortcomings.